moonstar5923

Hey all Feb '09 Bansters... I finally got a definate date and i am stoked... 2/13 ...yea friday the 13th...lol.. i am excited...and scared ... i know what to expect text book wise but i know everyone is different so it's a little nerve wrecking...but i am ready for the change...!! :biggrin:

Yes i get banded in a week... i am soooooo excited...!! Thanks for your blessings... and i will keep you posted on all my club adventures... don't forget my stilletos with that mini...lmaoo... Keep up your good work ... that six pack isn't as far as you may think ... good things happen to good people. I want pics of that six pack in exchange for my club pics.... lol.. it's nice to have the idea and know for once it's not completely impossible... i feel that deep inside... it will happen for both of us... remember anything worth having isn't easy to get... !!!

Well i just read this and yes you totally grabbed my attention...lol.. but i must say this sadly isn't a laughing matter. I am totally on the same page as yourself. I haven't been banded I anxiously wait till 2/13 ... and i am 257lbs. So i definately know what it is to be a "big girl". Now i have experienced this demon face to face. I can't tell you how much in pisses me off to see people critique others for weight. Believe it or not i have seen it go both ways. I have a niece who comes home crying frequently because she wieghs 90lbs and is 20 in college and constantly have people talking trash saying she is "too skinny" and she must have an eating disorder. Now i see this girl act like a trash compactor and she won't gain anything... and then you have me that if i look at it i gain it and i gotta hear the trash talk. Now i consider myself a pretty confident person. I have had guys curse me out and tell me i'm fat because i didn't entertain there advances. I mean it's ironic how i'm cute to try the lame lines on but as soon as i shut you down i get the "well who wants your fat a** anyway"....lmaoo.. I hate it !! i just can't like someone it turns into attack the fat girl. Now there are times when my feelings actually get hurt and i get that stupid lump in the throat and want to smack the flowers out of people. Such as club nights when guys hit on you to make you feel special to just make it a joke amongst themselves and their friends... it totally sucks and i give you tons of kuddos for taking the time out and speaking to the guy..believe it or not you made his day. We all (fat, skinny,and "perfect") have days when we have just had it with society's way of judging us. I believe in the ultimate judgment and thats all !! Every other person is just like me ... and we all have something special about us and if people allow themselves to be limited to who you befriend because of their appearance i pity them. At the end of the day the negativity stems from within you and i hope that everyone reads this blog and learns something that they can pass on. Like you mentioned above tons of people commit suicide because of their weight and how the world views them. Just think if this guy had his last draw with the redicule and was on his way home to do something negative and you just taking the time to see how he was doing and having an HONEST interest in him as a person stopped that from happening. Go YOU !! I wrote alot but this ticks me off... oh and before i forget I have also seen people who have lost alot of weight indulge and critique the obese. I hope no one on this site will EVER do that ... !!! Keep me proud banders and treat people the way you want to be treated... thanks for listening to me ramble.... GREAT BLOG !!

:cool: Hi everyone.... my name is Tanya and i am 28 y/o from N.Y. currently in CT. I am obese i am still not comfortable admitting that...lol...but i'm working on it. I am planning to do my surgery asap. I have done the first portion of exams and now i am currently waiting the appt with the therapist that the insurance needs to approve. I am doing my surgery in westchester ny with Dr. Dominique Artuso. Does anyone know him or have had there procedure with him? Just curious... I am pretty sure that this is the right choice for me but i am constantly seeking information. I feel there's never enough. I am totally glad i found a forum to speak to different ppl that are going through or have been through my current situation. I hope to meet many ppl and i am always glad to get info... i am new to this so if i am doing something wrong please tell me...lol... i'm learning !! ok i guess that's enough rambling for now... till later ...bye ! --tanya

Hi there Jen, wow, it's crazy to hear how long it takes. I am hoping for the new year as well. I am at what i feel is a stand still. I need the mental health clearance and i have been to one and she was so against banding i didn't go back. She was like that she isn't for it, I got pretty annoyed that she was trying to force her opinion on me so i just sat patiently through the 1 hour annoying appt and i never went back. lol.. but i'm doing research trying to find someone that isn't going to try to convince me not to go through with what i feel is very necessary in my life. I have type II diabetes and i recently had back surgery. That's why my pcp recommended lap band. I really hope to have everything done by 2009 so i can celebrate the new year with a new me perspective. If you know of any mental health I can go to i would appreciate the info.... being i'm new over here in CT. I will travel because at this point i might be going into ny for it...lol..I wish you the best and thanks for being the first to actually reply to me. It took me forever to figure out how i write back...lmaoo !:cool: