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So I've failed the sleeve already. I just can't beat the head hunger. I was in the office today and everyone but cakes and candies etc. I just can't say no. This isn't even the first time. And I can't stop eating when I'm full. My stomach hurts but I just keep eating. I've been in tears from my stomach hurting, but I still can't stop eating. I really don't think there's anything else I can do at this point. I've gained back only a lb but it will keep going up. I lost more weight pre-op than I have post op and there's no chance of losing more.
I knew it wasn't supposed to be easy, but I expected that I would be able to do better. This is just another diet that I've failed except it's permanent and I'm going to be on Vitamin shots and pills for the rest of my life. This was a mistake.

It’s understandable that you’re upset by this setback, but it’s way too early to declare failure. The first several months after WLS are a major adjustment and very stressful, both physically and mentally. Do you have a therapist? Your post reads like a CBT textbook chapter on cognitive distortions, and all of this can be addressed in therapy.

I will say your doing amazing, the surgery doesn't change our cravings, our habits, our mental triggers it only changes how much we can fill ourselves up without being in pain. We have all been there, this surgery does not guarantee a downhill trend, we will always have our ups and downs! I have been there, I have binged ate, to the point where I threw up, I have ate crap that I shouldn't and not just a small portion. Your deserve this active life, you deserve to feel healthy, be healthy and live life again. Do not talk yourself down to why you think you should punish yourself. Dig deep and remember your "WHY". Why did you do this surgery? Keep reminding yourself of all the positives. One day or even week does not define how your journey will go. Leave it in the past and start again. 1 day, 1 hour and 1 minute at a time. ❤️

I know it is hard to do but really you just need to try and relax, stop blaming yourself and do a mental reset if you can. These are slips, you are not a failure. Everything takes time and you need to be kind to yourself.
Is it possible that even when you can't stop eating you are still eating less than you would have before the weight loss journey? If so that is a step forward. If you don't qualify for any therapy from your medical team could you find someone online, it means it may be more affordable and more accessible? You can do some research and hopefully find a more suitable therapist. I was lucky with the therapist I got, she really helped with my post surgery ptsd but I have found more help here than I have with the dieticians they have given me.
Would it be possible to work from home for a bit more, that way be away from temptation until you can get to a place where you feel comfortable being around food?
Do you have someone within your family circle that can help you stay on track (as much as possible) in the coming days and maybe a work colleague for the time in the office?

So I've failed the sleeve already. I just can't beat the head hunger. I was in the office today and everyone but cakes and candies etc. I just can't say no. This isn't even the first time. And I can't stop eating when I'm full. My stomach hurts but I just keep eating. I've been in tears from my stomach hurting, but I still can't stop eating. I really don't think there's anything else I can do at this point. I've gained back only a lb but it will keep going up. I lost more weight pre-op than I have post op and there's no chance of losing more.
I knew it wasn't supposed to be easy, but I expected that I would be able to do better. This is just another diet that I've failed except it's permanent and I'm going to be on Vitamin shots and pills for the rest of my life. This was a mistake.

I walk, any excuse and I am off out. Today we have snow so I decided to bake bread, lemon drizzle cake and a quiche. My excersize will be cleaning the mess I make in the kitchen.

It's a bit woo woo but this is my Buddy he is a pine tree and also a marker for me. Once I reach him on my 5 mile walk/run I am so out of breath. This is a view from Texas. Texas Pines! Also this is my crazy lady 4am movement

As someone who started traveling less than 3 weeks post surgery, my biggest advice is to make sure you load up on what you need before the day starts (proteins that you can "safely" eat) - Just keeping enough snacks/food that you know you can tolerate easily during the flight rather than relying on whatever they provide you.
For me, an aisle seat was key on long hauls also just so that I could get up and walk if needed. Extra Water for the flight was also very helpful.
Mostly, enjoy the extra room! That was seriously a game changer for me. Before surgery, I'd panic if I had to fly coach wondering if I'd get a seatbelt that fit or have someone beside me that was just disgusted at my presence.

Yrs, some people do. Sad to say but a lot of this is head hunger. Your brain is really powerful and can twist you up badly. You’re going through a stressful time (physically, emotionally & mentally). If you were someone who used to comfort or sooth yourself with food your head will be telling you to eat (hungry) because of the stress but of course you can’t which will make you want to eat more. Plus your head tries to convince you that you are not eating enough food to survive (you are) so it says you feel hungry. Hunger pangs can also be from excess stomach acid. At the moment your body is still producing enough acid for your old larger tummy and for the volume of food you used to eat so too much for what you need now. Have you been prescribed a PPI? They reduce the acid in your tummy which reduces/stops the hunger pangs.

Welcome! You've got this! Congratulations on your upcoming surgery. You've made a great decision for the rest of a healthy new life! 🤗

Your food looks balanced and healthy. I would ask you if you track your food using any tools? (MyFitnessPal, etc.)?
My first guess is that this might be more than 1000-1200 calories? I could be wrong of course. Do you do track everything down to the grams? I am not a fan of obsessive tracking nor do I practice it to be very honest, but when you are struggling to lose weight and you're doing everything right, then these tools come in handy and really give you an idea of what your intake is vs your output. I would say - if you already don't - do invest in a food scale and all the measuring cups, spoons and apps.
Another thing to note which has been said time and again, is that not everybody reaches their goal weight, as long as you're happy, fit and healthy, it is kind of the whole point, plus muscle mass that will affect the scale and the whole shebang.
As for stabilization, I stabilized at 9.5 months which is considered very early out, reached goal at 3 months and continued losing until 9.5 months and my weight has been stable for the past two months. That doesn't worry me nor does it affect the fact that this journey has been a success to me, success is very subjective and it comes down to being able to (mostly) maintain whatever weight you have lost + building good habits. If this means that you have lost 78 pounds + started serious exercise + dropped multiple sizes then it's a win in my opinion. Use every tool out there for your benefit, but also remember that you define what success is to you.

Wow, you had me tearing up. You've come so far and through so much. You have great reasons to be proud of yourself.

I didn't have chapped lips from the pre-op diet but I did have dry mouth from hell right after surgery. That normally happens from all the anesthesia. Prepare for it.
GL to the both of you going forward.

Well I’m not quite to normal but I’m finally overweight instead of obese. It’s been a little over 3 months so I’m not complaining

I feel someone noticing is so much better than just seeing the scale drop! Congrats!

Lol it feels wonderful! Thank you! You've made your goal weight and then some, definitely reason to feel proud and to celebrate! Great job!

My mom finally noticed the weightloss and said she's proud of me 🥹🥹

Super huge congratulations. How does it feel to be classed as ' normal ? I never managed to get that low. I figured that if I had my excess skin chopped off then I might get close but ......

As of today I'm officially considered "normal" weight! Finally I'm no longer obese or overweight:
Result
BMI = 24.9 kg/m2 (Normal) 161718.525303540UnderweightNormalOverweightObesityBMI = 24.9 Healthy BMI range: 18.5 kg/m2 - 25 kg/m2 Healthy weight for the height: 107.8 lbs - 145.6 lbs BMI Prime: 1 Ponderal Index: 15.3 kg/m3 <Happy dance>

Welcome! I'm almost 6 weeks post op and I'm glad I made this decision! You will be too!

I'm finally back on to cycling after my operation! I'm so excited! I can also go faster for longer since I'm almost 6olbs down!

I'm finally back on to cycling after my operation! I'm so excited! I can also go faster for longer since I'm almost 6olbs down!

I gave it to a charity shop after that. But I might I treat myself to a new one. On a slightly related topic, my 5xl Winter coat (I always get a size bigger in coats so I have room for a hoodie) is almost ankle length now because I lost so much weight. (Almost 55 lbs) so that day may be sooner than I planned!

I'm finally back on to cycling after my operation! I'm so excited! I can also go faster for longer since I'm almost 6olbs down!

Hi everyone! I’m looking for an accountability partner who understands the journey of a 200+ pound weight loss—whether you’ve already achieved it or are working toward it now. I had gastric bypass 10 years ago and initially lost 200 pounds, but I’ve since regained it. I’m starting to lose my mobility, but I refuse to give up. I know I need to use my tool and get this weight off (again). I’ve found that having an accountability partner makes a big difference, and I tend to stay much more consistent. Plus, I’ll admit I’m a little competitive! I run a business, so my work life can get busy, but I’m committed to making myself a priority this year. Weekly check-ins (or more often, if that works for you) would be great. Ideally, we’d both be committed to our goals and help keep each other accountable. 😊