My sister, who is a nurse anesthetist and tells me HORROR STORIES of gastric bypasses and lap bandings gone wrong while on the operating table, always tells me that all I need is to just "stick with Weight Watchers" because I'll have to eat the same way post surgery anyway. My other sister and brothers, as well as my mother have tried to dissuade me through fear and guilt but I'm done with it all. I told my mother that my mind was made up and I'm starting the process to get the lap banding done, and she's done a turn-around and is supporting me, but I made her swear not to tell anyone else in my family until after the operation and the things move along well enough, then I'll tell them. The only people to know are my mother, husband, and children. It's my decision and my health or lack thereof right now, so I am relying on me and no one else.