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Hi Bariatric Pals So I found out today from a friend who had the gastric sleeve 1 week before me, that you can't have coffee/Caffeine for 1-3 months post op. I had no idea. I tried to call my surgeons office but they're away overseas until mid December. I will stop drinking my morning coffees from now on, but I'm only a few weeks post PO and I've had coffee with almond milk for the past 5 days. So I'm freaking out. I haven't had any Nausea or acid reflux, 😰 I'm just worried that I may have done something really bad. Any advice on this?

Thank you everyone for your great advice. I feel a lot better now and I'm no longer freaking out about this I think i will put off the coffee until i reach day 30 and see if it's still good after that. I'm only a few days from it too. Thanks again

I was told to start on eggs at week 3, but i just get painful cramps and liquid poop and that's just from eating a teaspoon or 2. They also said avocados and bananas might be too tough, but with my ninja blender, it's perfectly puree and those 2 things i can eat all of within about 90 mins and feel great after. Puree beef with gravy is also fine for me, but i can only eat a few teaspoons over an hour. Might be your body saying "This isnt a food i'm ready for yet" if that's the case, maybe skip it and try another food.

Hi everyone, I'm having a really tough time dealing with my mother in law. There's no kicking her out, my husband won't because his other siblings won't take her in. (She tried to split up his brother with his new wife just after they had a baby, and his oldest sister has ended all contact with her) Part of the reason I did this surgery is to have a reason to say no to her feeding me/guilt tripping me to eat junk food. Before she moved in 5 years ago. I was 130lbs. I know it's 100% My responsibility what goes in my mouth, but over the years, she's made it so hard. I was done, defeated. After reaching out and getting therapy, they think cutter her off will be the only way to have long term weightloss success. She's not meant to do any shopping but she does, all she buys is junk food in the reduced section. She buys so much, she bought a massive freezer to store it all in. The worst part is that she has no idea of how calories work, so she thinks eating healthy food = will undo all the junk she ate, so in her mind by eating all of it, after a chocolate binge, she'll lose weight so she will eat all the meat and vege in the house (she's about 450lbs) and then guilt trips us because we didn't eat the 5 cakes, 6 packs of donuts she bought etc. I thought with this surgery I could just say "I can't eat those things, they could kill me" and maybe she would stop buying this much junk. Sadly no, she's going H.A.M at me now. She threw a tantrum when my husband told her I was getting the surgery, tried everything in her power to stop me from getting it done. Once I had it done, she started spreading rumors, said I spend $25000 on cosmetic surgery etc, she's just really making life hard for me, mentally and physically. She's also started eating my protein water, eating my Optifast, denying it. Then offering me things like donuts when I have no food in the house, which I can't eat, I had surgery 15 days ago, and shes refusing to acknowledge it. Instead she'll buy my favorite junk food and put it on display and keep telling me it needs to be eaten NOW. I found out a few days ago, the meals I make for my husband she keeps throwing in the bin to justify buying the junk, she said he throws them out because he hates them and he's a bad husband and I should leave him, I told him this and he said he'd never do that and that she's been saying him I'm useless and I'm not cooking for him and if he wanted she can ask me to leave. So she's clearly started trying to put us against each other, he said she used to do this to him and his siblings as kids and we just need to ignore what she says and tell each other, so we know what's going on. I'm just so exhausted, I can't keep living like this, I have to hide my food and I've started to think about the next stages, which are going to be so much harder to stop her from sabotaging. I just want to be able to meal prep and have a normal life but my husband has said, she can't buy a house until interest rates settle down, there's no rentals in the area and he can't kick her out because she will have nowhere to go, so we just have to put up with her until then. I just think I needed to rant about this but at the same time I'm just really tired and I just want to have a normal life. It feels like I'm probably going to be hiding optifast and just using that for meals until she's gone, because I can't trust anything in the kitchen.

Thanks everyone for all your understanding and input, it makes me feel a little less crazy. My Husband has been throwing out any junk food she leaves on the kitchen counter like whole cakes, donuts, cookies and chips and she's started annoying him by picking all the meat out of dishes and eating it leaving just pasta etc. So he's started saying once shes gone, he wont talk to her anymore as he's done, it would be nice for action though. We've also had a few chats with her, she just acts clueless, denies everything, hums random songs over us talking, acts like she's got dementia or says she must (she jokes about it) or laughs it off. Her daughter has been diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder and thinks her mum has it to but there's no way she'd get help, she enjoys messing with lives, hence why her daughter cut all ties with her. I think I'll do what many of you have suggested and buy a small fridge with a lock. My husband and I are renting this place but we're looking at buying and he's said once we move, she can stay in this rental by herself and pay her own bills or find elsewhere as she's not moving with us. Hopefully this is sooner rather than later. Thanks again everyone for all your support.

I bought a Xiaomi mi band for special $29, it did what all the other ones did for it's time, it's just not a big brand name. With a lot of brands now, you're just paying for the label. I've been using it for 4 years with no issues, I was planning to upgrade to the next model once it breaks, but it hasn't yet. I had a fitbit before, paid 6x and it broke after a year. Brother had the same issue as me, so i think i'll give him my old Xiaomi band and get the newest one

Hi everyone, I'm new here too, I was using MFP but the community there is very anti surgery so I looked around and Found this community which seems a lot more what I'm after. Also looking for new friends!