*slim*

Unfortunately for me, we had already had our son before we got married. My husband was not always like this. He used to be helpful. He was not always so critical. Our relationship started changing when he realized that I made so much more money than he did. I guess that threatened his manhood. He had always known that I made more money, but he didn't realize that I made almost 3 times what he does. That isn't my fault, but once he knew that...it changed. He started getting super macho as if to make up for the fact that HE wasn't the one bringing home the bacon. I have tried counseling, but it can only help us both if he is willing to go.

That is so wonderful. It really makes this easier to hear about great stories like this.

When I point out that that he doesn't seem to have a job to do, he tells me that he does. When I ask what that job is, he gives me that guy answer of, "I don't have to answer that." What that means is, he can't think of anything that he actually does other than making a mess. I am trying really hard to teach my son to be a better man than that. I shouldn't have to teach my son how to be a good man. I try really hard not to say anything bad about his dad because I don't ever want it to be said that I turned him against his dad. If he ever turns against him, it will be because of how he perceives his dad and not how I told him it was.

My husband does that. He doesn't seem to see it. Everyone has a job to do around the house except him. He seems to think his job is to critique everyone else. That chaps my butt. I asked him if he feels better when he makes me feel bad. I completely understand. Then there is my mom (who has never been married or lived with a man) there telling me that now that we are married, I just have to suck it up. I just don't know how much longer I can deal with the unhappiness. I haven't made up my mind to separate again. We separated earlier this year and that was the happiest I have been in so long. It is so hard. I wish us all the strength to make it through our situations. Whether it is the decision to stay or go, we each are going to need it.

:tongue: Then a toast to you!

I like the idea of a slutty lapband guy. That gives all kinds of ideas.

I almost spewed coffee on that one! ROFL!

Do you think fedex or UPS would let you send that to TN? SMS-you look great in your new picture. Also, I hate the hidden racism too. I deal with it a lot at work. Tap-If you really want the job, talk to your friend about it. I completely understand how you feel about it though. That is so tough.

So it's streaming music? I will have to try it. I like Jaheim too. My DH bought one of his CDs for me a couple of years ago. I like the new John Legend songs. I had everyone that you mentioned except Duffy on my MP3 player. I am hoping that the tech support people will go ahead and give me a return authorization so that I can get it fixed or repaired. I have only had this MP3 player since July. :laugh:

Milk chocolate. I wondered how many people actually noticed the color of my avi. I love Anthony Hamilton. He is on my now broken MP3 player.

At this point, my gas doesn't really have a smell (most of the time anyway). It is just so constant (and loud).

Can we not go there? Yes everyone is entitled to an opinion, but we don't have to be so down right mean and mean spirited. I have enjoyed a lot of the things in this thread, but lately it seems just plain ugly. Now I recognize this is a rants and raves part of the forum, but this thread hasn't been about that for a while. Can we keep that out of it please?

What about me?!?!?!?!

That reminds me of my college days. **sigh** Good times...

Ok,I have a question for those of you banded for a while. How long, after you eat something, would it take to get the painful in the chest stuck feeling? I have never experienced that one (thank GOD), but didn't know how long it took to get to that part of the stomach. I just had my 3rd fill on Tuesday and the doctor said this should be my fill that MAKES me have to follow my band rules. I don't feel it yet, but I want to be prepared. Ok, back to the regularly scheduled hilarity. ;-p

I wish I were so lucky. I have a sweet tooth. Heck, I am sure that I have more than one. Sweets are my downfall.

At 10 days out, you are probably stil pretty swollen from surgery. As the swelling goes down, the amount you eat will increase somewhat. I know that my doctor pushes for about 1/2 cup of food with decent restriction so you won't be eating that much more. Remember, part of this surgery is to help make food no longer the focal point in your life. I know it won't seem like it is worth eating, but that is the point (in my own opinion). This way you can spend more time talking with your family or friends instead of eating into oblivion. Good luck to you.

Yes, you MUST get those out of the house. My DH has been complaining because I haven't brought as much sweet into the house like I normally would. I had to explain that I haven an addiction to those and have a hard time having them in the house right now. He didn't get it, but since I do the shopping...:huh2:

The fact that you made that up with exercise is great. Also, the fact that you stopped at two...I know before I wouldn't have stopped at 2. I would have eaten 4, 5, or more. I think we have all come a long way.

It would be nice if there was. I had also tried the OTC medicines, but nothing seems to help. I had never had this problem either.

My coworker brought in the peanut butter fudge yesterday. I had one piece (about 1 inch). It is killing me because it sits on the only empty desk (which is next to me). Thankfully, I just had my third fill so at the moment, I don't think I could eat it.

down 33 lbs. as of this morning! woohoo!

sounds good to me too. It gets hard trying to keep up with multiple threads.

I am so glad that it is not just me. My son and husband think it is funny, but I hate it. Nothing that I do makes a difference. How awful!

I'm sure you will hear something soon. Good luck either way!