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On 6/27/2024 at 2:41 PM, JennyBeez said:I used to try to convince myself that these people mean well
I for sure try to take the comments differently depending on intention.
QuoteOkay, you can stop losing weight now. \\ days later \\ You are stopping, right?
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QuoteIt's been fast - Is a good health thing or a bad health thing?
But.... mannnnn, that first type.
Honestly, the second can be rough too, but at least well meant.
I've stayed pretty well away from the outside commentary, but the very first person to comment on my weight lost positively was the first to comment about it negatively.
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1. [Gender] Female
[Age @ Surgery] 29 yo
[Height] 5’5”
2. [Starting] 272 lbs | 7 lb loss
3. [Surgery Day] 265 lbs
4. [1 Month] 245 lbs
5. [3 Months] 226 lbs
6. [6 Months] 210 lbs
7. [11 Months] 166 lbs
8. [Surgery Type] Bypass
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I haven’t been very public about my surgery journey, but I’m not very public about any of my health stuff.
If people ask, I’ll ease in slowly and gauge interest, but usually keep things short.
[[I’m okay- aka I’m still not great but not is particularly bad.
We’re working on it- meaning my doctors and I
Ah, it’s going, meaning it’s pretty bad but you don’t really care about it. ]]For my weight loss- I did it primary as a potential benefit to help my health issues, not particularly for looks.
There were two people who pretty much immediately started commenting as soon as I lost like 10 pounds.Other than that it was only in the past 1-2 months that I have started getting regular comments.
And I am struggling to figure out how I want to deal with them.
If it is strictly compliments, I’ll just say thanks and move on. [I’m still supperrrr awkward about it, but 🤷🏻♀️] [I also don’t particularly like the attention, and it makes me want to dress to hide the changes.]
But when people continue and ask what are you doing or what’s your motivation or anything like that that’s where I am struggling a little bit more.
My goal for the surgery was focused on my health. It also is a little difficult because my health issues are caused my genetic issues, and while weight loss likely will help in the long term, I haven’t really seen any improvements since losing weight.
So it can be awkward for those conversations if other women ask how I have lost weight or if I’m feeling better.I don’t wanna tell anyone, yeah I don’t really feel better, because I know that for most people it would.
So for those of you who aren’t really sharing about your surgery, what do you say if people ask about how you lost weight? How do you respond when people compliment you? All of that…
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I have not been big on taking body measurements during my journey so far. I’ve maybe taken 4 throughout.
I’ve also tried to resist frequent weight taking due to the many warnings. I do biweekly (or occasionally weekly 😉) weighing.
But!! I have lost 16 inches around my waist which seems like a lot, but I have absolutely no concept and can’t find any thing about expectations for losing inches or what is good for benchmarks.
What have been your “YAY!” moments for measurements?GreenTealael reacted to this -
TL/DR: Worried about losing weight by not eating enough. | Looking for tips to reach protein/calorie goals when not hungry. | Looking for others' experiences with lack of hunger this far out in WL Journey.
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I meet with my nutritionist for check-ins about every 3 months. For this last one, my 9-month, she told me not to be upset if I hadn't lost, as a stall was expected. Yet, I had lost just as much as I had been. We went over what I had been eating & she wasn't concerned about content but suggested increasing variety. [I'm a meal repeater 🤷♀️] Though, she again warned me that it is now especially likely that I would stall since I hadn't yet. Since that appointment, I've still been losing weight.
I know it might appear strange to worry about meeting the goals we are here to meet, but my nutritionist is big on trying to relearn the natural cues of the body. So, as they are absent, you can notice pressure in your stomach, sighing, or a runny nose as indications of fullness. As indications of hunger return, you can utilize them to increase portions within the parameters of slow eating and not exceeding controlled sizes.
The thing is, I don't know that the initial increase after, you know, the literal wounds healed, I have really expanded much more. I don't really get hungry until 'early-bird dinner' time. So eating during the day is purely done out of obligation. [& if I'm being truthful, there are times when I forget entirely until after work.]
So obviously, that leads me to try to have all of my calories in one 'meal' in the day, which I have to eat over a couple hours [even if it is small] if I don't want to get nauseous or actually regurgitate. [The regurgitation has improved slightly over the last couple of months. I had a very reactive stomach that required me to prolong my dependence on Protein Shakes. Pre-surgery, I don't think I came even close to needing to vomit since pre-school 🙁.]
To be fully upfront, I have not counted a single macro or calorie or weighed a single food item during my entire journey. I've tried tracking before in my weight-loss journey, and it was not healthy mentally for me. I realize that I may be under goals rather than over them, but straightforward counting of calories is just not something that would be part of a successful journey for me.
So, all of this is a longwinded way to say:
- Is anyone else struggling to eat enough this far out?
- What helps you to reach your protein/calorie goals when you don't really want to eat?
- Any other tips/tricks/specific brand or meal suggestions?
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I've been cleared for the final solid food stage. More looking for what's been working for others.
Has food prep into micro-portions been successful? How many different foods at one meal are your personal limit? etc.
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I had a bad post-op experience with blood/bile that led to a slow build-up for my clear phase and every phase after.
BUTT, I'm 2 months out, and finally able to eat without nausea (well kinda) and want recommendations for actual well-balanced 'meals' that you have been enjoying.
Nothing I've had yet has remotely resembled a meal- I've just been doing one thing per sitting.
TIA.
Anyone Annoyed with the "Stop losing weight"
in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
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Though, I will say my circle is used to me having chronic, non-weight-related health issues.
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FWIW, my health got worse the more weight I've lost. [ Especially the transition to a Healthy WeightTM. ]
I (and my doctors) did not expect my health conditions to improve in any specific way, but a decline is just r.u.d.e..
I am not saying I was not a recipient of the Importance of Weight Loss Soundtrack - most just didn't bother claiming it would help.
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So I can see why most leaned towards - concern - before normal weight judgement.
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^ The person above is more in the small talk/friendly greeting outer circle.... sooo yeaahhh.
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