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I have a cousin, a first cousin I am very close to, she had several miscarriages, and then without issue carried a daughter to term 4.5 years ago. Soon after that she was diagnosed with MS, she tried very hard to have another child right after the DX, but without luck. Years went by, she turned 40, and they changed her MS meds, and her body went kinda wacky for awhile.....and just last month she delivered healthy twins!!! The boy was 6 pounds 11 ounces, and the girl 5 pounds and 13 ounces!!! She never had a bit of problems! It is so strange how our bodies work! Good Luck Rod!!!

G4e---is your disc ruptured or herniated? Treatment will differ depending. And if it is ruptured, how are they watching the fragments? Especially if your back is being manipulated? I have a hernation of L4, L5 at S1----and even with it just (said EXTREMELY sarcastically) being herniated, they watched it very closely during my PT, because if it ruptured, the disc fragments need to be dealt with differently. Was back to work for me today.....9 days off, made me not want to go back!! KC---send me your gory story too!!! I want in on the ick! Our patients are usually not too gross, the occasional gore, but rare.....which I guess is really good if you are the patients!! Lu, glad you got your unfill quickly, and that they took it seriously as opposed to putting you off for days as so many seem to do these days. My Dr. always tells me to head his way and call when I get there! He is 6 hours away and has met me everytime. Pretty impressive since he was not my surgeon! he was going to be, but insurance was a PITA (suprise!!!). But it is nice to know they are on top of things when you feel a problem. Hope you are back to good soon. Back years ago when I worked in a hospital setting in the radiology dept. there was a huge following of what the wierdest thing found in body cavities was!!! Loved the crack pipe reasoning tho. You know (along those lines) why they call a roach clip a roach clip doncha???? The word pot holder was already taken! Well it is time to hit the shower and head to bed, it is back to it tomorrow. See ya tomorrow!

It was back to work for me today----was ok. Busy as all get out. Schedule is packed tight all week long, it is crazy! Not sure what the reason is, it is too early for the last minute "back to school" calls for the kids the letters were sent out for when school let out---that they needed eye exams.....those parents wait til the week school starts I am told!!! We had one family in today, and the youngest son was 10----and he smelled sooo bad, it was awful, it was like an adult poopy diaper. He smelled like poop----he looked clean, his hair was long, really long--middle of the back long, and shiny his nails were clean, but he reeked. Made me sad for him. Some threads here on LBT where they trash talk other WLS's go on about how DS patients smell that way----made me wonder if there was a physical reason this child smelled, and made me feel bad for him, he is bound to get comments from other kids if this is his norm. Was strange. My friend who died, his family had him cremated, and are not holding services. He only had a sister and a brother left living. He had lost his parents and a brother all in the last 5 years. The remaining siblings, opted not to have services.....it feels so unfinished. I think it is because I knew the brother very well (as in dated) and I don't think he changed much, so has no morals to this day! And the sister, is rather anti social. I guess I feel bad that there is not prayers being said over his remains. I mean I prayed for him, and I pray his son is going to be ok----but it feels empty. He deserved better, he was a good man. Made a pot of green chile stew yesterday, and it got hotter as it sat, and now my pouch is steaming. I am not sick feeling like PB'ing---and I almost wish I was, I wish it would move----up or down, but this sitting is not working for me! Tracy, hope they figure out your sores soon. Have they checked to see if it is impatago? That is pretty hard to clear up I understand, and the area you say it is, is pretty common for it. One of my kids (as in daycare) used to deal with it a lot---and it was recurring like you are talking about. I cannot remember if it was a staph infection or a strep infection of the upper skin layers----but it is contagious, and yours apparantly has not been given to your family.....hope it goes away soon. It has to wear on you emotionally. Deal with one thing at a time, get rid of it, and then get busy with the weight. It will all fall into place....you just gotta take it a step at a time. Feel free to flip me off or go pbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbt at me now for spouting feel good words!! Jane......I have sinned. I cut my own hair!!! OMG I did!!! Not a lot just inches off the bottom, and kind of re-layered it. I called and Lori just had surgery and was going tobe out for another 2 weeks, and I could not stand the scraggly ends!!! I sure wish you were closer! Pamela----if I shop at our local Safeway I am a bitch from the minute I enter the store til I drive away!! The store always smells of fresh baked bread, or chocolate cake, or fried chicken.....something yummy. And I do my best to ignore it, and it makes me mad!!! BUT if I go into the Albertsons it smells bad!!! LOL, it really does, the seafood smell is yucky! But it keeps me ready to get out of the store, and does not entice me with yummy smells!! Sounds wierd, but it is true! One of Rick's employees is in the hospital so we went by there tonight. He has a pinched nerve and it has him in traction. Speaking of Michelle, have you ever had sciatic pain? It goes through my hip into my butt cheek, down my leg, all the way to my foot. Keeps my leg feeling kind of numb, yet hypersensitive at the same time. I do stretches EVERY day that I learned in PT for the Sciatic pain. It is serious, we refer to it as my psychotic nerve rather than the sciatic nerve---because I get psycho when it hurts! I have a herniated disc at the L4 L5 (Lumbar) level --S1 (Sciatic 1). Hope it gets better. Hey everyone else, gotta hit the shower. See ya tomorrow! ((((hugs))))

Can you tell me where you got this information? I am not trying to dispute it, but to discuss it, I would just like to know if it comes from a reputable source. The reason I ask, and up front let me say I do not remember exactly which nightline type program it was or how long ago it was on, I just remember them showing where translations of the bible have gone awry, and showing where statements would have been impossible for the times. I wish in hindsight, and not because of this thread, but for my own curiosity, I would have paid more attention at the time.

Well Haydee, I would likely be a lot hotter over it, if it was our only day. As it is, this is the last day and we have had the last week. We spent part of it away from the family completely. So, I am letting it go. He really is between a rock and a hard place with this kind of thing. They are elderly, and cannot handle some things, and he loves them, and wants to help. He also wants to keep peace at home, and I know he loves me, and would prefer to be snuggled up at a movie with me that in the hot sun (100+ degrees) messing with the pump. But.......we have lots of years ahead of us (God willing) to go to movies, and him helping his parents is the right thing to do......but yeah, there are times it really gets to me!! LOL I love trying to be kind and giving, but there are days I just can't be!!! I think right now it is grating on my nerves, because he just did their car, and she did not even feed him a sandwich! Today they had to go to town to get some electrical wire, so he took my FIL and our grandson with him, and Connor saw Taco Bell and wanted to go, so Rick drove thru----and when his Dad said "let me pay for this" Rick said he let him!!! It is a hard place to be in, and we all end up there at one point or another----I try really hard to put myself in Rick's shoes, and behave accordingly. Which translated means, I do not bitch or whine at him.....I either come to y'all or call Becky!!!!

Hey y'all! DH and I spent the weekend at a motorcycle rally, and had a great time. When we go to rallies, I ride with him, not comfortable on my own amongst all the bikes, and at the super slow crawl speed through it all. It amazed me, how much room we have on the bike! He used to use me as a backrest it seemed, now there is air space for circulation between us!! YAY!! Ebony---excellent way to handle your situation. The fact that your BB is distracted might well be mentioned in your written statement. Just another case to prove the need to document EVERYTHING when it begins! And to be honest, we all spend enough time on our computers to document a quick "what happen" and store it, because when it comes down to it, you never know when it will be needed! I sometimes think I would like to be able to run....but I have no reason to believe I would like it anymore than I did as a kid in PE!!! I have a tumor in my fibula---the small shin bone---and have restrictions on activity due to it, as it comprises most of the diameter of the bone in the area---so breaking it would be very easy, and no one is sure what that would do to the tumor. It is stable and unchanging now, and they prefer it that way. Zucchini----had it with dinner last night. We diced it in about 1" cubes, along with yellow squash, and sauteed it with onion and green chile, and then topped it with cheese. We also dice it, and toss it is a corn meal flour mixture like you would okra and fry it! I agree, I only use the real things!! Regular mayonnaise, butter, whole milk, real bacon, eggs in a shell - not a box!!! We used to make a Pasta dish with angel hair pasta, where you brown the butter, in a saute pan, then add the al dente pasta, and coat it with the browned butter, and then add a generous amount of cheese, we used mazythra cheese, but you could use fresh grated parmesan as well. Toss some fresh chopped herbs and it was heavenly. Pasta is such a fickle thing for me now, we seldom have it! I can eat it, but only about 1/4 of a cup----very slowly. It feels like it keeps growing in my pouch! Probably a good thing actually!!! My DIL went to the Dr. and the baby has dropped, and his head is engaged, looks like my newest grandson will be here soon!!! They have a 3 year old, and he is in for one heck of an adjustment. Poor sweetie, they have been very lax in training him, as far as discipline goes, and she is going to have her hands full, as my son works lots of hours, while she is a SAHM. Granny here will help out as I can!! Better get some unpacking done....camping leaves EVERYTHING dirty!!!

The multiple times and ways it has been translated and passed on, alone make me wonder how much has been changed, or was translated to mean something totally different? Haven't we all played the game where you sit in a circle and whisper in the persons ear to your left something and then they pass it on, until it makes the circle and you see how it changes. What makes this any different? And just the language even, I have heard some hilarious translations of things from one language into another. Would the world be better off if we ALL lived by the bible--very likely but a Utopia I don't think so. Just my opinion. And to expect all different people of the world to accept "our" translation of a book and expect them to live by it is surely as ridiculous to them, as to expect us to live by their beliefs to their Gods.

I agree totally Haydee. I know personally a HUGE light went on when Terry sent me a thing about forgiveness when Rick and I were fighting, and still to this day I try to work within those bounds, that to love him, is to love him in spite of his way of dealing with things---and forcing him to deal with his emotions my way was pushing us apart for longer periods of time. When we argue which is seldom, but when it happens, I want to talk it to death, and have it final right NOW! He thinks things through, he does not say things in the heat of the moment (like I do that I later must apologize for....)and when he makes a conclusion that you are right or he feels a need to tell you WHY he said or chose to do something he does it...but it can be days! He does not however hold grudges during that time. It is still alien to me! After all these years! He was the same way with the kids! He would tell them NO they could not do something, and if they argued with him, he would seriously think it through. Me on the other hand, it was..."argue with ME??? How dare you! You will never do anything again!!!" LOL We are very opposite in many ways, but also very much alike in our dreams and goals, and in most of the ways we hoped to acheive those. Tracy, I know going into a 2nd marriage where kids are involved is VERY difficult! Blending a family especially if you are not on the same page is really hard. My DD is a case in point. She is dealing with the same issues. Said she thinks she will totally quit dating men with children! I told her what if men quit dating women with kids, that knocks you out!!! She told me I just didn't get it! That Rick was always more than fair with her, and she never felt like there was competition, but that most men are not that way. There is a definite difference in the way the kids are treated, and what is allowed to be done. She said she HATES it! She hates putting Kinsey at risk for her. I remember you talking many months ago about how Robbie was being done. I am so sorry it has come to this. Hang in there, and look out for you and your son, do what needs to be done. There are worse things in this world than being divorced again---and when remaining in the situation becomes one of those worse things---then it is time to find some help and take care of YOU. Rick is at his folks working on a pump. I took this extra day off to spend with him on his vacation, and he is out there.....grrrrrr!!! I went to my folks as well and helped Dad order some things online, and helped Mom set up her prayer list on the computer--now if she can figure it out---all will be well!!! Big IF!!! Love them to pieces but they are not electronically gifted, and the genes they passed on are not either! Guess I will go change out the laundry, it is not one of those fancy ones that switches it for you!!!

Judy I am so sorry for you, and the boys family and friends, it is so hard when they are so young. When you remember Judy's former student, please also include the family of Danny Patrick in your prayers. He has been my friend since 6th grade. Was one of my first big crushes, and has been a dear friend ever since, and he died of a massive heart attack over the weekend, we just found out. Makes me so sad. His voice and mannerisms are so clear in my mind, I cannot imagine them gone. He left behind a young son. Just got out of the shower. Almost fell asleep on the swing, so thought I would get ready and just go to bed. Prayers going your way Judy....

Back from the rally---tired, a bit sunburned, but had a good time! Didn't win the motorcycle they give away....surprise surprise! We went down with 3 other couples, and one of the couples DD's, her bf and his buddy. So there was a group of 11 of us. Then the 2nd day, the kids rode in to Albq. and picked up the other boys girlfriend. We had an entire section of the park--a KOB type of campground to ourselves. We stay there every year, and when they realized we were coming with such a group this time, they give us our own section! It is a nice campground, we can have campfires, and cook, but there is also a nice shower/bathroom area!! A must for me these days! We really didn't buy much, a tool bag for the chopper. Some tshirts for the kids, odds and ends. Spent lots of time listening to the bands, and sipping on beer!! LOL I did have my chocolate dipped cheesecake, but limited myself! I wanted them every single time we ventured past the stand, I resisted. Had some sort of allergy issue the last day, and ended up drugged up on benedryl! Eyes swelling, sneezing, throat itching, misery! BUT I slept like a log last night, I did not hear a single harley roaring around!!! Unreal! Judy, Grady is adorable!!! He comes by being tall naturally, but he doesn't look that big to me! My DIL went to the Dr. last Tuesday, and he said the baby had dropped, and his head was engaged. He shut down their plans for going to the rally. He said labor could begin at any time, and if it does, they will deliver him then, and if it does not happen spontaneously, they will take him on the morning of the 7th. I think the day may change, he told her he likes to have long weekends, yet he scheduled her for delivery on a Friday.....which to me means he will leave her in the hospital until Monday?? Even for a c section that seems wierd. Anyway----any day now we will have a new grandson! We bought Connor a tshirt (as well as a sticker for his trike) that says "Papa's little riding buddy". Kinsey, being girlie, ended up with a little rhinestone studded --well the straps have the crystals--tank top that says Biker Babe. Well I am off to hit the shower, and cuddle on the lawn swing with my husband. He grilled me the best steak for dinner!!! All because I baked him a cake. He has been craving chocolate cake and ice cream--vanilla or cookies and cream. Having the right mix as well as the correct ratio of ice cream to cake is highly important! I had to think of Laura as I finished the cake, it didn't even make a blip on my "WANT IT" scale!! He was so thrilled!!! So I got a great steak, and we are both happy.....happy home dwellers again, not happy campers!!! Tracy--I missed you too. In the morning, while everyone was sitting around blurry eyed, visiting....I would wonder to myself if they had WiFi!!! Wouldn't have mattered, we went on the bike, so of course no computer, but I still wondered! Terry, great pics!! See y'all in awhile, maybe tomorrow, if I crash early.

Oh my! I hope and yes I will PRAY that all goes well in your sons surgery! Hang out, post like crazy----find yourself a good arguement---anything to keep your mind occupied, and soon he will be in recovery and doing well! I think I consider myself more spiritual than religious. I feel my relationship with the Lord is just that, a personal relationship, that I can have anywhere, is in fact a part of who I am, and what I do. Not especially where I go---as say in a church or such. It is a relationship. It is not something I feel a need to advertise, or defend, anymore than I advertise or defend my marriage. It is what I have chosen, and will be what I choose to make of it. I have felt the Lord's presence many a time in places, not necessarily religious based, in the mountains, or even in the quiet still of morning as I sit on my lawn swing. Much more so than a Sunday morning in an organized, planned out service. I can appreciate the beauty around me, and know where it come from. I find a waterfall in nature much more awe inspiring than holy icons such as religious figurines in the church or stained glass windows. So I understand what you are saying.

So sorry for all the crap they are putting you through Ebony. Can you add things to your file as well, if so I would have it typed up exactly what your side of it is, and not sign the written reprimand without notation of it being in your file. Will be praying hard for you today!!!

Tracy is your dsd having an echocargiogram today or is it just an initial consult? Stress can seriously mess with your heart rate. And MANY issues are able to be fixed with a minor tweak, or medications. After Rick had the GI bleed, it destroyed the interior work they had done on his heart during the valve surgery, so he went into A fib for several months. We tried meds, but the procedure they had done inside the heart required the blood to be thin while it "set" its path, and with the bleed, they purposely clotted his blood. So we were expecting another huge surgery to fix it----they made a small incision in the groin, and cauterized the areas causing the irregular heart beat. He walked in and out of the hospital on the same day! And has been in a low/normal heart beat range ever since. His heart rate normally runs between 45-60 bpm. During the A-Fib, while relaxing, we could not get it below 120 on meds!!! You will be amazed the things they can tell you and take care of---dsd will be perfectly fine, and you will all celebrate!! Is Macy enjoying her being there? I am taking my Mom to town here in a little bit, think we will go get pedicures and then do some shopping. I have not got to spend any special time with her since going to work much, and since I am on vacation.....we are going to go today as soon as she finishes with a special choir practice she is at. Off to send you guys an email!!! Just want some opinions! Welcome back Pamela, we really did miss you----I think that is what I was feeling, it was either that or serious jealousy.....maybe a nice mix of the 2. Purses, wallets......yah it was jealousy! Welcome back!!!

Haydee, I can totally see you floating around in an outdoor ballroom, under a deep blue sky.....and if this "building" is not constructed and used until YOUR wedding, then it is not something that has ever been done at your MIL's place, and would make it all new! I am picturing like a HUGE classy gazebo style thing....it would be amazing!!! Yes Laura your married name......cast and cut into the metal of a tractor seat!!! Well, one pound has found its way back, I am still down 2---and will have a horrible next weekend! We will be at the rally----where the chocolate dipped cheesecake will call me 24/7!!! Oh well----I WILL make it, if I have to spend day and night on the elliptical when I get home! This goal is what is getting this weight back off---TY Tracy!!! Suzanne---you stay soooo busy! How are things with the nephew?? Going to go scan some posts----I have not done a bit of moderating in daaaaayyss!!!!

You know Corliss something you said, really jumped out at me, and it was nothing direct. But you said you wished you had stayed on the wt. loss and cosmetic surgery side of the board, then went on to mention MJ's plastic surgery, and the fact that he did not get the help he needed even with all his resources. It made me realize that this board or something of the sort for him could have been an anonymous (generally speaking) form of help. All of us here that vent and disagree with one another on whatever subject, are still allowing those feelings, thoughts and emotions OUT! They are not being bottled up, and released in other possibly harmful to ourselves or others, ways. I have a niece who has issues with low blood sugar, and she just told me last night (no idea of truth or not) that Brittney Spears has the same problem, and she hid it. It is sad that it is ok to show you have alcohol and drug issues, and to be photographed doing all sorts of things, yet it is not ok to be open concerning a TRUE medical issue, over which you have no control of having or not? Would MJ have been different if he COULD have opened up the can of worms that was his past, and raged over it, and argued with people and wished his abusers ill? If he could have done so in a way such as a forum like this where he was unknown but able to let that out.......Who knows, but it has been proven that keeping all the emotion inside, and not letting yourself deal with causes emotional AND physical problems....obesity among them. I agree that all signs point me to believing he was a pedophile. I also truly believe he suffered from body dysmorphia (SP?)---he was not much different from people with severe life threatening anorexia, who do really SEE themselves as others do. Apples, thanks, the steroids about did me in, but slowly I am losing the damn weight.....again!!! I am so ready to simply maintain again it is unreal!

There was a time that 89 was way too hot for me. But now, I freeze all the time! I hate going out to eat because the restaurants are all soooo cold! I seldom turn on the AC here at home. Pretty wierd, when I lost my outer layer of insulation, my system malfunctioned I think. Now I do not go looking for heat--low 80's and I am comfy. Connor is here with us, as Ali is at her weekly OB appt. and he wants us to play soccer. Papa and he are out there in the 90+ degree weather kicking the ball, Granny is in here in the house, where it is not quite so hot!!! Thermometer for the house reads 77 and I am quite pleased!!! Going to send out an email to y'all asking for help with a dilemma I am in! Was expecting the Dr. home too.....maybe she decided to stay in Italy.....she DID sound pretty happy there!!! Her ticket to get to Haydees wedding just went up drastically if she did!! LOL And Laura, we will ALL be stylin' in whatever Judy says we will be wearing!!! You will make a pretty fairy princess!!! Can you seriously imagine the SHOCK and horror on poor Haydee's face after all this joking if we did all show up dressed exactly alike in something hideous like that!! Haydee are any of your sisters married? Just remember while they might be your biggest critics, this is YOUR (and maybe Juans!!!) day----while they might have a say of opinion, they will get to make final decisions on THEIR days.....this one is YOURS!!! Is there space on the property for a wedding tent? We have been to outdoor weddings, where tents were ready for inclement weather, and also one used for the wedding dance afterwards---the DJ refused to do one without, because of the expense of his flooring if it were to rain. Laura, we stopped at a flea market last Sunday on our ride, and I found a dealer selling tractor seats---I collect them--they hang on my kitchen wall. Well he specialized his collection to ones with names, and there were a bunch with your last name on them! None with mine, that would have been asking toooooo much!! LOL We bought an antique little pedal tractor---I almost felt bad, because I felt like we stole it from this woman, she sold it to us for $25.00. I looked on line last night, and one in not nearly as nice of shape was selling for $425.00!!! We looked crazy, we bungeed it to the back of the motorcycle, we were the hells Angels Beverly Hillbillies cross. Have fun on your trip Jenn. How long til you can move away from NY? Well I am going to take some popsicles outside, give poor Papa a well earned rest!!!

In the shop break room at my DH's work, someone had a large sticker on one of the lockers that said "Excuses are like a$$holes, everyone has one and most of them stink!" They come to work one day and management had used labels and covered up what they found offensive and it then said "Exucses are like noses, everyone has one and most of them smell" the guys cracked up! The company is hated, and going broke so they say, and THIS is what they find necessary to "repair" !!! Why didn't they just remove it rather than rephrase it!!! LOL

Besides Tracy, we can't look loverly all by ourselves, we need you too......but I am jealous of Haydee getting to be so sexy with her belly baring, and we have to hide ourselves under so much dress!!!

I would make it an obvious reaction to the DD---when I rolled up in my truck I would hold out my hand and tell her "WAIT!!! I cannot afford a 3rd window!" and roll them all down---right in front of Mom. I did not tolerate my kids interupting, and they all do it from time to time----but they knew by the time they were 2-3 years old what the hand held up to them meant. And they shut up until there was a break. Once years ago in this little town we live in, (please don't flame me for this~~~) our kids were I'd say 6,7 and 8. My friend and I left them in the car while we went in to return some movies. When they went in, they wanted more movies, so we left them in the car. Just as I was thanking the clerk and ready to leave here come my DD. She interupts with Mom! I held up my hand, she grabs it and bends it back down and yells, "that girl hit Aunt Becky's car!!!!" The hilarious part was, she did not speak without putting my hand down! A girl backed into the car, and was outside crying her eyes out, she had done the same thing 3 times before and was all of 16!! It is a shame about your neighbor kid, she is not being done any favors. Our son and DIL were much that way with my grandson for a long time, and he was a little hellion. He would walk in and start grabbing, and nothing was done. So Granny got mean, and I took control. Something finally clicked, and they are watching him, and teaching him....finally thank heavens he has a baby brother due in 3 weeks! Now he is fun to have around, and not everyone groans wondering what is going to break this time! Think it is tough when it is your neighbor, let it be your grandson, no one understands! Isn't changing her codes going to be an issue with the dogs? IF and in my case that would be one helluva big IF!!! You want to mend fences with her, while still making a point---buy her a cheap set of pink sunglasses, tell her all drama queens need sunglasses to hide behind!!! Good Luck~~ my DH would be livid over the windows too!!!

I have a question for y'all. What do you do when you receive email from someone you seriously do NOT want mail from? As is my DH's psycho ex? She latched onto an email address from something I sent to my DIL, who obviously does not clean up her email before forwarding it. I know it is where it come from because his ex sent it on to several of my contacts. She is seriously mentally imbalanced, and it takes a twist to where she talks to God and works for him in a daily basis. She prays outside naked....tries to baptise people in the grocery store.....and has been in psych lock up many times. She is forwarding us all kinds of junk. Some personal email, but not a lot so figure just block her.......right? Then I am getting mail, all personal, letters of a sort, asking me all kinds of questions, relating to the band, but also trying to "befriend" me, for lack of a better word, from an extended family member. I have no issues with her, I simply do not have the time, or desire to do the back and forth she is looking for, and I do not want to upset the family member that puts us together....... And lastly, on FB---a neighbor who I find really creepy keeps sending messages through mutual friends that I am ignoring his friend request....

What can I say Haydee, you are the bride, I will defer to you.....and when I get home, I will add ribbons, and strut back and forth in front of the mirror!!! Yes Jane, and with the mettalic touch to the dress, if we all stand close together----and blur our faces like this, we could look like a giant mylar weather balloon!!!! Y'all crack me up!

Can we have matching floppy style garden hats with streamers of ribbon puuuuuuhhhlleeeeeeeeze??? Huh? Huh? Can we?????

Haydee, I don't know, it might be a secret but we are ALL gonna be there, wearing big poofy 1980's era violet colored (of course) bridesmaids dresses!!!! And Judy is gonna sing her song, then we are all gonna sing "I love my Violets....." just for YOU!!!!!!! And then! I think we are manning the margarita bar at the reception!!! Now aren't ya glad you got us!!!!

Just dropping in to let you know I'm here. Sorry you are so down Jenn. Having done the divorce thing in my life, as well as many other issues, I do understand the black hole you find yourself in. When I got out of my marriage, and realized he really wanted to kill me, I felt so worthless-----was I SO bad I had people wanting me to cease being? And how stupid was I---picking someone like him, and being stupid enough to fall for his lies. I allowed myself to think maybe he was right! It was a terrible point in my life---------a death of the dreams I had hoped our life would be, as well as the death of my innocense at what life can actually be like. I was raised in a way, those things never even crossed my mind! Much like Haydee said, I had a friend who listened non stop to what I cried about, and supported me, and repeated to me regularly to "let go and let God" deal with it for you. I went to church, but I went in selfishly, and every word out of the ministers mouth I tried to fit into my situation, and tried to get something from it, and nothing was fitting. Then come time for vacation Bible School. I volunteered to help, because Manda was going to be there, and I was still insecure feeling, and seldom if ever let her out of my sight---the world was suddenly a VERY scary place. We have a Navajo Methodist Mission in Farmington, and we went over and picked the kids up every day and brought them back to VBS. During the week, one of the mission kids--which are there for a variety of reasons, mostly neglect and abuse in their own homes---it is a large group home type place. I saw kids who had been hurt--and there come an issue with bullying from one of the kids----so they had a special morning meeting, for us as teachers, and then brought the kids in, and talked to them about it----and I finally found a sermon directed at my heart! NOT someplace I expected it! Allow yourself to feel the pain, but don't let it take you over---you ARE stronger than it, if for no other reason, you want your kids to see first hand how to deal with lifes big hurts. We love you and you know you can vent here anytime. You too Haydee---I see your pros and cons very clearly. To me, if it is going to be too hot, and your only option at your MIL's is an outdoor wedding, then that alone puts it out of the running. Maybe a nice engagement party later one evening, with little lights, and lots of candles, to make it romantic. Or an engagement brunch--done early in the day--anytime it is not AS hot!!! Do it there so that it is part of your celebration, but allow someone else to do the work on the wedding. It seems reasonable to me, if you want a ballroom wedding, to then have a ballroom!!! LOL Is there any way to barter any of your expenses? Allow parties at the house you have with MIL, in exchange for something for YOUR wedding? Or would MIL not go for that? Might be something to consider with a wedding planner, it would benefit you both. Well Rick is madly building a trailer for some friends of ours......so guess I will go see if I can help. His leg is looking ok, still really bruised, and his eye--we are guessing from the force of impact, or maybe even the spike in BP from the adrenalin, has a broken blood vessel or 2 in it, and the white of his eye is bloody. It is not injured and not dangerous, should absorb in 10-14 days. Til then he looks like he said the wrong thing and I poked him!!! He is contemplating whether to leave the dent in his tank as a medal of honor for what the bike withstood--or whether to remove it, and repair it. The headers are just going to be the dented way they are, there is no option for repairing them....kinda sad, the bike looked GREAT!!! BBL--or will at least try. Anyone in need of some clothes, I'm guessing a 20 in size????? Know anyone needing any??

I think there is a time and a place that every person casts judgements, and things that happen in a persons life, is what leads them to speak out about it. When the OP began this thread, she titled it as a RANT. The title also clearly stated that the OP did not care. With those 2 pieces of information we could all pretty well deduce what the thread was going to entail, and no one was forced to read it. When things got out of hand, moderators tried to tone it down without shutting it down. The thread has not always been pleasant, as many of the subjects are not pleasant themselves. Expecting every person to be forgiving and accepting regardless of what they have lived through seems ridiculous. I have no doubt that I am indeed a judgemental person. Like I say I personally think we ALL are, just our "triggers" may be different. Reminding us that we need to remember "let he without sin cast the first stone". Is judging in and of itself....again, IMHO.