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I am 39 years old and have been in a relationship with a narcissistic 50 year old who doesn’t work because he chooses to, for 7 years. He does always have dinner ready and the house clean when I get home from work. Our relationship isn’t on the best of terms and when we argue he calls me fat all the time. He feels like he’s right all the time, he puts others down, blames me for everything etc. This year my company switched insurances and now the surgery is covered!!! I’m so excited. But, I have a feeling this relationship will go from bad to worse when i lose the weight. He said he would be supportive but I don’t know. I’m to my wits end almost and thinking of kicking him out of my home that I own. He’s verbally abusive to me and does it in front of my kids, one of which is his. I don’t know if it’s my low self esteem that won’t let me do it or what!! I’m just afraid things will get worse for me after the surgery.

Hello, I just received my VSG surgery date of 9/25. Any other buddies in September?

For those of you that were dealing with some emotional trauma or issues that you were dealing with, did losing the physical weight help you lose the emotional weight you were carrying. For example, I don’t feel confident like I use to before I gained weight and I feel once I lose weight I will feel confident again and those thoughts of being unworthy will dissipate. Did anyone’s emotional issues go away after the weight came off?

Thank you! I currently am in therapy and my therapist wanted to know if some emotional issues were resolved after wls. I mentioned to her that I would feel confident again giving me the confidence to leave a situation I’m in and she wondered if others felt the same way

Good Morning, I am 9 days post op and have started purées. I’m trying to track my protein but I’m getting confused. This morning I made one pack of butter grits, with 1/2c Fairlife milk, and 1/2 scoop of isoprene protein powder. When you add that up it comes to 21 G protein. If I eat 2 oz how much protein did I eat?

1/2c of milk is 4oz, 1 pack of grits is 1oz and 1/2 scoop protein powder is 1/2 oz so total 5.5oz of prepared grits

I ate 2oz

My surgery is Monday….I’m getting nervous!!!

My surgery date is 9/25 and I’m getting the gastric sleeve. I had my work up appointment this past Monday where they went over everything, explained the pre-op diet etc. Now that it’s September I’m getting nervous, but I’m also excited. My pre-op diet starts on the 10th in which I have to have a protein shake for breakfast and lunch and then I can have some chicken or fish and a veggie for dinner. Ugh this is going to be hard. Did anyone have last supper syndrome before they had to start the pre op?

I finally got approved today for the surgery!!! I’m so excited!

Hello, I haven’t gotten my surgery date yet but I am battling depression as well. I started talking to a therapist about a month ago and it has drastically helped me to see the distorted thinking than I’m doing to beat myself up all the time. When I do that it makes me feel sad or unworthy then I use food to cope with those feelings. I am learning when I’m faced with a difficult situation to slow my thoughts down and to think about why I’m REALLY feeling the way I’m feeling. My therapist described it as if we are pulling weeds from the garden, we usually figure out the surfuace problem and pull those weeds but it’s hard to figure out the root of the problems because they are so deeply embedded within you. Talking to my therapist has just helped me to shift my thinking from thinking I will be alone if I do t lose weight or no one will like me if I don’t lose weight, to someone will like me just the way I am however I’m on this weight loss journey for my health and family. I was against therapy at first but I am so glad that I took that plunge before surgery to sort out issues and can’t wait to continue it after.

Did anyone sweat a lot prior to WLS and then afterwards that went away? I’m literally just sitting on my couch with the air on and sweating.

I can’t wait for this sweating to stop. I wear certain colors cause I don’t want sweat stains on my shirt

Did you all get to pick your surgery date? My last dietitian appointment is in May and then my doctor will submit everything to my insurance company. I’m thinking June I will get approved but July I go to the beach and don’t want to do it before then.

@cut.the.vs My appointment went well. They went over everything with me and suggested the sleeve for me. I have to do one visit a month for four months with the dietitian. They said if I miss any appointments then everything starts all over. I have my Psych evaluation next month, I already have my gallbladder removed which they said is good. I don’t have to do a sleep study as of right now since I don’t have sleep apnea, they said they may make me do that but as of right now I don’t. They also advised me I will 30 days prior to my surgery and 30 days after I will need to stop my oral contraceptive due to blood clot risk or I could switch to the IUD which is what I’m going to do. I had my appointment for that today and should get that inserted in about two to three weeks. My dietitian also wants me to read a book called Intuitive Eating which I have started and it’s very interesting. I suggest reading that.

Great thank you all!

Hello All, I just had my surgery consultation today and my nutritionist wants me to start taking a multi-vitamin. She suggested finding a chewable (not gummies) one that i like because i will have to take that after surgery. Does anyone have any recommendations on brands for chewable? Tiffany

Thanks guys. I wonder if we can take Flintstones? Lol

I am celebrating not having a cigarette in 24 hours. My goal is to get myself healthy this year. I have my consultation tomorrow and I said I was going to not pick up another cigarette after tomorrow, but I think I’m going to just try to stick it out today too!

@cut.the.vs My consultation is on the 30th as well. Maybe we will have our surgeries around the same time!

Does anyone know if it’s possible to have my tubes tied at the same time as VSG since they will be in there anyway?

All of you are right. But why is is so hard to just DO IT!! I feel like some days i've had the courage to tell him to get out, but then i don't. I don't know if it's cause i feel bad for him or what....I just don't know. thank you guys for listening as i feel i can't talk to anyone about this. It's embarrassing that I won't do anything about it.

@LindsayT Did you happen to have that done?

@hop_scotch and @arabesque, thank you for the kind words. I don’t know if right now I don’t have confidence or what. I just don’t feel like myself anymore since I’ve gained all this weight. You’re right, it’s time to put me and my children first.

Hello, I was wondering how soon after your insurance companies approved you for surgery, did you get a surgery date? My insurance company only requires documentation of the procedure, documentation of failed weight loss attempts (i have a letter from my PCP for this), a psych eval, and nutrition eval. I feel i can have all of that in the next month or two. Is it possible that i could have surgery this year?