Hey everyone,
I have come to the realization that the reason that I started gaining weight when I was younger was to stop the abuse I was going threw... mental, physical, and sexual. So now that I am an adult and have a bmi of 55.5 and finally ready to shed the pounds there is a little battle going on inside me. I dont know how I will handle the weight loss... i mean I know I wont ever be a skinny minny, but my goal is to lose 150 lbs. then i would be 200 lbs. Ive never had men that were interested in the real me come up to me and start a conversation. The ones I have met in the past wanted something from me... money.. my vehicle... a place to live.. you know someone to mooch off of. and at that time I wasnt strong enough and didnt belive in myself enough to stand up and tell them to take a hike. And I dont know how to flirt... never needed to ya know I was the fat girl that nobody was interested in. but now I see that there is more to me then my apearance. I mean that does help get the door open to start conversations with new people, but from there on out its all me. so anyways what I guess Im tryingto say is does anyone have any advice on how I can get ready for the daiting scean.. (havent had surgery yet but I want to start practicing for when It happens and I start losing weight) and where are some good places to meet people... im not into the bar scean... anyways thanks and have a great day.
Erikka from oregon