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My most recent pet peeve is... well... ME !!!! For the past 2 weekends I have gained 5 pounds in 2 days. Last weekend I didn't get to the gym on Friday or Saturday. I made poor food choices due to Superbowl party temptations and woke up on Monday morning 5 lbs heavier than I was on Saturday Morning. I had finally gotten to 160 lbs... Only 1 pound from meeting my Valentine's Day challenge goal of entering the 150's. It took me all week to work my way back down to 160, but I did it. By Saturday afternoon, my scale one again read 160 lbs. But Saturday night I attended my friend's Passion Party. I swore I was going to be good so that I wouldn't end up in the same boat as the week before, but 2-3 glasses of red wine later and, smart food choices went right out the window!!!!! I just weighed myself and I'm back up to 164.5 lbs.... ARRGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!! So it looks like I will not be achieving my Valentine's Day goal after all. Hopefully it is a lesson learned though. Why does it take 2 seconds to put on and 2 years to get it off???

Gym Peeves - ~ People who insist on talking on their cell phones while working out - especially when i can hear their conversation over my iPod! ~ Peole who do not spray/wipe down the equipment after using it - GROSS! ~ How my gym advertises its towel service, but I have to wait till after my cardio portion before they are ever out of the damn dryer!!! ~ People who FART on the treadmill repeatedly and refuse to excuse themselves for a bathroom break... If it's just me and you honey, don't you think I know where that God awful stench is coming from??? Stop acting like nothing has happenned. I am about to pass out! ~ People who take extended breaks between their weight sets, get up to walk around, and then get crazed when some unsuspecting person sits down at the machine. - If you're not done - STAY PUT or SHARE!!!

Not to gross you out, but I did have mine the day of surgery. Luckily it was on the lighter side, because I too couldn't wear my panties. I also had to remove all feminine products... Was uncomfortable about it at first, but I wanted to be thin, wasn't gonna let it hold me up if it wasn't gonna stop them!!!!

Me too! In fact, I hate any e-mail asking me to forward it to "X" amount of people. I don't understand how people fall for that nonsense.... "If you don't forward this to 10 people in the next 2 minutes, rats will come out from under your floor boards and nibble your toes off in the middle of the night" Followed by the validation - "This is really true. My sister's friend's father's best friend's babysitter's aunt, only forwarded it to 8 people and she now has to undergo a toe transplant to replace her missing pinky toes, so don't take any chances - forward this immediately!"

I really think this is the key.... EXERCISE... I firmly believe that the major reason I have been successful is that I am at the gym for almost 2 hrs a day 5-7X a week. I HATED it at first, but as time went on, it became somewhat addicting. The mental aspect is a definite plus as well. If I have just been to the gym, I am so much less likely to sabbotage myself with poor choices after kicking my own ass for two hours. When I took a gym hiatus (Thanksgiving - after New Years) my weight loss totally came to a hault. I dreaded getting back into the gym routine nd starting over, but since I forced myself to go regularly, my weight loss has started to pick up once again. It truly has made all the difference. Don't give up, you can do it!!!!

How long has this been happenning? If you suspect it is blood, I would go to an ER immediately to be checked out. Better safe than sorry.

That is awful Riley. I am angry for you. Don't let him discourage you from going back to the class though. When the timing is right, I think you shoudl totally use your bad breath remark!!! OR just step on his toes several times during the next class, hee hee hee

Leaving the door open as a choice is a different story. I know people who keep their dogs in the cage for hours on end - only taking them out for a walk or two a day. My point is, just like with a child, if you don't have the time for them or can't be bothered to take care of them - don't have them. Caged or free, animals thrive on interaction with people. I think it is cruel for them to be left alone for long periods of time on a consistent basis. I grew up with a dog and a cat in my home. Luckily, my family situation was one that afforded someone to be at home with them most of the time though. I would love to get another dog now. I totally miss the companionship animals brought into my home growing up. My husband always tries to talk me into getting a dog. While I would love to, I just can't convince myself we would be able to provide him/her with the best home. We both work. Leaving the house at 6 AM and often not returning until around 6 PM. I personally think that leaving an animal alone for 12 hours a day on a regular basis is unfair to him or her - caged or uncaged, but especially caged.

No pre-op diet for me either. I was only allowed to consume clear liquids 24 hrs before the surgery though.

Another pet peeve (literally) is when people get an animal (dog in particular) and leave it locked up in a cage while they are at work all day or night. I understand not wanting your house to get ruined, but that thought should have entered your mind before the animal became part of your family. Confining your animal for so long is cruel!

I totally agree. If your PCP doesn't know of many favorable results with the band, perhaps she doesn't keep up to date with other advances in medicine... I'd request a new physicians directory from your insurance company... soon! LOL Good luck to you!

Depends on the person. No medical reasons that would make you need to wait (that I know of anyway), Just be mindful. If something hurts or is uncomfortable, ease up or change positions. If you have concerns, stick to the good old missionary position for a while!

I wasn't banded on 1/31, but I too sometimes get sharp pain in my left shoulder. I was told it was gas pain. It doesn't always occur after eating, so who knows for sure....

And I hate when my shows (especially 24, Grey's Anatomy, Despearate Housewives) go on a mini-hiatus in the middle of a season. I can live with a repeat every now and then, but sometimes it feels like every other week is a repeat!!!! ARGHHH

I have a few more to add. With regard to improper speech - I hate when people say 'ax' instead of "ask". A co-worker of mine always has to "ax me a question". I cringe each time I hear it. With regard to parents of my students - Don't get me worng, most are great, but it drives me crazy do be innundated with phone calls right after report cards go home. "Why did you GIVE Johnny a C ? I had no idea he was failing your class." First of all, a "C" is NOT failing. A "C" is an average grade. Second, I did not randomly GIVE Johnny his grade. Johnny's report card reflects the grade he EARNED. And third, the report card should not come as a huge surprise. Every graded assignment was sent home, signed and returned. If you have a concern, please don't wait for report cards to go home. OK - I feel better now!

Quicken or MS Money for managing personal finances?

Some good ones today ladies and gents. Quite a few I am on board with. Please, keep them coming!!!

Jachut - Coctail franks - AWFUL for you... but AWFULLLY tasty (IMO). <<shame>>:kiss

I too went through some of the same things you are facing. When I initially decided to have surgery, it was LapBand and LapBand only. After I met with surgeon #1, however, I changed my mind to the RNY. I didn't want to lose it quicker, I was just afraid to have the LapBand, and not lose all the weight I intended to. I never liked the idea of the rerouting my insides or dealing with malabsorption, but I was just so afraid of choosing the less aggressive approach and failing. After visiting with 2 more surgeons and the psychiatrist (psych. eval.) I was swayed back to my initial choice of the lapband. They felt that it would be a better option for me, especially because I am not done having my babies (God willing of course). They also believed that because I was not a big consumer of liquid calories - ice cream, regular soda, juice, etc., The band should work well for me if I was willing to do my part. They were very clear that food choice would play a huge part in my success with the band, but assured me that the same was true of RNY patients for longterm success. While they may lose rapidly initially, if they do not make lifestyle changes as well, the weight WILL come back. I know someone who regained all 200+ pounds after an RNY, so I knew they weren't BSing me. While I recommitted to the LapBand, I still had doubts leading up to my surgery date. I sobbed on the OR table, wondering if I picked the right surgery. And yes, I was hungry soon after surgery (pre-fill), so I even doubted my decision until my fills started to take. But in the big weight loss picture , what is a few additional weeks of hunger when you have your whole life ahead of you? Worth the trade off in my opinion. And let me assure you... after my 2nd fill (the magical one), it has been relatively smooth sailing for me ever since (Thankfully. Whatever you decide, good luck to you. Keep us posted.

People who walk up to a counter and act like they are next. Do you not see the other people standing around? Would it hurt you to at least ask if the other people are being taken care of before you swoop in???? SO RUDE!!!!:confused:

Thanks SUsan. I actually bought it (Quicken) today. I must admit, I am a bit confused. I'm having trouble editing the income and bills I initially set up though. I guess it will just take some time to figure it out!!!

AWWWWWWWWWWWW so cute. Makes me want to start on #2!!! CONGRATULATIONS

I haven't had any problems with my PC (Dell). I bought it in 2001 and so far so good. I have a lot of space dedicated to digital imaging and video, and haven't noticed any slow down. I have been quite happy with my PC. DOn't have anything bad to say about Mac's though - I've never owned one! Good luck!

While clearing out space on my computer, I came across a partial draft of an e-mail I sent to my mother and mother-in-law explaining my decision to research and have WLS. I know many of you out there can relate. It was written in April of 06. My surgery took place in July 06 and to date I have lost 70 lbs. :confused: I hope I never return to the place I was in when I wrote this letter... ----------------------------------------------------------------------- I am writing to help explain my decision to investigate and most likely have weight loss surgery and hopefully help you to understand why. I know you do not think it is a good idea and you are not in favor of me doing something so drastic to lose weight. To ask me 2 or more years ago if I would consider something like this and I would have, without reservation, said no. But in those two years a lot has changed for me. And unless you have walked in my shoes, it is probably difficult to understand. <O:p</O:pFor as long as I can remember, my weight has been a concern/issue for me. Even before I was "fat", I was aware of my weight in relationship to my friends, family, strangers, etc. While I was never the fattest girl in the room, I was never the thinnest either. And that didn't bother me - I never strived to be a Victoria Secret Model, nor do I wish to become one at this stage in my life. In high school I was able to keep my weight in check playing 3 sports a year. While I was encouraged to drop a few pounds by my coaches, my weight never affected my ability to play, enjoy or excel at sports. I had a large social group of friends. I was outgoing and loved to participate in outdoor activities like hiking, roller blading, skiing, swimming, etc. While my weight was something that entered my mind from time to time, my self-image was in check and being a few pounds overweight didn't change that.<O:p <O:p By the time college came around, I became a little more self conscious about my weight. I can remember driving myself to my first soccer practice for wondering if I would be the heaviest person on the team. To my relief I wasn't, but no longer playing basketball, I packed on the pounds during the off-season between soccer and softball. Without the pressure of a coach forcing me to exercise, the pounds crept up. I was able to take it off the summer going into my sophomore year though. I had heard about the new soccer coach, and how much he loved to make us run, so I starved myself and ran every day until I lost the weight. After getting injured in a soccer game, and being unable to return and play at the same level before my injury, I quit soccer my junior year and now only played softball - getting even less exercise than before. The weight came back once again, plus 20 or so more. <O:p</O:pBy the end of college, my weight had become a bigger concern for me. I began a series of diets and exercise programs, and never once reached my goal weight. I would "fall off the wagon" so to speak and be right back where I started from, plus a few more. This pattern has been going on for over 10 years now. I diet for a few weeks and then something comes up where the temptation is too great and before I know it I am so far gone that I end up feeling hopeless. Time goes by and I summon the courage to start yet another diet... lose a few pounds... then gain it all back plus some Everyone says, “but you lost so much weight for your wedding. You can do it again.” Before we got married, yes, I did lose 30 pounds on Weight Watchers. I began in May of 2000 and by November 2000 I had lost 30 or so pounds. Then Thanksgiving came... I "took a break" - you know, to reward myself for doing so well... and I never started up again before the wedding. I guess I kept rationalizing that in November of 2000 I still had 11 months to "get back on track". I mean after all it would be the most important day in my life to date. I couldn't fail, right? I knew so many girls who lost 50, 60, 70 lbs for their wedding. I would do it too.... But I didn't. Whether you realize it or not, when I took my "break" Thanksgiving 2000... I never got back on track and had actually regained 20 of the 30 lbs I lost. <O:p What none of you know is that when I walked down the aisle, the happiest day of my life was bitter sweet. I never told anybody, but a significant part of me felt like a huge failure. I didn't achieve a very important goal for myself, even with my own wedding as my motivation. <O:p Since then, my weight has yo-yoed several times. I have joined gyms, rejoined weight watchers a dozen times, taken diet pills, tried other diet programs, and fail each and every time. I lose a few pounds and then gain it pack plus 10 more or so. Each failed attempt leaves me feeling, frustrated, depressed, and worthless. <O:p For the past 2 years, things have steadily gotten worse. I have episodes of depression where I just want to stay in bed. I don't want to attend social functions because I feel like anyone who sees me is thinking "Oh my God, look how fat she has gotten." I don't participate in the things I used to enjoy. I haven't been skiing in 3 years because I am afraid I will break my skis. I won't go to the beach because I don't want to put on a bathing suit. Hiking is out of the question considering I get winded walking up a single flight of stairs. I am so tired of battling with my weight. I am 31 years old and I am cocooning into myself. I have an amazing husband and a beautiful daughter who deserve more than I am able to give them right now. <O:p Hubby works 2 jobs and goes to school. When he gets home he should at least be able to come home to a clean house and dinner on the table, but the truth is, I am usually too tired to do that. I am ready for a nap by the time I get home from work and if the baby will go down for one, I am embarrassed to admit, I will too. If she is not ready for a nap, I have limited energy left to devote to her. It is difficult for me to get on the floor and play with her. She deserves better than that. I don't want to be a lazy mom. I know deep down that is not who I am and I hate myself for letting myself become this way There is no question that I have to lose weight. But I truly do not have it in me. I am almost 100 lbs overweight and I can't believe I let myself get this way. I am tired of feeling like a failure. My life feels like it is spinning out of control. Honestly, if it weren't for hubby and baby and their unconditional love for me, I truly think I would just give up. I feel disgusting and worthless. I cry at least once each and every day. Every so often hubby catches me and I feel awful for making him see me like that. I can see it hurts him and I hate that. I try to keep it inside as best I can, as long as I can, but with each pound it becomes more difficult. I keep on a happy face at work, but even there I am becoming more introverted. I no longer leave my room to eat lunch. I don't want anyone to see me eating. While it may sound ridiculous, I constantly wonder what people must be thinking of me when they see the "fat girl" eating something. Even if it is something healthy. <O:p I am not looking to do this for an easy way out. It is, in my opinion, my only way out. My last chance for a life worth living the way I want to live it.

Good for you Melissa! I'm so glad your mom's reaction was a supportive one. I bet if you knew it ahead of time you would have told her sooner! You could have saved yourself days/weeks of stress. If we only had a crystal ball, right??? How has the process been going for you otherwise? Any new developments? Keep us posted. Becca - What a great band date. Best Valentine's Day gift you can give yourself IMO. Good luck to you!