Oh my gosh! In every way shape and form you just described my own situation! My husband and I were both smaller when we got together. I got up to 250 and he got up to 350. I started talking about the band about 1 year ago and he was super hesitant at first, then he warmed up to it but had no desire to have it himself. Which was fine by me. But he didn't seem to want to change at all! I mean he stops at the store all the time and will come home with like the super size 2 ding dong things, a huge bage of doritos and a toll house cookie icecream and he will eat that all himeself! That is minimal to what he usually eats! I really thought all hope was lost and so I just started focusing on myself. Eating right, going to the gym. I never thought he would change his mind, but all of the sudden he went to the grocery store and came home with all this healthier food and has started eating better! I don't know what happened, I think he is just following my example! Give that a try, or at least keep it up if you are doing it, hopefully he'll come around!!!!