I completely understand. I've gained 25lbs since I got married, that was just in May! We love to eat together. But since being banded he's been very supportive. Getting me fat free pudding, weight watchers ice cream, going walking with me... I think it's encouraged him to help me and help himself. At the same time I don't want to penalize him because I had surgery. So we compromise. I still make a good dinner for him, I just eat on a way smaller plate and we still get to enjoy food together.