BlondePatriotInCDA

🤔 Definitely food for thought. You brought up some very good points. I just am leery of adding fruit and or veggies since I am extremely carb sensitive. Perhaps I'll slowly introduce a few more. Its just difficult to add something without removing protein since I'm restricted to 800 calories and fruit adds a lot more calories. Tbh, I don't know why I'm hung up on reaching my goal, perhaps its because I'm very goal-centric, if I don't reach my goal to me I'll feel as if I've failed, even when I haven't. I've always up until the last ten years weighed 105-108, so I felt 120 was reasonable for my small frame and height. Plus, I'm still classified as over weight! I am still heavy for my height. Lastly, I still have quite a bit of fat on my small frame (its not All just skin) so, if I'm being honest I do need to lose the rolls on my stomach and arms. I know the difference between skin excess and skin with fat. Perhaps 140 would be a better goal..I don't know. I do understand I'll never be what I was, but I feel perhaps it was the doctors and dietician's jobs to tell me 120 wouldn't work based on my starting BMI, my age etc, and explain reasonable surgical expectations - they didn't which is why I assumed it was obtainable. Thank you for giving me lots to think about, either way I still have 6 months before I am put on maintenance or my weight loss is set as I was told by the doctor. I appreciate your insights. Oh and no, I've never had a DEXA scan. I've never heard of it. Also, its about time that gymnast got off my back - no more freeloading!

😋 I don't think you'll be sorry you did! I hope you enjoy them.

Thank you! I have an appointment with my GP Monday Ill ask...I forgot about my hands being achy! What did they recommend to treat? Has it gotten better?

Try G. Huges...2 or none I can't remember carbs, no added sugars ..5 calories. I use it for marinating.. Or just to add flavor. I haven't had a sauce from this brand I don't like. My favorites are the teriyaki and the chili Thai dipping sauce! You can find them at Walmart...but you have to be quick they sell out fast! I add them to everything for flavor. They make: Teriyaki Bbq sauces Shrimp sauce Ketchup Thai Dipping sauce Yum yum sauce (chick filet sauce) and a lot more!

I really wish I had done this! Like most obese ppl I didn't like my picture taken (still don't cause now I look like a shar-pei and I now look my age) but I do have one picture from a few years back I got pushed into participating in...when I hit my goal I might share! You're looking great!

Isn't it amazing all the things we've all put off until after surgery! I wish you luck and hope you do these things on your "future" list!

Hello all! After seeing all the responses on the post topic " What do you wish you should of done before surgery" it got me wondering what Do You Have Planned or What have you done since having had your surgery that you used to reward yourself, or thought you'd never be able to do prior to surgery that either you can now or have added to your will do list that you thought "if only"....? I'm curious about what we've put off doing beforehand or what you couldn't do before losing the weight and have added it to your " bucket list". Life is short and I want to read how you're going to enjoy it now! I'm looking for inspiration. I look forward to living vicariously through you! I'll start: * I used to train and show hunt seat and dressage, I just started back up! * I used to sail and scuba. Next year I will be adding it to my plans. * I purchased a professional bow and I'm having a friend who's been scouted for the Olympics teach me! * I've added ballroom dance to my list. * I'm back to my daily yoga. * I've got some vacations on the schedule to Hawaii and Spain to visit some old friends! Its just a start, so many amazing things to do now.

It always amazes me how doctors will dismiss reported health concerns attributing it all to being obese! When it could be something else entirely! I'm glad you're finally getting the healthcare you need! If there is one thing I've learned over the years and having been in the hospital for weeks - the bitchy squeaky wheel gets the attention. I watched myself and others who were "easy going" patients get ignored and over looked all the while "complainers" get the medical attention they needed. Needless to say, I'm no longer quiet or complacent about my healthcare needs or others after having experienced and watched neglect.

Thank you for responding! I've never heard of Gilbert's before and I need to do some research. My labs all came back great (although 2pts high in ferrous iron and iron transport or something?) Doctor said a few points high or low he considers lab errors and nothing to be concerned about. Although, my bilirubin wasn't checked this time since it was nutrient nourishment based labs. In the past I don't recall ever having bilirubin issues, nor my family ...but as I've said I've never heard of Gilbert's before. I'm hoping the aches and pains are as you suggested and just my body readjusting, but I would have thought my doctor would have agreed when I suggested it. He said its usually the other way around; pain before surgery that goes away, who knows! Again, thank you for responding and giving me possible reasons! Its appreciated!

Thank you! Great suggestions.

Ask around at work. We have a cabinet where people put scrubs they no longer wear...it works out great..perhaps someone at work dropped to mediums or (grimace) gained!? Maybe post something on work email, discussion boards or lunch room cork board?

Its Pig Pen!

Agreed, but I'd act/take it as a compliment to annoy the person saying it either way. If its not a heart filled compliment, the dig is on them..not the person hearing it. People are mean and spiteful at times unfortunately. I find the best way to deflect "digs" is to ignore the dig and act as if its a compliment, it will annoy them and to others if they see it will see the person as petty and mean.

What you described; occasionally light headed when standing up...racing heart, all with different foods and quantities was what I was and still am going through - exactly as you described. As I posted before my cardiologist said its dumping, the Bariatric surgeon said dumping combined with low blood pressure and/or dehydrated for the dizzy aspect symptoms. I do notice and am more aware of the coalition of less water consumption = dizzy upon standing or just in general now. He did say to try to slow down eating as it might help. The issue I have is I don't have 30 mins to casually sit and eat my food all the time - to eat "aware" or "mind fully." Sometimes I'm lucky to just get my protein down! I will say that once I had both doctors associate it to dumping I paid more attention to it and when it is happening, after I eat I can associate it directly to eating now. So I'm going to say they were right - its dumping. Good luck with the cardiologist.

All amazing goals that I'm sure you'll accomplish. Congratulations on starting down this road, so many possibilities! Btw..in regards to your #1...you will never have enough energy, healthy weight or not 😋

That's the way we're leaning since we're getting older and don't want the home maintenance... Which part you looking at to move? We usually vacation in Sanibel, Destin, Marco Island or the keys..I take it rental insurance is a bit better?

I've often thought of moving there, or the South East coast, but the house insurance rates in Florida have made me think twice and three times about it. I've seen insurance rates as high or higher than the mortgage each month! Wowsa! I'd still love too..but dang I don't know how ppl do it.

"also fear having to eat in public or in front of those that do not know I have had surgery." Isn't it a shame that with all the push these days to accept everyone for who/what they are, its still acceptable to fat shame and be judgemental of others for a medical condition? Its the one thing left that people deem an "acceptable" judgement because people feel its all our fault - as if we just pushed away from the table more people wouldn't be over weight. Judgemental people continue to do so without societal repercussions. I've seen the same people jump on someone for saying things about being judged for them being LGBQ, yet these same ppl said some nasty things to me and others for being obese! Everyone should be able to go out and enjoy dining out without fear of being watched. I too understand why you'd fear this, but you need to get to a point in your life that others opinions of you just don't matter, especially strangers. Once you get there it can be quite liberating! You deserve to enjoy your life without others condemning your living it!

Sounds like you have found your happy life stride Ms. Popular!!!

What one thing can you say once I've lost my weight I want to...___________________! It will happen sooner than you know, start making plans now it gives you a goal other than lost weight!

Wow! That's an amazing list. I understand not feeling "worthy" if you don't love yourself, but know that no matter what you deserve love. You sound amazing, generous and a person worth treasuring! It sounds as if you have a wonderful, loving family who I'm sure would be more than glad to tell you the same. When you going to DC? Hopefully in the spring so you can enjoy the flowering cherry trees! Have fun, thanks for sharing!

I too found the required group meeting pointless. I did it online because I'm not a group therapy type. The topics were just listening to others who've gone through it and to be frank like you I found it boring and lacked any real info. I too find this forum a better alternative. So..just go through the hoops and come out the other side!

Sounds like a hernia. Since you can't see a doctor keep an eye on it and make sure its not tender to the touch and you have no pain associated with it. If you start to feel pain see a doctor immediately as it could have become a strangulated hernia which needs medical intervention. I'm not a doctor, but in the medical field having also at one time been a paramedic. I've encountered several in the field where people ignored the pain. Is it worse when you cough, sit up from laying down or when you strain? Probably a hernia.