CrimsonCherries

Sorry this is off topic, but I've been wondering this for a while now. Thank you.

My bf and I just got this audio book, Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think By Brian Wansink. It's really interesting. I haven't gotten as far into it as he has, but one thing he told me from the book was that when you're full and about to eat more, say out loud: "I'm already full but I'm going to eat this anyway." It's helped for him. Also Geneen Roth's books are great too. She helps you realize what's behind your eating. Like what's making you want to finish your meal even though you're full and it may not be something you think of that's effecting your behavior.... if that makes sense. Definitely worth checking out at the library. You don't want to drink with your meals. It's not bad advice for normal weight loss, but I assume you're goign to get banded, so you don't want to drink b/c you won't be drinking with meals after being banded. How we're eating now is practice for eating after getting banded. What may help more than eating on a smaller plate or serving yourself smaller portions is sticking to a meal plan. Idk if your doctor has given you one or not, but at Kaiser they have one and it's pretty easy to follow in theory (I'm having a hell of a time sticking to it in practice). Basically you weigh and measure out all your food for the meal and that's all you get. So it makes it easier by not having extra food left over. It's hard to follow at first, but get's easier. But what I've found, is that even though I'm full, I don't get the same satisfaction I get when I'm stuffed and feeling like crap. If you can get a copy of Kaisers binder, the meal plan and all the pre-op advice in it is great. They used to have it on their website, but I have searched all over it and haven't been able to find it. One thing that helped me, not in over eating specifically, but eating better in general was to make a public statement about it. For me I wrote in my blog (that I doubt anyone reads but is still public on the internet) that for the month of August I was not going to eat any fast food or drink any soda. And I did it with the exception of drinking soda like twice. And that's from eating fast food and drinking soda more days out of the week than not. So you could say, 'I will stop eating when I am full for a week' and then do it, see how it goes and see if you want to continue. It's like making a public promise to yourself. After doing that I am down 6lbs, but I have been eating bad since but not as bad as I was before. Even doing that just 2 weeks I noticed that I didn't want to eat fast food and soda was way too sweet, so maybe after a week you'll realize not eating after your full is worth it even though it's really hard.

I feel the same way, I keep going back and forth on whether or not to do it. But I think for me, it's the right choice b/c the things I fear besides it not working is that I won't be able to eat large portions. Which is something I shouldn't be doing anyway.

Hello everyone! I'm Liz. I'm not really sure where to start or what I'm supposed to put here. I am currently in the process of re-enrolling back into the program through Kaiser Richmond. I just had my first weigh-in today to start the process and I'm already down 6 lbs. :thumbup: (In a month and a half all I've done is no fast food, no soda, home/semi-home cooked meals. I only exercised 3 times.) In case you're wondering, my understanding of getting re-enrolled back into the program requires 2 weigh-ins and a couple refresher classes. If I'm wrong, hopefully someone on here can correct me. I can't remember when I first enrolled in the program, it's been a few years. In 2008 I was about 3lbs from my goal weight for surgery. I don't know what happened, but I started gaining the weight back. Then about a year ago I stopped going to the support group. 7/29/10 I weighed in at 3lbs over my starting weight (during a regular dr visit). But what made me want to re-enroll into the program and really do it this time, was talking to a client of mine (I'm a hairstylist) who had just gotten the gastric sleeve done. She encouraged me to re-enroll. So here I am. I finally feel like I am ready to lose the weight. I have to say though, I'm torn between the band and the sleeve. I feel like the band is the right choice for me, but I have so many worries/doubts that I have to wonder if the sleeve would be better. Since I've got about 20 more lbs to go until I can have surgery anyway, I still have time to make up my mind, but I still worry about it. Plus it's kinda discouraging that there are no banders when I go to the support groups, it's all roux and y and a few sleeves. So I know exactly what to expect for roux and y, but I don't think that helps me as much since while they are similar surgeries, they are still different surgeries. My biggest worry/fear is that I'll get banded and I'll be starving. I don't expect to never be hungry again. I mean like I'll eat my couple ounces of food and then even though my pouch will be full, I'll still be hungry b/c the bottom half of my stomach will still be empty. Does that make sense? Can someone please help me with this? I know how the band works but in my head it doesn't make sense. Has anyone ever heard of anyone going from being banded to getting the gastric sleeve? I heard from someone who heard that there have been a couple cases where people who got banded were able to get the roux and y done b/c the band wasn't helping them lose weight even though they were doing everything how they were supposed to. Of course since I heard it from someone who heard it, idk how accurate that information is. Has anyone here gotten banded and not told your family members? Acquaintances? Since I'm a hairstylist, I work with people I see on a regular basis and I don't want to say that I had surgery when the weight loss becomes noticeable, but I don't want to lie either. I just want to avoid any negative reactions. Same thing with certain family members. But I feel like they'll know somethings up if I'm shrinking and eating way less food than I used to. I have some major family issues. Advice? I'm sure I'll have a ton more questions in the future. ~Liz

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It's just one of those things you're either into or you're not. Why would she want to have anal sex? Because it feels really good! From the man's perspective, or at least my boyfriends, he really enjoys it, but it's not better than "normal" sex. It's just different and adds variety. There are so many nerve endings around the anus that feel really good when stimulated. Anal sex should never hurt. It may be uncomfortable, but if it hurts, your partner hasn't taken enough time to get you warmed up.

I can't wait to experience all the things you guys have. So far my NSVs are: -I have a collar bone! -Clothes that were tight are fitting now. -I have to wear belts more often with my pants. -My boyfriend says that I feel smaller when he hugs me. -Sex is easier. -I don't have much trouble anymore putting on my socks and shoes... but I don't know if that has as much to do with my weight as it does my bad back getting better from physical therapy. o.o -I can do the beginning step class at the gym. Never in a million years did I think I could have done that! I think there may be a few more, but I can't think of them at the moment. This is an awesome topic! All this stuff I forget about that is just as important if not more than just weighing less.