Your exactly right, one day at a time, one meal at a time. The lapband is just a tool. I lost 114 1/2 lbs in 8 1/2 months before I even got the band and weighed as much as 359 and I am only 5'2. When eating, ask yourself how much do you have to eat before you know how good it is. Do you have to comsume the whole thing or can you be satified with 2 or 3 slow bites ( like chocolate ) that way you can still have 2 or 3 individual size pieces and be satified that you did not deprive yourself. If your not dieting you can never blow it. Call it your lifestyle change and never blow it again. Good luck.