BethFromVA

I know I'm a double troublemaker, but I LOVE HH.

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Oh no... :biggrin: I don't know what to say except I'm sorry... but I guess you are being saved for bigger and better things, m'dear.

Well, I wasn't able to fit my computer in my saddlebags on my motorcycle, so I was sitting there jonesing for some PJTP. And now I have five pages to catch up on! lol Hubby seems to be feeling a tad better today. Was sucking on his straw a little bit ago. He's 44 and has been smoking since he was 8, so... yes, you read right, 8. He needs to quit. As for the get-together, my break will actually be about the second week in May, so I'd be back to school by June. :biggrin: And considering that I'm not sure what's gonna happen with hubby and work... I don't know what to say either. I would rather a date be chosen that will work for the masses, and if June works better (though I know, being a Texan, that it WILL be hotter! ), then June it should be. I'll just come down on my own sometime and mow Lu's back 40.

Omg, it's YOU!!! You've been SO MISSED!!! HI!!

Okay, TOTAL scale victory: Decided to get on the scale today just to see how things were going (took everybody's advice and did NOT get on it before starting the pouch test), and I'm at my low, 227.5, again!! And I'm only on day 3/5 of the test -- I say 3/5 because it SHOULD have been my final day, but because I had that dinner on Friday, I started over again on Saturday. :wink2: VERY happy!! I have no idea how much I gained while away, but it was nothing but carbs -- pastas, candy, ICE CREAM, chips... it never ended. And... school starts for me today! Don't know yet if I'm excited or scared sh*tless. I'll be taking my computer with me because my Mondays are kinda jacked up -- one class from 1:20 to 4:00, then the next one from 7:20 to 10:00! Ugh... Gots-ta have something for me to do, so I'll check in. Omg, I've gotta add: Y'all remember hubby had surgery. Well, it was doc's orders that he not smoke to help with healing. So before hubby got home, I hid all his cigarettes AND his truck keys so he wouldn't leave and go get some. Actually he's been doing pretty well -- externally. In other words, he hasn't complained much and has not been bitchy with me. However, every once in a while, especially yesterday, he was like this sad little boy, saying how hard it is for him, he really wants a cigarette, and he's not dealing well with it. He finally asked me last night for one cigarette, promised he wouldn't light it, because he needed the hand-to-mouth. I suggested he just eat some chips and dip (he hasn't been eating tons since getting home). Said he didn't want food. I said I understood how he's suffering, but what if, upon coming home from my band surgery, I said I just wanted to hold and smell a burger, would he do it? Or, in correlation to him wanting to smoke "just one," would he have given me a burger to eat? He said if I really wanted it, yes. WHAT? lol I said he'd be stupid to do so, but of course his answer just suited his purpose. I recommended rolling up some paper or using a pencil or something. So... he grabs a straw, plugs one end with cotton, and I could see him downstairs when I went up to bed, sitting here sucking on that damn straw. It was so pathetic, but I was laughing because it looked so sad and silly. I'm not sadistic, and my reaction wasn't that... I just wish you could have seen.

Kat, word of advice -- she can TRY to implement supervised visitation, but if he decides to snatch the child and not adhere, she can't do anything about it because it is not a court order that the visitation be supervised. She can't get any sort of legal help, police or otherwise, if he says NO to the deal and takes the child and runs. And if that happens, I'm sure your daughter's natural reaction would be to go after him, and it can land HER in trouble. I would be very careful with that if I were her. We had people come in without attorneys ALL the time. If she has proof and believes the child is in danger, she will likely win against ANY attorney out there. I would just caution her to do it right so that it doesn't color the seriousness of this situation for a judge.

OMG, HOW CUTE!!!!! :tt1::wink2: I must have missed the post too, unless it was a FB thing. I haven't been on there in a while, probably since being at the folks'. What did you name her????

HeartFire, hope you start feeling well SOON! Kat, I agree with everybody here about documenting. I used to work in the family courts until about March, and if I were here, I would not only document, but I would take HIM to court if I were her to restrict his visitation to supervised ONLY until he can start acting right. And while she's at it, she needs to sue for the back child support. I don't know where they llve, but some states really crack down on that. A weekend in the slammer, and you'd be surprised how quickly the money comes in. You wouldn't believe -- some of these guys we had who had owed for YEARS by the time the mom brought them in, owing tens of thousands of dollars, and within 2-3 days there would be a hefty chunk of that paid at the counter in cash. Sometimes they have it, other times friends and/or family gathers it together. One guy's NEW GIRLFRIEND came up with over $60,000 at the window! Yeah, she'll see THAT again... :wink2: But regardless, she seriously needs to document EVERYTHING. This last stunt could have resulted in DGD's death. I would let him threaten court -- bastard is doing stuff like this AND not paying child support? Yeah, bring it on. :ohmy:

Might there be a book? Witch Taming for Dummies, perhaps?

Yanno, I've been itchin' for a fight... and my probation IS over, so... Okay, y'all, I AM kidding. About the probation, that is. :wink2:

It's not petty, Kat, it's intentional. You'd almost like to say, "Gee, I'm sorry you apparently have Alzheimers/dementia/memory issues." As for the DD and the ex: OMG. Somebody needs to whip his ass.

Yeah, I was thinking you can't use that stuff on people like that. They CREATED the curses that that stuff is used for. Maybe some holy water? That oughtta have her melting like the wicked witch of the west. :wink2:

Oh holy hell... as you're telling me this, I'm thinking in my head, "Isn't this the same b*tch that borrows all manner of stuff from y'all?? And she can take SD SHOPPING??" Lordy, Slim, I think I needs to come-a down there. Show her the err of her ways. :wink2:

Not me. I have my own self-serving reasons for wanting to read about her. That way I don't feel alone.

Did I miss something good -- er, bad?

Do you know if she had an older booklet? Because insurance is somewhat contractural, and what they cover and charge can change from year to year, I don't know that they can change it mid-stream, if this is what they did. I still say if you can get her to come on here (or research for her if you think she's not in a good mindset), there are advocate threads on this site where people have fought the insurance companies and won. I mean, if everything pointed to the fact that it was covered, and then BLAM, mid-stream the HR person says it is not, she may have a cause of action against the insurance company for changing the contracted plan. It's worth a shot, anyway. Many people have succeeded here when they have gone through almost exactly the same thing. If you're not sure where to look, I can try checking around or asking those I know here which threads are the most informative for filing a grievance with the insurance company.

There's no such thing as stupid questions -- only stupid politicians. :wub:

So Samantha, did her insurance company at first okay it (due to the fact that she also went and had some pre-op work done) and THEN deny her, or did she somehow go get some of the pre-op stuff done herself? Because if I were here, I would have fought it if they at first said yes then denied her. There are numerous links on here about people having done that and won. It still might not be over for her.

You OUGHTTA be proud, damnit!! You did GREAT!! You lost an entire person, or at least what I want to weigh when this is all over. WAY TO GO!!!

I am just now getting up! WTH??

Hubby's mom called today to check on him. Mind you, his surgery was Tuesday and never once did they call until today about 2:00 to check on him, and his mom said they were getting "so worried" since they hadn't heard anything. Um, phone works both ways. And frankly, there's no love lost between me and them, so I wasn't calling them. Bitchy, I know, but there is a long, ugly history there that has been caused and been fueled by his mother and apparently supported by his father cuz he's been whipped.

Okay, well I just started the 5-day pouch test all over again. Wasn't sure what to do since I only screwed up with one meal, but figured it would be safer to just start over. So... two more days of liquids (starting today). Yay. :wub:

Ooohh, duh...

Hey G4E!! Nice to see you, and glad to hear all is moving along. Have you tried NetZero? They are about $10 a month, I believe. Maybe give them a shot.