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I agree, and I also feel like if RI as a state has been benefitting financially from revenue gained by taxing prostitution, they will not give up the $$$$ no matter how tarnished it makes them look. Not in this economy at any rate!

3 more days, then 3 off!!! LOL, thinking positive here! Was a super busy day---glad it is behind me! Michelle, glad your MIL is through the surgery, and can begin treating/dealing with healing. Hopefully with all the quick attention, and follow up drugs, the memory of hurting so badly immediately after will fade quickly. Before Rick's heart problems, he would occasionally eat the chocolates like you are talking about Pamela! And he also likes the chocolate covered coffee beans. Now he avoids all caffeine. He too said he got serious rushes from them! Speaking of his heart---we go to ALBQ. this next Monday to the cardiologist for his yearly check up. We are going down on Sunday (maybe Sat) and going to the State Fair, and then spending the night, then seeing the Dr., doing some shopping, then head home Monday so we can go to work on Tues. We are looking forward to the fair. I actually felt bad...but we are selfish about our time doing that together! Becky is going to Amarillo to a family wedding with her DIL's the end of the week. She mentioned maybe we should bring Gary to Albq. with us, then they could meet up there, and we would all do the fair together. I was really ambivalent about it! But her DIL's did not want to go if their DH's weren't there.....so they are just coming home. Rick and I have a routine there---we like looking at the same things, and can sit and watch the Native American dancers for hours. We like the art, and the nature exhibits, not so much the commercial booths etc. It is one thing to hit the smaller county fair with them, because that is what Gary likes, is the commercial exhibits etc. but this is something Rick and I do, have for years.....and prefer it just being us! We always spend a few bucks and squeeze into the photo booth, for the strip of pictures, we have them clipped together chronologically!! Is not nearly as cramped in the booth as is was years ago!! I can actually sit IN his lap for the pic, and not squash and break him!! Well, I am going to go see what is so rivetting out in the man cave. I keep hearing a bike rev up----sounds like carbuerator work going on---gonna go interupt!!

As much as I dreaded it....it is here...time to get ready for work again! BAH! Only good thing about that is my new contacts should be in today--gonna try something new. Managed to lose a pound even with the rally. And sure enough as of this morning, it is still gone! SHOCK!! Wish it was more, but at this stage of the game, a pound is better than nuthin'! Gotta get going----spent too long reading the newspaper!

Slim, I am not sure of a time line with the job of my sons. I have been very cautious of talking about it with him, as all my arguements are against it whole heartedly. And to voice them, is not pretty. As it stands now, they live on our property, in a mobile home. We agreed upon a rental amount in the beginning, and he has paid regularly. An amount much lower than any rent he could find anywhere else. Out of the rent each month--well he actually pays it in like 3 month chunks---out of that we pay the electric bill because it is attached to the main bill--and it has the water pumps for the fields on it too. Other than that, we used rental money to replace his hot water heater---but every cent of the rest of it is in an account---earmarked for him. The plan was when he decided to either put a modular home, or to build out there, we would give it to him. We did the same with DD---so I am sure he suspects we will do it. We are not however giving it to him to move away. So where he is now, my grandson has free roam of 13 acres if he wants. He follows his grandpas to the barns, he rides along when we bail hay, he helps feed horses....everything. He has probably put hundreds and hundreds of miles--not a slight bit of exageration---on his trike this summer! There is so much for him to do. And no one can enter the property without coming past either their house or my inlaws. So there is no traffic for him to watch for--he plays outside from morning to night. He is like all kids USED to be! He plays in the mud, eats veggies straight from the garden---and when he has to take a whiz-----he does----wherever he may be! I am only comfortable with his freedoms out there, because I know my MIL is on watch as well. My DIL loves that boy heart and soul, but gets lost in TV or the computer, and often lets time get away from her, or is not 100% sure where on the place he is. That scares me! And now they want to take him to where he is likely going to be living in an apartment while they settle in, without place for him to do his trike riding or anything---and she has him AND a baby to deal with----with no help. It saddens me for him, and scares me as well. So I have avoided talking to them about it. Thanks Ebony--muscle recovery--I could not put a name to what I was trying to say!!! I think I have Old-timers disease. And yes the chocolate dipped cheesecake is wonderful. It is frozen NY style cheescake on a stick, dipped in melted chocolate. What is not to like??? Good thing there is not anywhere locally I can get it---it would be my downfall! And that is highly unusual for me, as I am usually a salty/crunchy/savory foodie! With occasional sweets only! I seriously do not want to go back to work tomorrow. But guess I will go look and make sure I have things ready---I may need to toss in a load of laundry. Being gone this weekend, put me out of my normal routine!

Beth, another thing to consider, is all the additional work you did in the yard, the muscles you used that had been dormant, will hold onto fluid. The first while of a new work out I always gain and then it finally flushes out. We went to a rally over the weekend, and I tried really hard to behave! I took raw veggies as snacks, and tried to avoid the everything under the sun fried vendors. The one thing I will not give up, is my chocolate dipped cheesecake. I only had one slice----when I could have easily eated a dozen in the 2 day period! In the end, I come home a pound down. Not going to change the ticker, as we are going to a movie later, and the popcorn will return that pound plus I am sure! Got bad news when we come home. The company my son works for is transferring him to Louisianna. I am hoping (against the odds) that he chooses to find a different job. I cannot believe my grandson is moving that far away! Grandsons technically--but the new little guy while I love him dearly, is not as embedded in my heart as the 3 year old has made himself! That sounds wrong----what I mean is, I know Connor's favorites, I always try to have him here when I fix mac & cheese or when we grill brats, he gorges himself. I know how he giggles chasing me around the backyard. I KNOW all the things I am going to miss with him. With the baby we haven't yet developed those things, and won't have a chance.....and it SUCKS big fat rotten eggs. We are off to have a late lunch/early dinner with friends. I am just not even hungry----hope I can keep that knowledge as I am confronted with the smells and options of food. No need to eat if I am not hungry. Wish me luck!

Slept in my own bed last night-----you'd have thought, a nice bed, in a quiet room would have been preferable to the noise of a rally campground---------not so! I slept so much better there than here. I even took a nap out there, and NEVER take them at home. I clicked on the reason just as I began typing that. The noise was strange to me, but not threatening, it did however, prevent me from thinking long and hard on things. My mind would lock onto problems, and then someone would say something I could hear or a loud bike would roar by---interupt those thoughts, and when I fell asleep to that noise, then it continuing did not bother me, I slept wonderfully!!! I could not lay awake for hours thinking.....here I can...and do. I love sleeping outdoors anyway---but the thinking thing is the issue. I cannot escape the thoughts when laying in bed at night, and no matter how sleepy I am, I end up wide awake thinking. Going to meet Becky & Gary in town for a late lunch early dinner. I sure missed them at the rally. Manda is having an interesting afternoon. She is meeting with her ex, and having lunch. Letting Kinsey have some time with him. I disagree with all of it, but it is not my life. Sorry Evan is having problems, Terry. Addiction makes people do wierd things, even as they are sober---I can attest to that with my son. Not sure if it is a residual of that, or if it is a simple personality issue (not a pretty one) but he tends to think in the value of ME, ME, ME. He acts like the whole world revolves around him, and like he has to be involved in everything. I am not sure how to explain it--but say we are talking about DD and the issues with her ex----somehow it comes around to HIM and how he affected her choices she made, things that make no sense. I honestly don't remember him being this way prior to his addiction problem....just since. He is sober, has been for years, and is a kind, helpful, caring man----but EXTREMELY self centered. Said with all the love in the world. I hope no one misinterprets that. I am not trying to make my son lesser in anyones eyes, but something changed him, to where he is CONSTANTLY looking out for himself, and that is all I can attribute it to. Well Ricks old "Shop guy" just showed up for some help on something, I need to go give him the eye, just in case he is here for free room and board again!!!

We're home. Was fun, not the stress relief I was hoping for, or expecting, but----we got away for a couple of days, and had some time together. Come home to the news our son is moving. If he wants to keep a job with the company he is with, he is being transferred to Louisianna. I am heartbroke, and a little (ok maybe a bit more than a little) angry. I want to shake him. He can find another job if he wanted to here-----he has had them offered. But he is focussing on the $6.50 more an hour he will make there, and the cost of living is less....yadda, yadda, yadda. BS!!! He has almost ZERO living costs here. He lives in a mobile home on our property. He DOES pay minimal rent----which was an amount agreed upon in the beginning. We pay his electric out of the rent----As it is hooked up with my inlaws for the field pumps---so it is not in their name. Besides that, the ONLY money ever spent out of the rent they pay was to replace the water heater a couple of years ago. He does not know that the money is there. The plan was when he decided to either put a modular out there, or build, we would give him the $$$. Now he thinks he can go off and make a bigger and better living....and has the big head thing going on. Rick and I are in agreement, the money sits tight. I emphasized know, because, I am sure he suspects it. As the same was done with DD's place. Her $$$ went back to her. So I think he expects it to be handed over to him, to help make this move. Ain't happening. If he refuses to think things through---and wants to go off on a tangent this way he is going to have to do it alone. Period. This is going to cause a problem, and I see it coming....but that is my stance. And yes it is selfish, but it is also me being selfish FOR my grandsons. They have grandma's and grandpa's and family all over here, and trusted people to help with the boys. Connor is such a Papa's boy you cannot imagine, and HE is making the choice to take them where they have NO ONE! They know NO ONE. They have never even been to the state of LA before. But he KNOWS he can buy a house cheap blah, blah, blah. Gotta get over it, it's happening I guess. Interview with CPS went quickly. I mentioned to the woman, that while they could bring along the life jacket to show the problem, I had a problem bringing my tub---kind of light heartedly---she dryly informed me she knew what the door rail looked like....ok so much for a little levity...wrong time, wrong place, wrong person. Dunno what will come of it. Only advantage to it is --- stress is keeping me tight, and I am losing weight. At the rally tho, I made Rick mad, he had not been 100% glued to my side prior, and he is insistent I am not eating enough. I tried to explain to him, I eat plenty....small amounts of different food. No I no longer go to those things and inhale an order of curly ribbon fries---a half a chicken on a stick, and I am good all day long. I told him my weight loss appreciates it, and so does my heart! If life with my kids doesn't settle down, I might make it back to my former weight. I'd rather have to work at it. Heather, I am so sorry you went through so much! I personally wondered about pregnancy with any form of WLS---seems pretty scary to me! I can see the problems with the tube becoming detatched...but the fear of like where the sleeve would be stitched apart from the remainder of the stomach--the staple line....all of it would freak me out. I am wierd anyway!! Laura, if I did have anything else done, I would not hesitate at all going back to Dr. Aceves. My SIL and I went down and were banded together. Then she took her 2 daughters down and they were banded, and a friend of mine who was banded in Monterrey, took another friend to Aceves, and he did a fill for my friend while she was there. There have been a bunch of us I know, all done with him, and other than my SIL's OWN issues with the band, there have been no problems. Her problems were bandster caused, not band caused problems. She has zero fill, and has had multiple scopes, and has had surgery to assure proper placement, and STILL insists she cannot eat, so pokes her finger down her throat and throws up 4 out of 5 meals she eats. It will kill her, and to hear them tell it, it is all the bands fault. But that did not stop her from getting her daughters banded??? Hello? If it is causing me that much problem, there is no way in hell I would wish that on my child. And she does love her kids, so she knows.....on some level she knows. Off to make a pot of soup....calling it dinner.

Laura, I wasn't meaning that you shouldn't look into the sleeve, didn't mean that at all, I was wondering if you ask Dr. A about a price for repair of your band----not your current Dr. If Dr. A's price was $14K then his prices have DOUBLED since my surgery! I paid $7240.00 for my band, and they covered half of not just MY flight costs but half of DH's as well! The CPS is not a big deal, it is frustrating for me. Just the investigation could stop me from ever opening my day care again should I have thought about it. Because I am being questioned, aka interviewed today......because this is not her first injury to the area....and it was with me when she was hurt on the tub. The best thing about that is it automatically clears her Mommy of any involvement, since she was in the hospital, and that is easily proven. The Dr. who did her exam, said there is no bruising, hymen is intact, and she is well adjusted, has no fear of being in the position, or having her parents in the room with her, and in the room with her together. She sensed no discordance with them being together around her.....his report says point blank that in his 35 years of practice this child shows no signs of abuse in any sort, either in physical appearance, injury included, nor in emotional actions. Or something to that effect. Granny feels abused. I just want to lock myself in a room and cry.....for days. I HATE that she got hurt. I HATE that the reason this time is an issue is because I let her get hurt before. I HATE that my baby girl has to have strange people looking at her privates because us adults cannot keep her safe. I HATE being part of what has caused all of this. I agree that I am glad daycare has been vigilant, but I HATE that my DD has been tainted and will always be looked at with suspicion from here on out. I did over 20 years with all those kids and no issues EVER. Now with a child I love more than my next breath.....all this. It just breaks my heart into millions of pieces. I canonly thank God we are not dealing with her having been abused. I would end up in prison. Gotta go to work......joy.

Laura, Dr. Aceves did my banding. The hospital he uses is not a butcher shop, I can assure you of that. It is incredibly clean, and there is constant cleaning going on. There was not an issue of language except for Rick in the cafeteria---he pointed, they cooked, problem solved. Getting TO the hospital, I grew concerned. It is in a rough part of Mexicali. But as my DH pointed out, MANY hospitals are----they are built near the original metro area, and as the city moves, the old parts become slummy. I mean you lived in ABQ----think of where Presbyterian and the Heart Hospital and Lovelace are.....right off Central Avenue. And UNM---pretty slummy! BUT they are good hospitals! So was the hospital Dr. Aceves uses. He was attentive, and informative, and his staff was incredible. IF I could travel to Mexico again, I would use him to do anything I needed. But til I change my name....I am stuck here! I have a question for you----you are discussing with him the revision surgery. But you did well with your band. What would his charge be to repair your band? If finances are an issue, it might get you repaired, at an affordable amount, and you still have the option of your local Dr. for fills/unfills etc. Hell your current Dr. may never even know-----just WOW it works again!!! LOL Just thinking from a financial point. Because you DID lose weight with your band....I know, I saw you! Life sucks here. Loooong very stressful story. Kinsey got injured with her Dad last weekend. DD thought it was handled, and then got the call from daycare today that CPS was involved. They are not being pushy, they seem ok with things, but who knows. I am trying to go on with things as normal...as is she, but it is not as easy. Kinsey is ok.

Glouc--my oldest DD was the same way. She was a perfectionist. Did all the weighted classes, and actually graduated a year early, so she could follow her heart when he enlisted. Yep! She actually still used some of her scholarship money, but a good amount was not used, as they were stationed in Hawaii, and the school options were limited. In the end it all worked out for her (well all but the marriage! Big shocker there huh??? Mama tried warning her!). The son on the other hand----he went to the same school YOU did! He would hop out of the car, walk in the door of school, and then promptly walk back out again after we left. He finally dropped out, we had to do the tough love thing with him, as his "experimenting" got out of hand. He eventually saw the error of his ways, has got his GED, married has a a family and has been clean for years. Oher DD was the one the phrase "marching to the beat of a different drummer" was made for. She skimmed her academics, LOVED anything arts related--still does. To walk into her house is like walking into a dream. Not everything makes sense....yet when you are there is seems right. Love her to pieces, but have NEVER understood her---if that makes any sense. It is not meant derogatorily, just that we are SO different, and the things that excite her don't even make a blip on my interest scale, only as something Abbey would like! We however get along wonderfully---although I would love to see more of her, she has always been and continues to be a loner of sorts. She is married, has been for several years, and has a son now. My oldest DD is just like me. We like the same things. We fought. Now we "adult fight" and avoid one another or a certain subject!! Kids--go figure them out.......

Glouc (love the name btw!!) you crack me up! I live across the street from a teacher, and she said they have a quiet corner. It is a punishment corner. Kids caught throwing food or messing with another students food, or yelling after receiving a quiet countdown card..which is like the red, yellow card, they get warned, and get a countdown card, and if they have to be spoke to again--then they are escorted with their tray to the quiet corner. She said it is noisy, but only because dozens and dozens of conversations are going on, and laughing, she said it is happy time. She also said she HAD heard of this, and she understood the reports and results were not positive, and said she would ask around and see if anyone remembers where they saw it or what brought up the discussion with them-------in the teachers lounge----where THEY too were talking! The woman I work with is one that gives the silent treatment, or won't speak if she is in a bad mood for whatever reason (and that is often)--and if I didn't have patients to speak to I'd go crazy! I would be letting the PUBLIC know, that I think is going to be your best ally. Here we are a diverse group of people, some with kids grown (me) others with kids not in school yet (Heart)--some with kids that age----and we ALL find it disturbing, and NO ONE has stood up for the practice. We all come from different areas of the country, and different backgrounds and none of us finds it a healthy atmosphere. So my way of thinking is if you bring public outcry over it---your results would fall like ours here. Sure there will be supporters, but I am betting a lot more will be aghast over it as we were....as YOU were!

Rick has an Aunt and Uncle in from TX, spent the evening over at his folks with them. Garrick had a crying spell, poor little guy! Finally he got all snuggled into my shoulder and passed out. So I got him all night long!! Ate some chicken----paying for it. Fried chicken is not my friend. Personally, as for our thread here, I love you all. This has been horrid. I feel like positions have been dug in, and no one is going to let it go----and while that is understandable, unless you find a way to let it go, it isn't going to heal. I find the stress here really difficult. I am going through some crap at work, with the office manager, and they sent word out at Ricks job that they are cutting local workforce by 63% in October. I have enough in my day to day life, that the one place I have come to rely on for stress relief, is adding to it rather than helping with it. Because no matter what is said, or not said, or acknowledged or not acknowledged---someone is not happy with it. I hope time can heal this. One thing about it---I have lost my appetite....sucks big time.

My ex did not drown them in the toilet, but he once shot a mouse with a B gun, in the bathtub! He was SOOOO particular about his hair, each morning, he would wet it down with the shower spray. He showered at night, then just wet his hair the next morning to blow dry. I was huge pregnant, told him I saw a mouse in the tub. He ignored me. Next morning, he bends over the tub, turns on the Water and that mouse shot out of the drain, towards his face, was so funny I almost peed in the bed! I was still laying there.....anyway he was all kinds of mad over the mouse (and likely me laughing) so he set out to kill it. He ended up shooting it with the BB gun, and gross as it is, where that thing bled in the tub, the stain would NOT go away, not with cleanser, peroxide, bleach, nothing, a faint stain was there the day we moved! So a couple of days later, he had come home for lunch, my Mom come over, as did a friend, they all were checking on me because I was well overdue with my DD. When they all left, I went in to lay down, I lay down across the bed, and decided to heck with it, I was gonna take a nap, reached for a pillow, and laying there on the pillow DEAD was a mouse! I went to jump up and a massive contraction hit! I made it to the phone, and called, he could not get home. So I called my Mom who worked nearby. She come. We got a paper bag, wads of paper towels, and rubber dishwashing gloves.....and in she went. She had on the gloves, was going to pick it up with the paper towels, drop it in the bag, and put the bag in the trash dumpster outside. Well apparantly the mouse had got my dcon and seized up pretty good----she picked him up, went to put it in the bag, and its foot hung and he fell on the floor----9 months pregnant, and I was ON the bed in a flash.....right next to my Mom! We had a good laugh that he was dead, we settled down, got him in the bag, and disposed of......still laugh about it to this day. I was SURE that was going to send me into labor.....waited another week!! My MIL at the time was concerned I had touched myself somewhere when I saw the mouse and said my baby would have a birthmark there.....guess I kept my hands in the air, she had no birthmarks!! Gotta go to work.......hope there are no mice there, and that you catch yours Laura!

Just got home from my oldest granddaughters birthday party. Chaos and noise galore! IN the play area at Burger King. There is nothing I eat well at BK----or at least nothing I like well enough to want to eat it. But I played Granny and held all the babies while everyone ate! She has hit the magic age that she was thrilled with clothes! LOL Add to several 3rd grader girls, all of our other younger grandkids, and the older brother we consider our oldest grandson, and my DD's boyfriends kids, and there were kids EVERYWHERE! The absolute worst part, was I went directly from work, so had work clothes on, and was not comfortable! Glad it is over and I am home, and in my jammies. I probably shouldn't say this....hope it does not jinx me, but I don't have much of an issue with mice, and that is really strange, because my house is the last house for miles! Our block backs up to BLM land, and the closest building besided the neighboring houses are the high school ag buildings! We have lots of kangaroo mice---or deer mice some call them the ones that cause hauntavirus. But only occasionally will we get one in the garage. I put out Dcon, and they go away! Now if I get them in my house, I will know knocking on the wood desk did me no good! Years ago in a house I lived in, I saw mice poopies in the drawer where my silverware was kept---I was SOOOOO grossed out, so I took it all out and kept it in the DW!! And I put a trap in the drawer, and like the one Tracy saw, I caught it, but only by a leg, and I could hear it screeching, and dragging the trap around the drawer! We lived next door to my SIL and her DH at the time, I went next door and had my BIL come and "deal" with it for me, it was so sad and gross!! Suzy--good luck with your interview and surgery. We have a rally to go to this weekend, one of our favorites, and they are predicting terrible storms. I am so torn----whether to suck it up and go, or wimp out and hang at home!!! We camp....so sleeping in a river is not fun.....and riding in the rain is not safe.....but the rally is SOOOO much fun! Decisions, decisions.......betcha we end up going! Of to the shower.... Hugs

Yeah, THAT'S what you do that we like Plain, mmhmm, sure, you betcha!

So, Pamela......you have tons of 6th graders, and only a few scattered among the other 3 grades.....is that because you teach them so well in their 6th grade year, they seldom need ESL classes anymore????

Hey all- What a crappy day at work. Glad it is over! DD met with a legal advisor today, and took the DGD to the pediatrician. The pediatrician, did not do a major exam, said nothing appeared to be out of the ordinary, and the damage was external only, gave her some cream suggestions for it. And I passed on the idea of the pad in her clothes with the life jacket--that is an excellent idea!! This legal advisor of hers was with legal aid when she divorced him, and they advised her as to what forms, and where to take them, and got the courts to forego the filing fees on things. She told DD there is not a form for reducing her visitation, she can try to amend the current visitation, and word it her own way, and see if it will fly with the courts, but she doubts it, and feels they will send them through mediation again. She said she is shown as a custodial parent, and he has visitation, it is not shared custody. So that is in her favor. She did give her the papers for the non payment of CS. My DD has increased her income, and his has decreased. She had been willingly taking about $150.00 less a month from him while acknowledging the changes in incomes. She said that too will likely be sent with them to mediation, put through the formula, and a new amount settled upon, and since it is less than a years worth, they will likely allow him to add a set amount to each month until the arrears are paid off. DD said she would have her stuff filled out and filed within this week. She said until they get things worked out, she will not meet him alone, and will ALWAYS keep in mind that should he try to take off with her, she needs to be prepared. He said today he was going to get back to himself....whatever that means!! He used to not drink, and their big arguement, was he was adament about having her baptized in his church, and my DD was just as adament he not! So.....she told him she had taken legal steps to assure this will never happen again, he was unhappy about that, but not so much about having his visitation changed, as the CS issue. He just bought a new house, and cannot afford it....too bad! Time for him or gf to get a 2nd job I guess. CS was due before the house was bought. She said the gf has 2 daughters, and she thinks having hers there causes a lot of stress, so he is not fighting too hard over the visitation. He apologized about the car seat and the strap burns again, like it helped. Although acknowledging it is a step for him. Well off to the hot tub for a soak......stress relief is called for. Thanks for the moral support----y'all are the best!

Well......I had a crappy day at work, and in hind sight, I think it was probably better than being here stressing at my computer.... It does seem hard to believe that it has been a year since Susanne retired! WOW! Then again, my oldest granddaughter turned 7 a couple of days ago---I am OLD! I carry my cell phone in my bra---I refer to carrying it in my top pocket. The other day at work, I bent over to pick up something while screening a kid and it fell out, he asks me "where did that come from?!" he thought I was magic!!! Not being told of proper attire is something Rick could/would do without question! He has no issue walking in to a restaurant, straight from work, no matter how dirty he gets through the day---he is working honestly and does not let it bother him. I on the other hand will change if I see a spot that did not wash out! Have grown used to being with him grunged out tho!!! One thing about it Laura, besides the internal discomfort at not fitting in, you were much more comfortable than they were in all their finery!!! The office manager, did her best to embarrass and humiliate me today in front of people, she was in a pissy mood and took it out on me. She made a couple of HUGE mistakes----and I dealt with them, and her in the same way I want to be dealt with. She grabbed things out of my hands, ordered me around, was a bit*h in every way today. I did some deep breathing, and told myself, I will look for something different, so I do not have to put up with her. She is hell on wheels EVERY Monday. I don't know why. She works 6 days a week, so does the Dr. I am only there 5. The only day off she has is Sunday, and every Monday she is HORRID to be around. Not sure if it is residual, from being home with her DH, who I get the feeling she doesn't much care for---or what. But I have about had my fill. Rude witch. Sad thing is, as the week progresses, she will ease up, and be easy to get along with----and have me questioning my decision again, until next Monday. OK, not next Monday---I am off!!! LOL. Actually the next 2 Mondays I am not there. This next is Labor Day, then we are in ABQ for Rick's annual cardiologist appt. the following. Well I am going to go check my email, and moderate a couple of threads, and veg while Rick watches football. See ya in awhile....

DD has a decent job, and can support them, while the economy holds out for her--if it tanks, it will be hard for her. She DID call the police, but was basically informed that unless she had an issue that would lead to arrest they did not get involved. She recorded her call to them. In NM it is legal to record a phone conversation as long as one of the parties knows it is happening. I can record my call with you but cannot record you talking with someone else legally. So she did that, and she took pictures, and is taking her to her pediatrician today. She is angry. She is also thankful, he HAD a life jacket on her. They tend to cause problems in that area due to the way they fit, and as soon as you get in the water, they pull up tight in the crotch---as they float. So she said she does not want to cause an issue that would make him loosen it too much next time for her to be safe, because there is no guarantee that there will not be a next time. He told her on the phone that they were with other people, with kids, and she did not want to get out of the water, and she did not tell him until the trip home it was hurting, and he told her to let her Mama look at it as opposed to looking at it, with all the people around. Then when she fell asleep, they just let her be. He acknowledged in the call that she was just laying in the seat with no restraint---his call was recorded too. My DGD is up and around and dressed and having no real issues with it this morning. And was emotionally fine--not upset or unhappy--just her normal self. She is talking a lot about the cousins that were in town, and the other kids she played with at the lake. DD is sticking to her guns and going to make him deal with a supervised visit for awhile, and see what he acts like. CS and visitation is separate here too---but she is taking the stance that she is supporting the child, she has no extra $$$ to go back to court right now, and is simply trying to protect her. If he takes it to court, she will too. She beat him representing herself against his high dollar attorney last time!! As for my MIL, and PG------she might just decide she wants to replace me, my MIL is somewhat of a fanatic herself religion wise. She does not shove it down your throat as PG does---but it is her church's way or WRONG.....period......She belongs to the Church of Christ, and there is no music, nothing but singing--no piano, or organ, nothing. When she found out our church has a young kids worship band, complete with guitars and drums, she about had a coronary! Women take a backseat in ALL things. Men run the church and the home. I have the utmost respect for my DH, and he IS the man of the house....same as I am the woman of the house and have my own opinions, beliefs and rights. Yeah she might like PG!!!LOL Time to go to work.....Gah.........see y'all later!

Wanna come help me on your way to Slims????

I don't mean to be petty over the mis spelling----it just feels like a slap in the face. She KNOWS, that is what gets me......I honestly would prefer she just ignore the day. But the whole passive aggressive thing, and her martyr attitude, makes her HAVE to give me SOMETHING, and she makes her little dig with the spelling. Just being that way. DD just called and her ex had my DGD for the weekend, brought her home, sunburned to a point of blistering, hungry, and asleep in the back seat of a truck, with no car seat, not even a seatbelt. Then when he left, she told my DD her "girlie parts" hurt. My DD about had a heart attack, but upon inspection, she has a raw strip, about an inch wide, all the way across her lower body, and up onto her lower back---it is from the crotch strap on her life jacket. She says she told them it hurt, but they wouldn't fix it. Cherry on top, he informed her he could not afford to pay her, either CS or his half of the day care. He has not paid CS in over 6 months, and his last 2 checks to daycare have bounced. She told him, he no longer could take her on his own. When she asks to see him, she will meet him at McDonalds or something, that until he regains some responsibility she is refusing visits. He is pissed! He is threatening court---I told Manda to take some pics and tell him to bring it on. Then her BF pissed me off, acting like she was being too lenient, and getting on her case. Back off it is not his business!! AND she does have a court order giving him visitation, so if she can show she is attempting even with the problem to maintain a relationship with them, then she is better off, and DGD loves her Daddy (who knows why!!!). The BF has full custody of his kids who have not seen their mom in years, but it is not all cut and dried like that---he needs to leave himself out of it. Made me sick at my stomach, lost my dinner, just thinking of someone not taking care of my little DGD makes my soul hurt. Sad.......

I didn't see anything about Haydee's date being set either, but used my amazing powers of deduction.....and figgered it out all by my own self!!! LMAO!!! Just got off the phone with my DD. She was fighting with her ex. He brought Kinsey home a short time ago, and was with some guy she didn't know, and they had Kinsey just sleeping in the backseat of the truck, no carseat, not even a seatbelt! She was hungry, sunburned to a point of blisters on her shoulders. Manda was furious, I had bought her new jammies, and she was all excited to put them on---so Manda ran her a bath, and when she went to sit down she screamed, and when investigating Manda found a raw red stripe all along her privates, and up to her lower back. She told Manda it was from her life jacket---which is feasible, it does fit that way, she said she kept telling them it hurt, but no one would fix it. He said he could not afford the daycare---so he has not paid CS or helped with the daycare in 2 months. He has not paid CS outright in over 6 months, he had been paying 1/2 the daycare, but the last 2 payments his checks bounced. So she told him, no more, he will see her only when they meet up, he will not take her on his own again. She told him when Kinsey asks to see him, she will meet him at McDonalds or something and they can visit. He is furious, threatening her with court.....I told her let him bring it on, if his daycare checks bounce----how is he going to afford a lawyer? Then again, he can afford to take a HUGE boat to the lake....but not CS. She said Kinsey ate 3 pieces of chicken---2 legs and a thigh, and almost an entire cucumber for dinner! She said she seems happy enough, not traumatized acting, but Manda is beside herself. Makes me cry and makes my stomach sick, to think of them not taking care of her. He is such an ass. She called to see if she could make an incidence report, with the police, and they said they do not do that. If it is something they can arrest him for, if she wants that they can make a report, then follow through....otherwise they don't get involved, she has to resolve it in court. She does not want to make things worse for Kinsey, she loves her Daddy. Just no one else does! Manda's BF kinda pissed me off over it too, acting like she is not doing enough---like she needs to be a hard nose, and yadda, yadda, yadda. I agree it is not something she should accept, but allowing her to see her Daddy in a safe setting is acceptable, and in Kinsey's best interest, if not Manda's and the BF's. And this IS about Kinsey, NOT them. Besides the fact, she DOES have a court order for her to see her Daddy. If she does end up in court, it will look much better for her, if she has made an effort for that relationship to continue. Her BF has full custody of his kids, and sees it in black and white, no gray. There is gray.....sucks but there is. It made me dive head first into the bag of coconut M&Ms! But....I took the rest out to her. I actually started on Garricks Christmas stocking this weekend! I know it is early, but they are time consuming, and---I am working so I get a short period of time to work on it, where as in the past I would put in 2-3 hour blocks of time and get them done. Rick picked this one out, it is a big snowman.... Well, I am going to go....my concentration ability is shot.

Slim I have been angry with my MIL over a certain issue for several years....it is minor in the overall view of things, but to me it constitutes an entire lack of respect. Something I have always given her. She insists on misspelling my name....using a C rather than a K. She is EXTREMELY (I seriously should have enlarged my entire font for that---I mean EXTREEEEEEEMLEY) passive aggressive. I have always thought, and continue to this day feel she does it knowingly. She whines about my BIL's niece who misspells his name on Christmas cards....and ignores everyone telling her she does the same to mine. Rick and my DIL have each told her repeatedly. It does not matter, birthday, Christmas, any other issue, any check she writes to repay us for something she writes it with a C. This year my DIL told me a few days before my birthday, that this year is should be right, that she had just reminded her. Well guess what.....the card has my name spelled with a C--so I put it aside, and refused to open it! Well there was a lot of confusionand chaos at dinner that night, and lots of cards going around etc. I told my DH "here do what you want with this, I am guessing there is a check in it (ended up being a gift card) but I am not opening it, it is not to me". He was a little put out--with both of us!! So he opens it up, finds the gift card, and on the card it says the amount. Now THIS part does not bother me at all---THIS part bothers DH!! The amount was half of what she normally has done for years--and the week before was my BIL's bday, and she ask my DH to get him a gift card to Home Depot---his favorite place---for $50.00, and he did, and she repaid him right away, no problem. Well he is mad because she is not treating me the same as everyone else---and I am the one to do for her. I could care less about the amount, it could be for hundreds, and the point I am making is it is not TO ME! It is to someone who spells her name with a C!! So DH wanted to talk to her, and I refused, and made him promise to leave it alone. Well she ask him if I opened my card, because I did not thank her. He sidestepped the question...... So another of my little pet peeves with her is money, in a different way. She is not one to borrow anything---and is VERY tight fisted---if we buy something for her, she will figure the tax etc, and write us a check for the exact amount. Where as my Mom and I often have something owed to one another, and figure it balances out, and if I spend 4 bucks on something, she will give me a $5 and call it good. Not so his Mom. So if we happen to buy something and she doesn't get to pay us---she mails us a check. We live 5 miles apart, and see them every few days! The kicker to that is---she will deduct the amount the postage costs her----or send it postage due! I promise!!! So.....I want to respond to her card with a thank you by mail (I WILL pay the postage!) and spell her name wrong. I SOOOO want to! I won't--because she is old, and honestly has a loving heart, just a wierd one!! I do not want to hurt her, but I really would like to shake her a little and tell her off on occasion!!! LMAO So Slim.......vent away, hearing your issues, makes me feel less upset about my own!! I tell myself, I could be much worse!! Ebony----hang in there girl, you had your world rocked, and he deserves to have to right it for you---and a quick roll is not gonna do it! DH ended up having to work today---so I went into town and took he and the 2 guys he called in, lunch. I HATE when his weekends work out like this. Tomorrow we go back to another week, and we hardly got to spend any time together it seems.....grrrrrrr

Both my surgeon and the Dr. I had originally chose to do the surgery before insurance issues, were very up front about the band being something I would have to work with. I was NEVER led to believe it was an easy fix. MY SIL likes to hint that she had no idea of these things, but she was right there with me for 8/10 of those meetings/appointments, and she knew. She just got impatient, and began a series of problems, that were not taken care of in a timely manner and allowed her to fail dramatically. SHE is a bandster failure, the band did not fail her. I know there are people who follow the rules, and the band does not work for them. I know there are band failures structurally--as in leaks, and placement issues. The band does NOT work for everyone. But so many of the things that end up reported as band problems are problems same as my SIL, who filled and unfilled improperly for well over a year, who stayed filled way too tight for fear of weight gain, who force themselves to throw up WITH a band, and all that gets reported as people who did not do well with the band.....and that is not right. I am sure the stats on RnY are done the same, people who refuse to take the supplements, and their health fails, get reported as bad results of the RnY even tho they were likely told of the need for supplements prior to surgery. So many of the issues are people failure. I had a cousin get banded last week, by the Dr. that does my follow up care, the one I was originally going to use. Haven't heard from her, heard from my Aunt it was happening, but my Aunt was not sure whether to share with her concerning mine. I told her hell yeah! LOL So exciting to plan for Haydee's wedding!!! Haydee, what color scheme are you thinking of for the wedding itself, we do not want to mimic it, nor clash with it, even tho a Violet hue among us would be great!!! We might all have to do something subtle!! Rick is off moving a freezer with our son, and they keep trying to call him into work. Have a feeling I am on my own for the day, which royally sucks. I want to go to a movie. Maybe I will call a friend and go see the Julie/Julia one----something he would not be so psyched over...although he goes, knowing I go with him when he wants to see something that does not appeal to me so much! My allergies are kicking my butt today. My eyes itch like crazy, and I have sneezed 2 dozen times easy.....yuck! And the worst thing of the day....tomorrow is Monday already and back to work! LOL Michelle----how is your neighbor who lost his wife coping now? And tell us what went down with the PTA fiasco----------brag to us, we want to live vicariously through your so well earned 'told ya so'!! Tracy---is the pain IN the joint? Could it be stress related? Do not ignore it if it continues to be constant---womens heart issues present in wierd ways---and stress has been a part of your life lately girl!! Worry about you! Pamela--the girl across the street, Jennifer, started school last week too---she teaches ESL exclusively--and only teaches half days. She has a 1 year old, and I think she may be pregnant again, but nothing has been said. Anyway she was telling us the other night ( bunch of neighbors gathered in the yard)that there is a woman who is in charge of scheduling that is making her crazy to the point of reducing her to yelling or crying on a daily basis. So a friend and fellow teacher of hers, started a prank with several of the teachers this woman was making crazy. Whenever she comes around they all look at her funny, and all of them look like they are seeing something out of the ordinary just behind her left ear. She said it is hilarious, they have the woman checking it out in the mirror, to see what they are looking at. No one has ever come out and said anything, just pointedly looked, she said one even smirked, but most just repeatedly glance at her in the one area....behind her left ear. She said now she is standing so no one can see her on the left side! She said she is starting to feel so mean about it, but it totally destressed the situation, she said now what the woman comes to say is being nuetralized, and she can let it slide. I SOOOOO totally thought of you, and how you would have joined in on this!!! I can picture you....your eyes widening....looking at something this woman thinks must be growing out her ear!!! Maybe you can do something similar with the horrid woman at your school! Well I am off to get dressed and head to the grocery store....fun fun fun....not.

Recognizing the feeling of relief tells me you made the right choice, for you as well as for Robby. I can only imagine the guilt thing. Make like a duck and let it roll off your back. You chose your life, they chose theirs, do your best to adopt the attitude that they SHOULD have, and let the right one "judge". I am really glad you are moving ahead Tracy---I have to tell you tho, that my DH being a man---the first thing he said when I told him about your new place was...."I thought she just painted" I literally LOL'd. Yep thats a reason to stay there, you JUST painted....better move back!!! What a Goombah. Goombah is a Kinsey word----it must be Spanish or Navajo----who knows, she so far does not get in trouble for calling people that.....but I am sure it is coming!!! I'll be back tomorrow and catch up with all of you---I am heading to bed, time to slide between the sheets and catch some zzzzz's! Stayed up finishing a book---that was not worth the time spent reading it..... Nighty night!