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next month right before Christmas for me....

Dear Debbie Downer listen this whole thing has to be about you and getting you healthy, not finding Mr Right, that will happen in time, take this time to focus on you, search yourself and deal with your "fat issues" we ALL have them or we wouldnt be here getting banded etc, other than the very small percentage of peeps who are overweight due to medical issue, the rest of us have issues that we have hid under all the fat if anyone tells you different theyre lying to you, give yourself a break, stop judging yourself by the lack of dating options and start investing in yourself, nothing more attractive than a confident lady. keep your chin up and take care.

Congrats KNNY let us know how it goes ! I am going Thursday to have my consult, how it goes by quick ! anyone here get banded with Dr. Bagan in Port Charlotte ?

Keep up the good work !

I agree with you Beth, as much as we invest in the lapband and changing our outward body and health, we need to work equally as hard on our mental health. Thanks for listening...

I know the feeling alone deal, I think its because when you are in the mode of being a fat person ( I still am ) you somehow develope a hollow space inside yourself that only you can get into or out of..? and losing weight is great obviously, but I think we have to learn how to live in the real world again, that includes being seen by others, Blue eyes- I can relate to your hubby about getting lost on the game, former play station2 junkie, my wife sold my PS@ one day while I was out of town lol... I was pretty pissed at the time but now I can see how rediculus it was and how much time I was robbing from her and the kids, I have another one now but hardly ever play it... just a thought. makes you ask why is this so hard, but the fat comes on slow so I guess undoing the affect of being fat for so long cannot be expected to go away over night or in proportion to the weightloss even ?

yeah, Im glad in a way that I will finnaly have to face this but like I said its the monster in the dark from my childhood, like you said we didnt get fat because we were happy campers, it was my escape from my reality... yes it is ironic, I am so excited and happy about having the lapband done but at the same time keeping one eye on the monster in the closet....