I feel where you are coming from,keeping it quiet for now. Only certain people will know. Sometimes people,even people who care about you ,have a way of making you feel bad about your decision. My best friend will be right by my side and later after the surgery,I will decide who shall know.
That's the main reason I joined this site since I'm not really telling many people,I need to interact with others in the same boat as me,who will get where I'm coming from.
Lili