lsanderson

I've been going through the process and am nearing the end, I have insurance approval all the referrals etc. just not a date yet. I've told my parents that I'm getting WLS and my husband is wonderfully supportive but I haven't told my children yet. I can't decide what to tell them, when to tell them or even if I should. They are 9 and almost 12. I think one of the reasons I haven't told them is because I don't want them telling their dad (my ex-husband). He's extremely judgemental and sometimes passes those judgements onto my children. But I'll have to tell them something because I will be recovering, taking time off work and making a lot of lifestyle changes. A HUGE part of me wants to tell them because I actually think they would be very supportive but I keep going back and forth over it because I also don't want to scare them at all. So has anyone out there had similar feelings about telling their children or other family members and how did you overcome it? How did they react? Any tips to pass along????

Thank you everyone for sharing, it has really helped. I actually have a funny story from just last night that sort of prompted me to post my original question. I took my son, the 9 year old, to get his haircut. We were waiting for his turn and he was kind of looking at me funny so I finally askey "Why are you looking at me like that" and he said "Just lookin' at your big 'ole flubby arms" I wanted to cry, I wanted to laugh, I wanted to ground him and everything in between but I ended up saying nothing and just stared at him. He shrugged and said "just being honest and keepin' it real mommy" Then of course I laughed and did tell him that "yes, mommy's arms aren't all that great" and then proceeded to talk about how to say things respectfully or sometimes it's better to just not say those kinds of things to people.

Congratulations Cella!! I'm in Roseville but am going through Dr. Machado because Dr. Waldrep doesn't take my insurance but I've heard wonderful things about him.

Thank you for the good advice! I'm struggling with the whole co-worker thing as well myself. I want this so badly for myself and my quality of life that I'm very fearful of judgement throwing me off track. I am very lucky that my husband is on board with this 110%. I should just focus on that, give my kids the "fluffy basics" and not worry about everyone else.

Hello! I am planning on going through Dr. Machado. I have my insurance approval and go on Monday the 11th to her new patient seminar. I'm excited and nervous all at the same time.

I think you're doing the right thing by coming to this website. I haven't even had my surgery yet but some days I'm excited about it coming up and some days I'm a nervous wreck. Reading posts out here always helps whether they are positive or negative. I wish I could offer more help, hang in there! If you're looking for someone to email, feel free to post back and I'll give you my email. Again, I don't know exactly what you're going through but I'd be more then happy to support you in anyway!

ME TOO! I haven't even had my surgery yet (although I'm close..yay!) and I'm very worried about that. I already have "bat wings" and they run in my family... I think my grandma could flag a plane and she's a tiny little woman otherwise so I figured I'm doomed especially once I start losing weight.

I also add a little crushed ice to mine and mix it in a blender, gives it a different texture and taste. Hang in there, 10 days is worth it for a lifetime of better health!

Thanks! I actually had my first appt with my Primary Care Physician on Tuesday and she gave me the referral no problem. All I have to do is the psych eval which I have scheduled for next week. It's all been very smooth so far and will hopefully continue that way. I go for my patient seminar with the surgeon on 8/11. I've been calling my insurance almost daily checking on things making sure they won't have a problem with approving it and so far so good! Now I'm just getting very nervous. It's one thing to think about doing it, it's another for it to actually be happening!

Hi Cella! I'm just starting the process and I'm with Sutter Medical Group as well. Do you mind if I ask who your PCP is?

YES!! I absolutely understand what your talking about as far as starting the process and then just sort of "taking a break". I finally realized that I had to be in the right state of mind and that it's not just about me but also about the people I love and want to be with for a long time. So if you're worried about spending the money on yourself, think of it as spending money for those you love and those who love you by getting healthy and extending your life with them. For me it was seeing my dad go into acute renal failure and experience multiple complications to the surgery that got me back into gear. The doctor said it was partially due to his weight which also caused his sleep apnea, a heart attach and high blood pressure. He's only 62 and almost didn't pull through. I don't want to be in the same place at such a young age. He also needed an additional surgery that they said he was too heavy for. He had to live in pain until he lost enough weight for the procedure. That's not a position I ever want to be in. So here I am starting the insurance dance all over because my insurance changed but this time I intend to see it through! Good luck to you