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:thumbup:To day I got my first fill in my band (that felt wired) being back on liquids makes me feel like I am starting over with the whole band process. This is not a bad thing I have lost some weight but now I feel like it is going to kick in and start earning its worth {man I hope so} I know this is all a process and not going to happen over night but it would be nice to actually see some more pronounced results. I have been in the Gym and drinking my water. But I still have been not so good at not eating when I get stressed (stress eater at your service, some people get mad others break things me I just shove food down my gullet till all is well. I need a better release for my tension. Or at least a lot of zero calorie or high protein snacks) Well I will be tracking my progress as I go so hang in there and we will get through this together.

Overreact? Maybe. But you were right to feel uncomfortable about the whole porn issue. If he feels he needs to bring that into the picture with out involving you in the process this shows trust and intimacy issues. If you and he used something like that to spice things up a little I don’t think that would be a problem but the fact he had it hidden in the car in a nondescript bag tells me he doesn’t feel comfortable about some aspect of your sexual relationship. If he wasn’t hiding this like a 15 year old I would not think this but when in a relationship intimate things like this become secrets or get hidden this shows a serious lack of trust and can only be exacerbated by the shredding of the evidence. My honest opinion is to bring it up in a non accusatory manor and see if you can’t get to the bottom of the necessity of the porn. Don’t get me wrong I am all for spice in a relationship but when you spice things up and leave the partner out of the loop you are not far from looking outside of the relationship for the spice (Infidelity) if you catch my drift. Heck for that matter Two can play that game just for giggles replace his porn with alternate gender porn instead of hot chicks see how he feels about a bag full overly well hung studs in his car. Just tell him that if he wants to spice things up a little it might as well be something you can enjoy also. Or just keep shredding things and ignore the whole thing.

:thumbup:To day I got my first fill in my band (that felt wired) being back on liquids makes me feel like I am starting over with the whole band process. This is not a bad thing I have lost some weight but now I feel like it is going to kick in and start earning its worth {man I hope so} I know this is all a process and not going to happen over night but it would be nice to actually see some more pronounced results. I have been in the Gym and drinking my water. But I still have been not so good at not eating when I get stressed (stress eater at your service, some people get mad others break things me I just shove food down my gullet till all is well. I need a better release for my tension. Or at least a lot of zero calorie or high protein snacks) Well I will be tracking my progress as I go so hang in there and we will get through this together.:cool:

Hi every one I am in Clarksville , Indiana. I had my lapband done at Clark Memorial. I was impressed with how well I was taken care of. The nursing staff was unbelievably nice. Note to mention some of them were hotties. Hope every one is doing well hope to chat with every one.

Since the sergery things have been wiered to say the least I have for the most part been losing weight but the week that I start eating regular food I gain weight. I know right. Gained weight? WTH? I have been in the gym busting my tail, I only eat till i am satisfied and I try to make good choices it is kind of hard to deal with but I Soldier on the best I can. I have met some one and things seem to be going great. She is supportive of my band and she treets me great I just wish I could figure out what was the deal with the weight gain it really bothers me to think I am gaining weight after the sergery. Guess I need to watch my self a little better(LOL)

:angry_smile: Rock on I just found out that I have a blog now for me to share my feelings. As this is the first entry in my blog it is only fair to warn everyone I dont spell worth a crap and I dont mix words if i feel it I say it. Not every one is going to like what I have to say but the point of a blog is not to impress you but for me to jot down my feelings.:cursing:

:mad2: Rock on I just found out that I have a blog now for me to share my feelings. As this is the first entry in my blog it is only fair to warn everyone I dont spell worth a crap and I dont mix words if i feel it I say it. Not every one is going to like what I have to say but the point of a blog is not to impress you but for me to jot down my feelings.:wub:

Does anyone have discomfort with the port mine is less painful and more annoying. It is like it cramps up or something (LOL). Has any one had a problem with this it would be interesting to find out if anyone has had similar deals.

Hi every one!!! I have been away but now I am back. I hope to chat with every one and see how every one is doing.

Hi every one I had my surgery on 10/1/08. I am glad to find a place that I can talk about it with people that understand how i feel.