To tell or not to tell?!?
I was wondering what most of you are doing about telling people prior to surgery.
At first I wasnt going to tell many people. But, then I decided that it was easier to be open and honest about it at work. I figured if I told anyone, then everyone else would "hear threw the grapevine". So, I wanted everyone to hear from me personally and then any questions they had I could answer directly.
I wanted to share with you that I have and did want to tell everyone before I did it. But I only told my mother, husband, sister who is easily over 100 lbs bigger than me and a close nurse friend. Of course my sister was the worst about it and beyond negative. In fact I didn't tell her until two days after as she kept asking my mother where was I. I called her up and told her one negative thing and the phone was hanging up.
I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW GLAD I AM THAT I DID NOT DISCUSS THIS AT WORK.
WHY YOU ASK? WHY HIDE IT OR WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL IT?
Because it has been so much less stressful and easier to go through the first two months. Where I went you didn't get a fill during the operation. I initially lost maybe 6-8 lbs then 14 lbs. Then within three weeks I was back up to within 8 lbs of my surgery weight and very upset. I called my doctor went for a fill within four weeks of surgery and then lost a total of 19 lbs. I got the fill five days before christmas and got through all the holidays with great ease.
Now I am frustrated again as I feel no restriction and as if I never got a fill. So, today I started researching it and found that you can lose your fill and some people have to redo their fills like every 3-4 weeks as they lose the saline. Thank God for this website. Whenever I have an issue I go on here and find the answer.
So, now I will set up for another fill and this tme as for a sticky fill so it sticks.
My whole point to this is I don't have to EXPLAIN to anyone what is going on or my false starts or waste my energy on every up and down with people who don't u/stnd nor would they care except to stare and judge how fast or slow I was losing. It is wonderful to go through this only talking to bandsters and people who are going through it.
Why should you waste your time trying to talk to skinny people who aren't going to comprehend the ups and downs. Let me tell you when the fill isn't working the will power to not eat more is so hard. The band is a tool and it works. But if I have to get a fill every 3 weeks I will. It works so well when it is working.
Another thing I learned is that I wait at the minimum 3 hrs after eating before I drink anything. Wow! What a difference it makes on not getting hungry even with a good fill.
Sorry for the book!. I am SO GLAD I DIDN"T TELL EVERYONE AS I CAN KEEP FOCUSED ON WORK AND NOT MAKING THE DAILY TOPIC OF EVERYONE STARING AT ME AS I GO THROUGH THIS WONDERFUL NEW JOURNEY. IT"S MY EXPERIENCE NOT THEIRS.