By "being the driver" I mean that you have to be pro-active in your treatment plan. If things aren't going the way you'd like to see them, it's your responsibility to be the one who speaks up and let's the doctor know what your needs are. If you don't feel you're getting the results you need, you need to be the one who has to find out why -- giving the doctor as much information regarding your expectations, knowing what his approach is and working together to achieve the end goal is the main factor with this process. If you're comfortable and are confident with your doctor, that is the most important thing.
It's clear you're willing to speak up. Some aren't and, when things go awray, the blame the band or the doctor or whatever rather than taking responsibility of knowing that their input is key in the success of your weight loss. My suggestion is that you get to a few support group meetings to talk to folks who have had the surgery. If you haven't been to any, this is where folks will give you the in's and out's of their experiences and you can hear what folks have gone through, how they've solved their problems and the good/bad of it all.
What's right for one may not be right for another, but what's right for YOU is the most important thing. And, remember, results vary from person to person based on age/sex/weight, etc. My friend has other issues going on with her and, until these are reconcilled, she'll probably continue to be stagnent with her weight loss. Again, taking responsibility and taking action on what you need is key. Making sure your needs are being met and making sure your expectations aren't unrealistic are important (i.e. don't expect to lose as fast as by-pass folks).
Hope this helps you. As I said, it's a process and sometimes we want things to happen quicker than they (actually) can....be patient, be on top of it and be pro-active and you'll be fine. Sounds as if you're on top of it all so I'm sure you'll get the results you want! Best to you!
Dawn