It sounds to me like your husband is the one with the problem. Only people that are unhappy would say mean things to someone they love. As you start losing weight you will totally come out of your depresion. I think you may need to consider couple's therapy b/c it will be hard for you to forgive him for being mean to you without help from an outside source.
It is unfortunate, but we do learn how to treat people from our parents and whether we realize it or not, we end up modeling that behavior in our own relationships. However, he is an adult and he can choose to behave differently!
All that being said, you DO NOT need to tolorate verbal abuse from him or anyone else for that matter. His words cannot change who you are! Hold your head up and be proud. You deserve respect!
Hope things get better for you. :biggrin: