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I should be in getting ready---but thought I would stop here first!! Going to go get Kinsey, then we are going to my dentist appt. then do my shopping, then I am taking her to see the Oscar Meyer Hot Dog mobile-----or whatever it is called! The giant weenie car thing. She saw where it was here locally on the news last night, and wants to go, so we are going, going to get her a dollar hot dog, and take her picture!! LOL Then I am coming home. I went to bed early with Rick last night. Slept good, but when he got up at 5:30, I was still exhausted! Went back to bed til 8, and again had to force myself to get up. DD said she got a call from the school that Kinsey had been bitten. There is a little girl Kinsey's age that bullies her to no end. Actually she terrorizes half a dozen kids or so. She is bigger than Kinsey by 20 pounds at least, but she pulls her hair, destroys her things---ruined her new flip flops, pulled all the heart beads off---and now bit her. Manda had complained about the hair pulling and pinching. This time she met with the director, and told her, Kinsey is NOT afraid or unable to take care of or defend herself---she can fight back, but she knows better---but that she will not allow Kinsey to become a victim. That either they DO something about it, or she will contact the state agency, AND the media, in regards to bullying starting in daycare. The parents refused to pay for the shoes, and at the repeated conferences, have decided maybe they will take little Jewel Kay to a different daycare. Manda ask the director, if she and Kinsey were in the same school district, and they aren't. Glad she will be gone. She was given a week out because she was spitting on everyone---she even spit on my toes when I went in to get Kins one day! She likes to spit she says! Psycho kid!!! Gotta get it in gear, I have less than!! 45 minutes to get dressed, ready to go, get Kinsey and make my dentist appt on time!!! It is 30 minutes away!!! Wooohoooo here we go!

Suzanne, that is wonderful news!!!! SO glad the pathology come back with good news!!!! Sorry about the hemotoma----I got them following my TT remember---seemed to prolong the healing, but not terribly. Jenn---even I don't get to ride this week. Rick is in the field---and working tons of hours. I made some stroganoff in the crock pot---so he has dinner when he comes in---I just ate, I cannot wait til that late! I am on my way out the door to go water-----the fun never ends!! But the tomatoes and chiles are ready to pick----no squash yet. BBL

Wow!!! Big savings!!! Had the plumber out this morning, they do a maintenance clean out of my sewer line, because I have so many trees, the roots and my old lines, are problematic. Will be in later to see what's going on....I am getting my house cleaned, so....if I quit, I know I will never get started again!!!

Hey girls~ Enjoyed the movie---Kinsey liked it. Was not as good IMHO as Shrek....but I like Shrek!!! From there we went to Manda's Dr. she is healing, but has 6 more weeks of rehab on it. While there I was reading the new Entertainment magazine, where there was an article saying grown men are openly crying at Toy Story 3. Ummmmm ok? I cry easily at movies, commercials, etc----my kids used to rate movies by boxes of Kleenex needed as opposed to stars! I thought it was a sweet movie in spots, but I did not cry, and would have freaked out if my DH did!!! LOL I did have to agree they named Big Baby from the movie as one of the scariest toys! Made the list with Chuckie, then again so did Furby, and I found nothing scary about them..... Rick is still working. In laws called to invite us to dinner, they invited me, even tho he was working, but it felt like they felt like they had to, so I begged off!!! Not sure what I am feeding Rick, he said it is hours away before he will be home.....so cooking and feeding him the big heavy meal he requested earlier is not gonna work.......personally, I will skip dinner. Ate about 2 inches of a 6" subway with Kinsey for lunch. We shared a bacon chicken ranch sub. Even together we did not finish it. Not wanting food....I want something sweet! Aaarrggghhh!!! Tracy, I love the sectional. I am not thrilled with my furniture. It is too big, but it is like new still! Rick and I lay on it occasionally, or Kinsey and I. But 90% of the time, we are in our LaZ Boys!!! So, I will probably have it til I croak!! Today is my parents 53rd wedding anniversary. They are off to eat dinner tonight, they have plans, but not til the weekend, because they have a guy in painting their house. They are going not far into Southern Colorado for the weekend. On Sat. They are taking a glider ride over the valley--they have taken them before, all over when they find them available, and love it! Then that night they are going to the Bar D which is a chuckwagon dinner and show, fun, corny, but entertaining. Then Sunday they are going on a jeep trip up Engineer Pass I think it is. Maybe Black Bear. One of the 14,000 foot mountain passes. They have jeep trips, they scare the bejesus out of me, but my parents love them. Then they are coming home on Monday. I am dog sitting....woohoooo! LOL I need to go out in the next day or so, and upload all of the pics on Moms camera, she is tech illiterate 100%, makes even me look efficient!!! LOL she will want to be ready to take pics! OK, I Need to fold some laundry......see y'all in awhile!

Really the only issue I have with your analogy, is that the car is an inanimate object, unable to help "repair" the dings life sends its way. Ideally an adult in a marriage, would be able to help out with those dings. The problems arise, when the other person either will not, or can not help in the repair and upkeep of the marriage. Marriage is seldom if ever a 50/50 give and take situation. There still needs to be a balance. You do not say why it has taken so long on your DH's education, and yours pushed behind it. But when one partner does the majority of the giving, and the other the taking, it does wear down. There is a loss of respect, and trust, when a plan such as yours goes awry. My DH and I have been through many, ups and downs in life---and have managed to ride them through together, and like Jaffa, I thank God for him everyday, and love him more as time goes on. And I feel the love returned to me in a deeper way through the years. I have known my DH since 4th grade! We did not marry until many years (and a couple of marriages) later. He knew me when I was runway model thin. 120 pounds on a 5'9" frame, and yep I caught his eye! By the time we actually got around to dating, I had been pregnant, and had a child, and hovered around 150 pounds----my best weight. Life threw some curves, and he left to go to school, and I remained here with my child near her father. And I entered into an extremely abusive relationship. The next time I saw him, I was closer to 300 pounds than 200. He never treated me any differently. He married me at an easy 270 pounds. We were happy for years. Then my health took a hit with my weight, and high blood pressure, high blood sugars, joint pain etc. began taking their toll. So I began researching WLS. Chose the band and discussed it with him, and the family. He was supportive, but kind of reserved. He went on to tell me, he felt like he was walking a fine line, or in a mine field. If he was gung ho supportive, I might take it he was unhappy with me as I was. If he did not react at all, I might think he resented me spending the $$ to get healthy. There is no proper way to act......he had a point. LOL Have I changed since losing 100 pounds? Yes I have, but he changed with me. We are both healthier. He did not sabotage me. He still has his Butterfinger fix---he does it at work! I am not young, but I do get looked at more---even old men look! He teases me about it. I used to feel shame when he introduced me to his coworkers or whoever. He never seemed to be fazed introducing this woman almost twice his size. He was never one who got off looking at only big women, so that was not the thing. He still puts his hand at my waist and introduces me same as always---I have changed with it tho. No more down cast embarrassed eyes---I feel proud, that he is no longer dwarfed by me---I feel normal! He was shocked when I told him this, He was almost angry that I was ever ashamed of myself. I believe the stats may be correct. Life changes non stop, and if you can change along with it together, then it is wonderful. But pulling someone else along, is hard work. Tiring work, and often unappreciated work. Good luck to you!!!

Michelle, their bathroom is like ours it is small, and while there is a fan, it is not enough to handle the moisture in the room. They too have the sliding doors over the shower/tub. On the ceiling, no matter what kind of paint or primer we used, the paint would crack and peel. Looked like our bathroom had leprosy! The exterior paint is made for temperature extremes, and moisture, followed by heat etc. It flexes more. The kid wanted to sell us some that was mold resistant. Mold is not the issue, our issue is simply the moisture followed by our dry heat, causing it to shrink & peel. Doesn't happen with exterior. You can get it in many finishes---we use a satin latex, they can tint it any color they can an interior paint. I HATE painting. So take all the shortcuts I can. And do it as infrequently as possible!!!

My goodness, Suzie, you walked enough today!!! And so soon after surgery! You never fail to impress me! I went to town with my Dad, and helped him get paint for his house, they are having it painted inside. Good thing I went, that salesman saw him coming looking lost! Then proceeded to argue with me about what kind of paint I wanted for the bathroom----a kid all of maybe 20.....he tried to explain the difference between interior and exterior paint to me! LOL I listened, then said "right, we want the exterior base for the bathroom" He finally just shrugged! LOL Then come home, and put in the window glass----not a new line of work in my future! Nails (fingernails) are not compatible with putty!! Kinsey stayed with us awhile tonight, while Manda was at practice. She is skating, but not competitively---just on wheels. She gets the results of her MRI tomorrow. Hope all is well. After the Dr. we are going to see Toy Story 3. Should be fun. Rick leaves at 4 again, going to try not to break any windows tomorrow!!! Terri---did you come up with a place to meet up again?? Tracy---did you hear from your apt. people? So is the plan to move ASAP, and shut off the elec. so it is not an issue for July---just the rent to the old place? It sure fell together well, just like it was meant to be. My life never falls into place like that!! OK---off to the shower, I am hot and sticky!

Hi ~ I would like to ask you all to please pray for, and add to any prayer chains you may be a member of, a young man by the name of Jarred V. He is my friend Marie's son, he was in a motorcycle wreck and fractured C-1, and C-2. He is in a drug induced coma to restrict ALL movement. He is currently breathing on his own, but they have him on a ventilator supplement, to keep him from struggling. They have no idea yet of movement...the Dr. said when they picked him up they said he was moving. Of all things they think he was hit in the head by a bird! He does not have injuries indicative of the neck break being from impact with the pavement. A witness travelling the other way said it was something out of the air hit him in the side of the head. The other injuries are very few, and pretty minor---a fractured wrist, and road rash. This happen down south, and they air lifted him to UNM hospital in Albq. She is of course extremely upset....I so wish there was something more I could do. I will be keeping her 3 grandkids for the day on Wed. I think while her DD goes down to see her Brother, but the kids are all 8, 10 and 12....so no big deal there. Rick went to work at 4:30 this morning. He stopped at the end of the driveway, and tossed me my paper. Which is a normal thing. Well this morning, just as he went back to toss it, his elbow made contact with the trash dumpster--today is pick up day---and he forgot it was there, it startled the you know what out of him, and he turned loose of the paper wrong----and it come right through the front window pane! He was so upset! Mad at himself. He said he thought someone was standing there, and he jerked, sending it much faster than intended--and there was a magazine in todays edition, so it was heavy----well he was on his way to work. So I stuck plastic over it, then just finished cleaning it up and out, now need to get glass and get it in there---not what I planned on doing today!!! Dads her gotta go~

Good morning~ Had a post planned, and Suzie, I have been in an abusive relationship, and can guarantee your friend is as well. There are many reasons one stays....not all of them stupid. I stayed to protect my family he threatened. It sounds trite now, but it was a real threat, a serious threat, and a very effective one as well. I agree stay away while he is there, but listen to her with an open mind and heart---tho I know you will. There are lots of people out there just searching for what you and I have found. You found yours quickly, I had to make some serious mistakes first!!! LMAO! Anyway----will be back to post, Rick wants to take a ride....sounds like fun to me!

A quick thought as I was reading through this... Tracy, with the pool being right outside, and in view for you, you can analyze the situation, and figure when it is the emptyest (is that a word???lol) You can use it for exercise--then if lots show up and you are not comfortable there, you just pop in your house!!! Way cool!!! I would cry if I moved---we have lived in this house since 1991!!! The junk we have amassed is ridiculous, and no one needs half of it....but, we hang on to it anyway, thinking someday we may need it again.....and to replace it would cost lots more than we could sell it for. You know those thoughts. And pictures. I have boxes of pictures. I feel guilty throwing them away---but keeping my own family is hard! I have pics of friends grandkids etc. WTH do you do with them??? I should scan them all to disc, label them and toss the boxes! Rick saw a toolbox at a yardsale he wanted to check out so we stopped. I bought 5 new pair of Levi jeans size 6 Slim with the adjustable waist---labels still on all but one pair, for a buck a pair! By winter they should fit Kinsey I am guessing. Also got her several Old Navy shirts brand new, for a dollar or less, and a Gap winter coat, and 4 of the stuffed dogs, that look like the Brats girls--only they are dogs, they have coats, and skirts, and carry cases---they are thebig ones---10" or so. Anyway, alltogether, jeans, shirts, and toys I spent $12.50. And the clothes have never been worn! The grandmother bought them, and they did not fit, the kid was not a slim sized kid, and the grandma apparantly thought that would encourage her to slim down----in a size 6 kids??? No wonder people grow up with eating disorders! These are all going in the closet, and will be part of her school clothes. No sense in wearing any of it to play in for the summer. I'll give her the toys---she will LOVE them! Especially the pink chihuahua in rhinestone studded leather!!! LOL Sorry you guys are stressing over the storm---I have not seen the weather, just keep hoping you will ALL be ok. Rick got called in to work, but it is a minor job, and they aren't needing it immediately, so he is stalling, because once he is there, they will find things to keep him. Then he has to go finish plowing. He needs spark plugs, so guess who gets to do a parts run??? bbl!!!

Hey girls~ Just went and had dinner with my daughter---she bought even!!! Woo Hoo!!! LOL Rick is out plowing, so he won't have it all to do tomorrow. He IS treated differently than the other kids---but while it irritates me, I see their health declining so fast lately, that I try not to complain to him too much about the time spent, or how much he does, simply because, #1, they need the help. They should quit farming, but it is all that keeps his Dad going I think. And #2, when that time comes, and it will, for all of us(!!!), but when it comes for them, I want Rick to be comforted by the fact he did all he could. I don't want him saying "I wish I had......". He will know he helped, and he spent time, and he won't have those regrets. His siblings will. His sister here, she spends time with them, she will not have those regrets....she attends Dr's, she takes them shopping, she is there. She does not work, but she is there. It matters too. Over dinner I explained the new wills to my DD. She was shocked, and saddened. She thinks we are giving up too easily. If there was a common desire to improve things, it would be too early, but, we seem to be the only ones wanting more. So, it is the right thing. She assured me that in the horrible case she were to have to disperse the ADD policy, she would set up education funds for all the grandkids, and if any of our parents are still living, she is to help them. She says---wow I guess I am grown up, you trust me this much. LOL. yeah. ya think? Tracy, sounds like things are meant to be, they seem to be falling into place really well for you! A poolside view will be nice....might be noisy tho! Suzie, how you feeling? The incision site looks sore as hell!!! Terri---name the time and place!! You come to Aztec last time, I will go to Farmington this time. I am there most days anyway!!! Cindy---any improvements on the Summer School program? Suzy--so sorry to hear about the problems with Gia, and the cat as well! Sometimes no matter how much you want to help, or want things to work out, they just don't. People are not always what we want or can accept. Most of us who have been through divorce know this as well! Hoping things work out for all of you...hang in there!!! Michelle----being mean to Teagan? Shame on you!!! LOL, they learn to push our buttons at a young age, thats for sure! And if she is tired, watch out!! I t will all be good, the lessons are hard to teach, but worth teaching. I am seeing both sides of the coin now in our grown kids---and respect, and behaviour need to be taught young! Jenn---did you say George spent the night?? Oh the shock!! The shame!!! LOL....Did ya have fun??? Angela--when you see Tracy next....kick her in the butt for me, like I'd care if she was 500 pounds or ORANGE!! Of course I want her happy, and healthy, but that is the only reason it matters!!! I hope you all get together soon, and if you go to Tracy's to hang at the pool drinking Margi's----talk about me!!! LMAO Think I will go turn off all my irrigation water---the yard has had enough today!!! Rick is on call, so haveno idea if we will be able to do anything this weekend or if it is all taken up with work and farming. Whatever.....I will roll with it!

I will be back in to chat with y'all in a little while, I am mowing the yard. I think I shoulda opted to bail it--holy smokes it is long! Rick has been cutting alfalfa, and discing the field for his Dad, seems he is going to be having prostate surgery afterall, his tests were not good. They operate on the 16th----same day we were to leave for a rally, that I guess we won't be attending afterall......and until then, he cannot lift, or pull, or strain in any manner----so guess who has been doing it all, since returning from TX????? Anyway, I hired my brother to go out and do their yards, and some weed whacking, hope it helps keep Rick from doing it all. His brother will be here next week, but his Mom has already warned us that with his allergies, he won't be able to do much outside----whoopdefriggindo---he has allergies--we ALL do! Anyway---the temp is going up, and I am less than half through mowing--------bbl!!!

I'm home....AGAIN!!!!! I scanned posts, said my Happy Birthdays---had 3 today!!! LOL And now, I am heading to bed. Will tell ya all about it in the AM. Hugs to all of you!

Well, I am getting ready for bed. Most of my stuff is packed, and I made motel reservations, so I think I am as good to go as I am going to get! My SIL invited us to stay with her, but she is way South in Denver, and I need to be North! Not worth the rush hour hassles, so made reservations. We went to dinner with Becky and Gary. Rick went on and on about how much fun he had in SA. Made me more determined than ever to get him to follow through, and go and DO more things. He told me he wanted me to find a dog I want and get it. LOL. I told him maybe in Sept. After we get back. We find out on Fri. I think if and when MIL has surgery. Michelle....hope the ibuprofen works for you. I have no other suggestions. You might experiment with hot and cold drinks. Both have helped me at different times with different issues. Suzie, you keep healing, and letting others wait on YOU for a change!!! Soon your DH and DS will be adding sequins, and beads, to outdo one another on your bandages!!! LOL, I can see it now! Oh and see it----yeah me too, I wanna see the pics!!! Everyone have a good few days, will be home sometime Thursday or Friday I figure, depends how much family hangs out, I will let my folks visit as long as they can.....

Home from town, have my laundry done, now to swap out the things in the suitcase to a smaller one, and get it all set. I seriously do not want to go! OMG my DH is in a state. DS is still being pissy, as I told you, we have never figured out how this is all Ricks doing....but in his screwed up mind I guess it is. Anyway, we saw them in TX, and everyone was civil, but he did not so much as call yesterday! And then younger DD is PO'd over the issue with her Mom and Manda with the storage unit and the attorney, so she avoided us as well. So at lunch today Rick ask me to sign his new allocations. I ask to what? He redid his life insurance, and his accidental D&D. We of course leave everything to one another---but, in his CS and divorce he had to leave equal portion to the other child, the one we just finished paying for. So, he wanted to change that, and when he got in there....he changed it all! He is having his brother allot their portions to the grandkids when they reach the age of majority, in both of his kids cases. He left Manda's be, and she is named 100% on the accidental death -- he said she is the only one who would worry about burying us! But deleted his kids out of things. He means money, property, equipment, tools, motorcycles, everything that was divied up with the kids, has skipped straight to grandkids. Now I personally imagine down the road he will change it again, but they have no idea how deeply they hit him. He is not sitting around waiting for them to do it again either! He said he put a request to withdraw a fidelity fund we had been saving in, we then buy CD's when we cash any out---this time he told me to get my passport, however I have to do it, we have an inheritance to spend!!! LOL I hope he does plan to enjoy that money he worked for, travelling, buying a new bike, whatever----at least HE appreciates how hard it is to come by! Anyway---it was done to hurt him, but in the end pissed him off, so he is changing things fast and furious. Manda and Kinsey were here, and he had a good day---she worships her Papa! BUT, she was raised her entire life to have a little respect, and you cannot erase the crap ex wives instill in kids....or ex husbands as the case may be. Should have my laptop with me --- if my brain is in gear when I leave tomorrow, so will check in from the motel.

Good morning~ I forgot to tell you all that while I was gone, a cousin of mine---my Moms 1st cousin, and best friend forever, passed away. So I am leaving in the morning headed for Denver to take my parents to the funeral. Will leave on Tuesday, come home on Thursday. My Mom is very upset, it is going to be a difficult trip. My Mom was her maid of honor when she married a boy she met at the museum of natural history in Denver almost 60 years ago. At their wedding, my Mom met the grooms best friend and college roomate, who was the best man.....and married him 6 months later! Her cousin, and his friend then stood up for them! So this has been a close relationship, for her entire life, and she is taking it hard. I dislike driving in Denver myself, and will NOT let them do it!!! And with all that is going on, trying to get someone to pick them up at the airport etc. is hard. The suburb they live in, the cab ride would be pretty long, and I can make the trip for that! Kids, besides Manda were a total disappointment yesterday. Can't go there. Will tell ya later. Gotta run....chaos ensues.

I'm HOME!! Suzie---I am so glad your surgery went well. I had no idea, but I prayed for you all every night! Even the night I missed the bed (waaaaay too much mexican beer!!!!). I will be anxious to hear what your results of the tumor are. It is good they got it all and quickly. Angela---I agree with everyone else, take it slow, and from a distance. I mean we are all getting to know one another really well this way---it CAN be done!! Sorry the kiddo was sick on top of it all! Terri! Woohooo a Surgery date!!! Let me know if you want to do lunch again!! How exciting! Tracy---Honey maybe when the meds kick fully in and you are feeling better you will quit worrying about the meds themselves!!! LOL I know many people on meds of mild to heavy types, and as we have discussed, many others who should be on them! I am so glad you are following up, Rick's heart valve sudden total failure, is proof, we need to take it serious! He was fine then not! Jenn--- glad to see you posting again! Miss ya! Michelle---congrats on the job! DD sounds like such a sweetie!! Is she feeling better? We had a wonderful time! SA was great, we strolled the river walk, and ate way too much! We bought lots of things at Market Square, we did the Alamo, and the Art museum. We had a blast at SeaWorld, rode every roller coaster there repeatedly! We hit the amusement part during the second round of shows, and there were no lines! The log flume ride and the Great White roller coaster thing, they never even made us get off! I filled out a survey in regards to buying my tickets on line, because there was a glitch in the process, so they upgraded our visit, and gave us free food for the day---we got arm bands that just let us walk in the restaurants, and get our food and drinks, and not pay!!! Was great! Then I went into the bathroom, and while I was in the stall I hear this Indian family arguing (they were in there when I went in, in full dress, and the language, you knew they were eastern Indian) and when they left, I was alone in the restroom. I went out, washed my hands, and was drying them, when I thought I would look at my knee. It is major scabbed, and the water rides, it was kinda icky. When I looked down, there was what looked like a dollar folded on the floor. I picked it up--and when I did, I see the other side, and the word "hundred"! I about choked! I looked around! I went out, and ask Rick if he saw them looking for something, but he said he never saw them. I watched for them the rest of the day, and never saw them! With that and our free food---we ate, and played ALL day for under $30.00!!!! One night we partied pretty good!!! It was the night we went out celebrating, big nice dinner, etc to celebrate the end of the Child support! We thankfully were not hung over the next day---we could have easily been!!! We rode the trolley, we did not drive much at all, it was a blast! Got home late last night, and have 14 people due here in a couple of hours for a Fathers Day cook out. The day before we left, the kids passed through o their way to Louisianna. Was very sad. I made it through the good byes, then cried my eyes out. I will miss the boys more than I can say. We took Connor riding, the tractor, and let him drive on the country road. Bought him a handfull of new toys to take with him......Garrick, didn't "get it" so......anyway they are gone. They made it, the moving company showed up so they are gone. I need to get busy. I missed y'all! Rick is gone for a ride, I want to get some things done while he is gone--it is Fathers Day after all--and his kids BETTER call. Manda has----they better! Glad to be back---missed talking to y'all!

Hey girls, no time to read thru everything, just popped on Aunties computer to buy Seaworld tickets! We leave out for SA in the morning---yay!!! This has been fun tho, I am enjoying myself. Knee is scabby and sore, but ankle is better (gotta love DMSO!!!) Anyway---read enough to see Tracy is well---YAY!!!! Will check in in a few days---gotta go call my Mommy today is her birthday! Take care all!!

Still nothing from Tracy??? Damn! I am not going to hear anything before I leave, maybe I will call her and find out whats going on. Yeah, I am hurtin' for certain today! My ankle and knee on opposite legs took the brunt of it. Have a brace on my ankle, bandage on my knee, and life goes on....hobbling on!!! LOL Of course while I am a cripple, I see my first snake of the year a minute ago, I HATE snakes with a passion! Also cost me my waterer---my Mom will not come around if snakes do! So hopefully Dad is braver! New Braunfels is where the Violets met up, then we went on to San Antonio. If the river is flowing fast, Kat is not getting in. Ask Tracy, it was an issue with me in the first place, I am not a strong swimmer! So.......we may do something else! Just waiting, Rick should be off any time now, so we can finish loading up and head out, will likely make it to Lubbock tonight, then go on in tomorrow. We have people to see in Lubbock. Still have some housework to get done before leaving, I will not leave my house a wreck! I want it clean when I come home! Cold, is getting worse! This may prove to be a real fun vacation!!! Throat is sore, just feel like sleeping, not doing anything, and I have tons to do! Anyway, I will check in as I can, everyone take care, and behave---hahahahhaha yeah right!!! Suzie---will try to check in and see what they have you scheduled for when! See ya soon!!!

Hope we hear from her soon. Been wondering about her tonight. Was not as bad as I expected....why? Because they are side tripping their way to Louisiana through TX and coming to the ranch on Wed & thurs. So my SA trip will be short, but will get to see son. Even being mad at him, we love him..... So I am changing my name from Kat to Grace. We bought a new center console for the van today, so tonight after we got home, we went to try it out....where the driveway angles into the entrance from the street, the slope is kind of funky---we sit on a slight hill---and I twisted my ankle wierd on it, and fell ---- HARD! Ruined my capris---ruined my new pedicure, scraped my knee, it has bled through 2 bandaids now, scraped my elbow, the palms of my hands hurt.....AND I feel like a dumbass!!!! I will check in tomorrow before we leave, it is lookign like it will be later than we hoped. Then I will try to check in from there....but no service at the ranch.

Right Paula, but the scans always show my 2 tumors, which are stagnant, and supposedly pre cancerous.......so I was asking them to explain that, because I wanted to know personally!!! LOL I have one in my mastoid (a bony type gland behind your ear) on the right side, and also one in my right fibula--the small shin bone. They have been there that we know of for 7 years. No change. BUT they show up on ALL bone scans, and PET scans, anything radioactive it shines! I have 4 glowing spots on the films I have seen. The injection site, the bladder as it waits to be eliminated, and the 2 tumors. Either my thyroid never showed it...or it was non active during any of the scans. But the other 2 are shining bright. But no one is concerned, and I wanted to know WHY I shouldn't be, and how they can tell if hers IS cancer, and these are still pre cancerous. They have done bore biopsies on my leg twice in the intervening years. Wierd!!! Suzy, good to see you again. How wierd is that kitten, usually they are so easily litter trained! I imagine you have tried different litter, or a different pan, or location? I have had one who thought my houseplants were additional bathrooms---but never one who did anything elsewhere. Vet have any ideas? Gia is going to act out in general, with her background, and being a teen together, it could be a wild ride! Good Luck, come in and vent any time!!! Going out to dinner at my inlaws--like I have time for this! But will be the last time I get to see my grandsons for awhile. I tear up typing it, I cannot imagine actually driving away tonight, it is heartbreaking. Add to that I think the DIL was in on the issue with the ex----but that is ok. You would all be sooooo proud of me! We filed a police report on it, the PO showed DD's change of address, and all we needed, there was no certified letter, no attempts made. And no reports filed. I hope she sinks! She lied, she stole it, and she WILL pay. I LOVE it! Witchy Bitch! Sorry! Anyway, will be glad to get tonight over, not wanting to say bye to the boys...... Be well Tracy!

OMG still in the hospital! That is scary enough!!! My fake heart attack, I went home from ER!!! Not meaning to make like her situation is funny, was hoping she was having the same problem. Tell her we are all thinking of her!!!! Not liking it when my "home" girls have problems! Went got my shopping done, windshield was done while I was gone, looks great!!! Painted my nails, now sitting here eating a Silver Fox shaved ice---soooooo good!!! Will check back in awhile---hugs!!

Hi Kerrib, sorry you are in the spot you are. I guess my first question to you would be if you had discussed the lack of reaction to your last two fills with your Dr. If not, thatmay be the place to start. Leaks are not unheard of, and you may be having problems with that. Talk about the problems you are having with stomach pain etc. with him/her. Most Dr.'s want to see you succeed. The band will never compare in loss rate with the bypass in the beginning, over time, the losses are similar. But, if you had reacted adversely, you can have your band removed, she cannot have her stomach sewn back on. Many people do not have issue with that, if scared me, so I chose banding. IF you eat a balanced diet, you will not need supplements, another issue with bypass that kinda unnerved me! The amount you are eating is more than I can eat, and I have very mild restriction----VERY mild. I choose to be that way. I cannot eat a whole burger out of a childs meal---I remove the top bun, fold it over, and eat about 1/2 I'd say. French fries, are hard for me to eat---they don't digest well. So I avoid them. So, if you can eat the equivalent to a childs meal, you may need another fill, but not until you are checked out with the Dr!! LOL Type of food is another thing. Eating out is not a problem, if you do it wisely. I can eat salads, and usually do. But like yesterday I went with a new friend to lunch who is thinking about being banded. We had mexican food. They had a Taco Tuesday thing going on, so we were given 2 tacos, rice and Beans. I ate one taco, and some beans. Ignored my rice---and the extra taco looked good, there was just not room. So I am still able to eat a meal, I am not one of the 3 bites and I am done bandsters!!! I ignored the rice because it is like the fries, or Pasta, I think they swell, and make me toooooooo full and I hurt then! Have you tried keeping a journal? Sometimes it can show you where the hidden calorie intake is happening, or you can pinpoint that your stomach hurts every night after you eat XXXX . At any rate, if you keep it, you can carry it with you to your Dr, and show him/her what your intake is, and it will give them a more complete picture of what your fill level is at, than a number on a syringe. Noone can just look and see inside us to know how the band is restricting.....so the more info you arm yourself and your Dr. with the better your chances at figuring it out. Back to your stomach aches----not sure if it might be an issue, but my granddaughter had similar issues at night. They had them keep record of what she was eating, and come to find out, it was her oranges that were the problem. The citric acid was causing her food to begin rotting, (gross I know sorry!) before it was fully digested, so when she quit the fruit on a belly full of food, she was fine! Now she eats fruit as a snack, on an empty stomach, and no problems!!! If she eats any kind after dinner---WHAM!! Who would have thought it would be bad??? I know I would reach for that when I wanted sweets! I quit when they found out, and eliminated the gassy issues I was having at night! Same problem I am guessing! I know many people eat around their band, and when we learn how, most of us do at least occasionally. But....my band is "old" too, I was banded in 2006. The first 2 years were EASY! I dropped faster than I do now, without the diet difference. I have done the 5 day pouch test, and we ( a group of bandsters) have "started over" and yes we lost, but nothing like in the beginning. I believe your metabolism slows in response to the changes---and it does take more work in the latter part of your weight loss than in the beginning. And when you regain it, it is even harder to lose!!! I think it must really like me!! It come back and it wants to stay! LOL Good Luck. Do some serious investigation and talk to your Dr.

On my way out to get some things done, but was hoping for word about Tracy. I hate to call her if she is feeling bad..... Angela, have you dropped more weight suddenly? That can cause skin breakouts and mood swings. The estrogen dump into your system can wreak havoc. Just yesterday Terri and I were talking about it! Thanks for the kind words. I try not to make the band sound perfect, but real, and also let people know they can live normal lives with it! We had an Uncle growing up who had a pond. Dad would take my brother and I fishing occasionally---he was afraid to take us most of the time, that he would have to fish one of us out of the Water, the way we fought!! But we would keep him busy baiting and unhooking fish! First one of us then the other, he seldom got a line in the water. Cindy---are your summer kids settled in and ready to impress?? Suzie, enjoy your day...I am going after a few grocery items. Bottled water tea etc. We do not drink the well water there. If you are there long term, it clears up pretty good, but using it as intermittantly as we do, it is pretty bad!!! We shower and wash in it, but not cook or drink. Also need to get my nails polished today, they look pretty rough---the garden is hard on them! Have a man coming to replace my windshield in the van today. But I don't have to be home for it---not a big deal, he is someone Rick does business with at work all the time. Got my Avon delivered a few minutes ago, which is good, I have new goodies to take with me!! Not sure if I told ya'll or not, but the PET scan showed the tumor of my MIL's to be cancerous (not sure how, and they never answered my ????) but they now think it is removable surgically. They said it is only stage 1, and with removal she will not need followup treatment. I question the Dx, but that is how I am!!! LOL Gonna run and do my stuff. Will check back in as soon as I get back for word on Tracy.

Boy I Hope Tracy is ok! My brother in law, Becky and I have a "fake heart attack" club. We have all had issues with chest pain, and it been other things! Hope Tracy joins our ranks. Worries me. Terri and I did meet up, and had a great time! She will fit right in our little group here! I look forward to many more meet ups with her! Got our clothes washed, and set aside, need to go to the shed and get the suitcase tomorrow. Then pack all the other things we want. Rick said tonight, he thinks we will extend our time in SA, there are a couple of other things he wants to see. I am all for it! Drama going on with my DH's ex---she has a death wish I think, because she has now gotten on my last nerve! She needs to find a psych ward she likes and move in permanently! Aarrgghh! Witch! Will be back to see if there is word on Tracy---maybe it come in while I was posting!