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Hello everyone. This is my first time posting, but I have been lurking around and I want to say to everyone that has the sleeve congratulations, because you are an inspiration. I have been wanting the wls ever since 2008 and have been procrastinatiing and thinking I can do it on my own, well I CAN"T LOL. I went to my first orientation at Richmond Kaiser in 08 wanting to get the band, but after reading that it is a slow weightloss and that some has issues I changed my mind. My husband does not want me to get it because he claim he love me the way I am, but also tells me what I can do to fix myself up so that I will not have surgery (yeah right). I know what I want and I know that I have treid every diet there is and I failed at it. I am at work right now on my break, I drive a school bus so I have a split shift which leaves me nothing but time on my hands. I am getting depressed because all I can think about is eating and what I want to eat. I pack a lunch everyday and I hve tried the 1200 cal meal plan, but when it close to the middle of the month I run out of food and money for what I need. I want this so bad but I can't get fattening off my mind. I do not want to fail with having the sleeve, I want to finally succeed and get healthy for MYSELF. I just reinstated into the program and the nutritionist told me that I have to have two weight checks then call her to have a review orientaion. I have already seen the psychologist, my last weight in 2009 was 289 and November 2010 was 267. I feel as if I have gained since my last weigh in and am scared to have second weight check in December. I am sorry for ranting and raving, but I just had vent.

Thank you BZButterfly79. I'm going to go and read your post now. My post has turned out to be a response for Josey lmao. But thank you for the individuals that has responded.

All I can say is WOW to Josey. I hope everything get better for you in time. I know that everyone is different and have their ups and downs and some just have ups and never feel bad about their life change because they would not have been able to do it without the tool that they have now to help them achieve their goal, but WOW I never expected that. Please keep me posted.

Hello, I am looking into have the sleeve. I have been lurking around for quite sometime now. I posted to the Richmond Kaiser lapbandtalk forum back in 2008, but stop posting and just reading everyone's post and to see how the band was working for them. I had my orientaion back in November of 08 and psych appt Jan 09, she wanted me to attend the health calss which I did and aslo the stress class. I just reinstated back into the program and have already seen the psych, so they referred me to the nutritionist and she wants me to have two weight checks, one in November and one in December and then call her to go to the review orientation. My last weight check was back in 09 and I was 289 and this November I was 267, but I know I have gained a few pounds since then. Well I see what happens after my December weight check to what's my next step. Would like to get banded before my birthday in July, also my hubby don't want to have the wls, oh well I am doing this for me to make me happy. TTYL

Although I been following along with the post I have not posted in quite some time. I am again for the third tme trying to get my motivation up to lose. This is a big decision and a scary one although it will benefit me in the long run and to just think where I would have been if only I can get in my thick skull that this is a lifestyle change for the better. My husband still disgrees with having wls because he has no clue what I am going through. He has never been fat, and always say he love me the way I am. He is just used to me being big and he's comfortable with it. After the orientation they suggest you start the 1200 cal diet. My question is, after you start the 1200 cal diet and lose a bit of weight and preceed to the surgeon are you requested to lose weight from the surgeon? Also did anyone stick to 1200 cal diet or did you modify it to work for you?

I haven't posted in a very long time to the boards because I am having a hard time losing the weight I need to get to the next stage. It only my fault for not doing what I need to do. Another reason is that my husband says he loves my body just the way it is and that he does not want me to have surgury at all to lose weight. My husband does not need to lose a pound and he rides his bike to and from work which I wsh I could do. I am at 284 lbs and still want to be at least 190 and it has been hard for me to do it alone. I also think that my husband will not like the attention I will get from other men. He does not support me getting the surgery. I am still confused and don't know what to do. I have read everyone's post and see that you all are doing good with the band and the weightloss and just think of where I could have been when I first went to my orientation in 2007 and here it is 2009:cursing:. My first orientation was in 2007, I had to attend another one in 2008.

I saw Dr. Zimmerman today. I figured it would not go well because I was up at least 2lbs. She did not want to schedule a Dr. appt today until I lose a few she said, which I am okay with because I do not want go forward and have not made any accomplishments. I will try my best to put my best foot forward and eat right and excercise. There were two other individuals there that saw the psych and they lost weight and one that I know of got her Dr appt set for tomorrow. Well I am going to continue on my journey to lose weight.

So tomorrow is the day I finally go to the psych appt.:thumbup: I am having thoughts of backing out of this because I don't know if I can deal with how drastic this surgery is. I know and understand the benefits of it and I also know and understand to cons and I am getting scared. I already can not lose on my own and have a hard time trying to lose 10% of my weight and just don't know if I can do it. I am sorry for ranting on, but I know that all of you will be supportive. First off my husband do not approve of it because he don't surgeries and I haven't told him about any of this. This is a life change and it is a drastic one. I am not going to stop like I did the last time which was over a year ago. I am going to keep going to my appoinments and make my decision as I go along. What a decision. I thought I had my mind made up :tongue2: :eek:

Ther are alot of pros and cons with both. When I first thaught of getting WLS I thought of the lap band because it was reversable, in and out of the hospital and slower weightloss, those were my three reasons but then when I thought of GB I thought of how they re-route my stomach the dumping syndrone and all the bad stuff that comes along with it and when I started to research more and know that I do not have any willpower and how much I love sweets as well as knowing once I have the GB there will not be any fills, a port or a band around my stomach is when I figured the GB will be best for me. Once I have the surgery I don not want them to have any reason to go back and do any surgery because of slippage, leaking and any other association due to the band. One of my co-workers had RNY last October I believe and he has difficulties because of his eating habits. It will be a long haul for any surgey. We all have our reasons why we choose to go with one or the other and that is why I love the boards because I can vent and get informed by others and what they think or how they feel.

I totally agree. We all do it because of what we decide is best for ourselves. I have researched for a while now and my cousin had RNY in July and she is doing well. I think the band would be too much for me to handle, I really don't want to have to deal with the port and fills in my life, I also decided that I did not want the band which is a foreign object around my stomach for the rest of my life. This is really a big decision altogether for me. But if I were to have it, it will be the gastric. I am also a sweet and carb lover and can't seem to control cravings. I need restrictions.

What was your decision based on. I have been thinking that RNY would be best for me because of personal reasons.

They never called me. When is your appt?

My appt changed from December 30th to January 6th.

When I read that one of the psych's were going to be out I decided to take a looke at my appts online. Thank goodness I did. it was no longer there and I called the next day and was told that one of them will not be in on that day so they gave me January 6th. I was not trying to take off work because I just started a new job. I am going to call Monday to see if they will have one during the Christmas break because I will be off for two weekswith the school district. That's a bummer.:rolleyes2:

I want to ask a stupid question. How do you do it? Stay on the 1200 cal diet. I have looked at the diet and it seems as if I might fail at it too. I know I haven't gave myself a chance, but I get sick if I don't eat in between meals. I am not sure if it's the BC's or what. I felt the same way when I was pregnant. What do you suggest to stick with it? And what are some of the foods you eat? I am assuming that it is fulfilling and you are satisfied after a meal, but every four hours is a bit spaced a part.

I went to my orientation November 11 at Richmond Kaiser. My next appt is December 30 to see the psych. I have not started my diet yet because I read on the board somewhere to wait until I see the doctor. I was going to email one of the Drs. to find out if I should start now or what. Have you heard anything different?

OMG, I have the problem with the support from my husband and that is only because he do not like surgeries. He don't even like needles. He think I can do it on my own, but his a** aint fat at all and dno't understand what I am going throuhg being this heavy.:rolleyes2: H think that I can do on my own and that is so false cause if I could I would be the size I want to be. I posted a thread about my non-supportive husband and ideas I could use about having the LB. LOL

So I went to my orientation this past week end and have my appoint for the psyc December 30. Is this the time to start the diet? Or when should I start. I don't really remember them stating when we should start. Does anyone have an idea?

I am scheduled to go the orientation November 11. I called my doctor this week to get another referal because I did not go through with the last referal because I was sceptical, and that was last year for the first referal. I have waisted over a year procrastinating. Anyway back to the orientation. After I called my doctor for the referal I got a call the next day for me to choose my date for the orientation. The day after that I got a call from my doctor's office stating that she already scheduled my blood work and for me to go have it done asap. I am going to Richmond, CA Kaiser and this is all through Medi-cal. What's next?

How did you lose the required weight? What was you method?

I just called my doctor in Oaklnd Kaiser to get another referrel for Richmond Kaiser and they called me the next day to schedule my orientation.

That's is a good idea.

I was talking about my cousin that is trying to talk me out of it, but when you mentioned your husband, I was like my husband don't want me to have it either, but he want me healthy. He knows that I have tried everything and waisted a lot money and he does not want me to have surgery. He said he don't want anything to happen to me. I understand his concern, but I am healthy otherwise. I do not have diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure or anything like that and I don not smoke, drink occasionally, but other than that I am healty, I just want to do this for me, because I failed at everything else.

Hello everyone, I had a long talk with my cousin and she think that I can lose weight on my own. She said I move around a lot but I make the wrong choices with food. I went to Jenny Craig and weighed in at 278.8. I am averaging about a pound a week, I am losing weight but it is not enough. I do not want a quick fix, I just want to finally lose weight. I want to be under 190, not for sure yet. She also has a friend that has the labband and had difficulty with it and she had to be hospitilized, I am not for sure why, but she is scared for me to get it. She said that her freind is not as happy as she was before she got and sort of regret it. What do you think?