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Thank you so Much for your Answers! Both of you <3,

yes i am seeking Therapy and be open about it, its sometimes that lingering fear of things not working out for me, in Germany i can get Plastic Surgery, and if the Documentation work is good the Health insurance would cover part of it. I also agree with, there is maybe a Special person who doesn't care and Loves me for who i am a Man can Hope. And Push forward.

Thank you so Much for your Answers! Both of you <3,

yes i am seeking Therapy and be open about it, its sometimes that lingering fear of things not working out for me, in Germany i can get Plastic Surgery, and if the Documentation work is good the Health insurance would cover part of it. I also agree with, there is maybe a Special person who doesn't care and Loves me for who i am a Man can Hope. And Push forward.

Hey, So lately i start to geht more and more anxious, I got my RNY-Bypass sept. 2023, i'm currently 36 years old from Germany. my Starting weight was around 230kg, i'm now at 125kg, it is a lot right?, But me being Anxious about my excess skin is kinda..Hart on my self esteem, i kinda think that even after my Fight is won, that nobody wants someone who is kinda...mhm.. Weird? , for comparions, a photo from 1 day to OP and one from today.

Hey,

i do have a question about Maintenance calories in general,

I lost around 135kg's in weight in the first year, and im "slowly getting there" and even considered recreational surgery now,
but i have problems with the idea of Maintenance Calories and goals. So thats why i ask here now.
Is the General Maintenance kcal after the surgery lower than the ones for a normal "person" ? or do we kinda "slip into" that?. i know all the math about calculating it, but is the normal Calorie intake calc. for people with a rny Bypass even a thing?

Hey,

i do have a question about Maintenance calories in general,

I lost around 135kg's in weight in the first year, and im "slowly getting there" and even considered recreational surgery now,
but i have problems with the idea of Maintenance Calories and goals. So thats why i ask here now.
Is the General Maintenance kcal after the surgery lower than the ones for a normal "person" ? or do we kinda "slip into" that?. i know all the math about calculating it, but is the normal Calorie intake calc. for people with a rny Bypass even a thing?

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Still overweight per definition but, Almost there and i'm feeling pretty good!

Hey, Thank you all so much for the Kind Words and Motivation.

Of course i will Continue my Journey since i am not Finished. And the First year isn't even over for me. I will just Fight and Push like i always did, and Start to tackle the social Anxiety, i Guess you are Right, if i want a Chance at Love. I should try.

Thank you so Much for your Answers! Both of you <3,

yes i am seeking Therapy and be open about it, its sometimes that lingering fear of things not working out for me, in Germany i can get Plastic Surgery, and if the Documentation work is good the Health insurance would cover part of it. I also agree with, there is maybe a Special person who doesn't care and Loves me for who i am a Man can Hope. And Push forward.

Hey, Thank you all so much for the Kind Words and Motivation.

Of course i will Continue my Journey since i am not Finished. And the First year isn't even over for me. I will just Fight and Push like i always did, and Start to tackle the social Anxiety, i Guess you are Right, if i want a Chance at Love. I should try.

Hey, Thank you all so much for the Kind Words and Motivation.

Of course i will Continue my Journey since i am not Finished. And the First year isn't even over for me. I will just Fight and Push like i always did, and Start to tackle the social Anxiety, i Guess you are Right, if i want a Chance at Love. I should try.

As someone who has lost 200 pounds in 2 years, I can 100% understand and sympathize with the loose skin situation. And being married doesn't really help. My husband is a good man, and he loves me, but he struggles with how much thinner I am now (he's what's known as a chubby chaser, and he loved it when I was around 260-270 pounds) and with all the loose skin (there's A LOT).
He tries not to show it, but I can see it in his eyes and on his face. It makes it hard to keep my confidence up, but I know he loves me and I know he's happy with how much healthier I am. The weight and skin are things we talk about and are working through. It takes time and patience, but if you find the right person, it can work. They are allowed to feel a certain way, but they aren't allowed to make you feel bad about it. Remember that.
You did this for you and your health. If they love you, they'll understand and be willing to communicate and work through their issues. If they get disgusted and give you a hard time, they aren't the one and you just move on.

"However, once you meet the right person, they will look past that to the person that you are. Yes it will take effort and bravery on your part to put yourself out there, but you've been on this journey I'm sure to live your best healthier life to the fullest which includes companionship."
THIS /l\ exactly this! Even if you're "weird" there are others (such as myself who used to be the Pom Pom cheerleader type) who ended up falling deeply in love with a comic book gaming geek who was so not the type I dated. When I first met my now husband he said he was too "weird" and (stupid for saying this) not "in my league" but because of his squishy weirdo heart I fell for him. There is someone out there who will love you for all the right reasons - have faith you're adorable "weird" self! You deserve to find someone who will see all that you are and embrace your self perceived "faults" and see all of you!

Just wow. You have smashed it. My advice for what its worth would be. Give yourself time to adjust to being smaller. I am into my 3rd year post op and still look in the mirror and wonder at my size. I have always been big and it has taken me a while to adjust to not being the focus of everyone's eyes. With clothes on I fit in this world now. Without clothes ? at your age, I would get the surgery. At my age I am ok with the skin

Hey, So lately i start to geht more and more anxious, I got my RNY-Bypass sept. 2023, i'm currently 36 years old from Germany. my Starting weight was around 230kg, i'm now at 125kg, it is a lot right?, But me being Anxious about my excess skin is kinda..Hart on my self esteem, i kinda think that even after my Fight is won, that nobody wants someone who is kinda...mhm.. Weird? , for comparions, a photo from 1 day to OP and one from today.

Hey, So lately i start to geht more and more anxious, I got my RNY-Bypass sept. 2023, i'm currently 36 years old from Germany. my Starting weight was around 230kg, i'm now at 125kg, it is a lot right?, But me being Anxious about my excess skin is kinda..Hart on my self esteem, i kinda think that even after my Fight is won, that nobody wants someone who is kinda...mhm.. Weird? , for comparions, a photo from 1 day to OP and one from today.