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Hi rjan, thank you for your kind response . I have read it a couple of times now when feeling down. I really appreciate your kind words and encouragement ❤

Hi Jennifer, drinking water will get easier I can almost drink a full glass in one hit now ( 3 months op) I too have found people to be very supportive even the ones that I thought and know are generally not in favour of weightloss surgery. A few odd ones ave been unkind like saying what are you upset about it you choose to do this. Yes maybe i did but i certainly didnt choose to react the way my body has. Hormones can be horrible things 😐I wish i was one of those people that sail through this smoothly. Can eat and drink what and when they like.. I certainly understand your anger at not being able to drink and eat like we use to I feel that too but as remorse if that makes sense . Thank you for sharing your feelings, we are in this together

Hope they work out what it is and you have a speedy recovery

I was the same, i am now 13 weeks out i think, i try to try different foods now and i am surprised by how easy some are to eat and disappointedby others.

Are you talking to a psychologist? That helped me a bit. I am still dealing with regret but my anxiety has lessened. I was the same fine before surgery then a told wreck. I still have moments of tears but thats getting better too. I wish you well.

Not sure, he said it would get better as i lost weight 😞

I struggle everyday, my surgery was in july this year. I struggle with deciding what am i going to eat for example right now it's 11am and i still havent had breakfast now i am trying to decide what to have for lunch. Like you i am not a meal prepper or planner i tried to be but it just didnt work but in saying that what i am doing now isnt working either. I learnt a very hard lesson that food was a big part of my life although i didnt realize it until after surgery. Make sure you get councilling before surgery and understand your relationship with food. I think that is where my trouble stems from and i have some sort of psychological block as in my mind i cant eat like i use to but the way i think i should eat is so unappealing. Understand fully what it going to be like after surgery. I had in my head i would eat all the same things but smaller amounts how wrong i was. I also had in my head that after 2 years everything would be back to normal ....as my surgeon told me the sleeve only works for 18 months after that its up to you.....that remains to be seen but from what i have read here and people i have talked to no its much longer than that if at all. ** I think about food and what i am going to eat more than i ever did before surgery to the point it drives me nuts . I wish i could decide what to eat and eat it.

Yes i find the separating of food and drink difficult to, i also miss carbonated drinks, even a soda water would be heaven at this point. I find breakfast incredibly difficult too

The worst i ever had pre surgery was mild situational anxiety after surgery i spiralled out of control to the point of contemplating suicide I was hospitalised for my own safety and got councilling. I suffered panic attacks and high anxiety. I spent 6 weeks on my sister couch curled up in a ball not wanting to do anything it was horrible for me and for my family and friends. I feel better now but if given the choice again i would not have the surgery.

For me I regret everything about the surgery I feel like I have destroyed an important part of my body to achive something normal dieting and addressing my emotional eating would have achived, a high percentage of surgery patients re gain weight just like with normal diets its not the "fix" we go into it thinking it is and it changes the way you eat and drink forever. Its like being on a very strict diet 24/7 with no break. I would love to be able to cheat just a little. The surgeon says that after 18 months keeping the weight off is up to you as the sleeve no longer works not sure how that happens but if thats the case why do the surgery at all. There are also so many other complications they dont really tell you about i know a young woman who has been sleeved for less than a year and currently having a 4th surgery to sort out complications she is having . Personally my reflux now takes double the strength of meds to control but if i dont eat every 3 hours i feel sick from the reflux so is my life better with a sleeve no it is not. Have i lost weight yes 20kg, but i am miserable and to me thats not worth it.

What exactly are you regretting ? For me i regret having the surgery at all, i am finding it very hard to cope with the changes to eating and drinking, my reflux now takes twice the amount of meds to control and if i dont eat ever 3 hours which half the time i dont feel like doing i feel sick. I never know what to eat as i have never been a "diet " type of person so I am struggling quite badly i wish i never had the surgery in the first place.

Ok well consider everything very carefully, its a huge adjustment and if you arent 100% prepared for it , its really really hard to deal with especially when it cant be reversed. Talk to as many people as you can ask lots of questions

How far post op are you Taylor? Its horrible to feel this isnt it?hugs to you ❤

Yes i am hungry a lot of the time too but its so hard juggling eating between drinking i currently drink less than a litre a day although yesterday i managed 1.25 litres but only because i drank right up until bedtime. Which my surgeon told me no drink or food 3 hours before bed 😕

Yes i have done that it has helped a little

I hate it, i had second thoughts going into surgery and was treated like i was having pre op nerves. I woke up hoping for some reason the surgery hadnt been done and i spiralled from there to the point of being suicidal. I have been beating myself up over why on earth did i think this was a good idea, why didnt my gp explain how serious the surgery was and why wasnt i given other options, why did the surgeon say " the effects of the sleeve only last 18 months then its up to you" my mind heard in 18 months you will be back to eating and drinking normally, why didnt my dietian say you are not ready for this when answering her questions, why didnt she explain in full detail how eating and drinking would change forever. I spent 8 weeks on my sisters couch curled up in the foetal position bearly eating, having anxiety and panic attacks. I am getting better though i am back at work, i cry at least once a day over what i have done to myself and its hard to incredibly hard. I find no joy or pleasure in food any more its a chore to eat and drink. So i guess i am dealing with lots of problems i wish i hadnt had the surgery as i would much prefer to be fat and happy than slim and miserable 😢😢

Is this to help with coping with surgery? If so I need it too

Take it from me you have done amazing on your own,if you are having doubts about the surgery dont do it. I had doubts but did it anyway now i wish i hadnt. I hate my post op stomach and the changes i have had to make. I wish i had continued with " traditional " weightloss strategies

Me too I think about food, drink and the time way more than i ever did before and i hate it.

I had this pain my surgeon said it was my spleen because it gets disturbed during surgery

Hi, I feel the same and am left wondering how i am going to live my life now. I have reacted so badly to this surgery that i can bearly eat. I would gladly take back the 20kg i have lost to have my stomach back in tact. I dont know how to move past these feelings its awful. I too had been thinking about it since 2016. I think those of us who think about it for a long time arent ready to actually do it. People who make the decision and do it quickly seem to adjust better. I am now 3 months out and everyone kept saying it will get better you wont feel like this for long but i still am 😢. I want to feel better, I want to be happy but i dont know how

I am experiencing this and it drives me nuts . I was trying to work out if it was hunger or thirst but its definitely hunger but even though i am hungry i cant eat alot if anything at all ( i think i have some sort of psychological block due to my regretting surgery but thats another topic ) I agree its not head hunger its real hunger but what do we do other than eat ?

Your profile says you are pre op, if this is correct and you are asking can you binge eat after surgery because you feel you might want to maybe dont have the surgery as you will be upset that you cant.

Well let me tell you, my start weight was 100kg, i am now 10 weeks po and 82kg but it has been a nightmare I would love to tell you it was a breeze and I know some people who did breeze through it. I still get slight pain when i eat. I think more about food and drinking more than i ever did before to the point it drives me nuts. I had reflux before surgery that my surgeon insisted would get better at this point it hasnt i wake every morning with a horrid taste in my mouth.and take double the amount of meds than i did pre surgery. I feel hungry but dont feel like eating.for me I wish i had have gone down a different path for weightloss. What i have given up to do this hasnt been worth it for me in the way i now have to eat and drink. it also effected my mental health terribly.you really need to consider lots of things and what they tell you you need to do after surgery like dont drink 30 mins each side of eating chew your food to a paste then swallow, no carbonated drinks, you dont really comprehend until after surgery. Make sure you get plenty of councilling prior and go with a surgical team that offers lots of after care if you chose to go ahead. It is hard and many people are glad they did it and i hope one day i am like that but atm i wouldnt recommend surgery if a weightloss of under 30kg is what you are aiming for.

I still havent gone back to work 10 weeks po, but i have had mental heath issues to deal with and had/having really hard time eating and getting enough fluids in so i have been feeling miserable and fatigue quickly, everyone is different and heal at different rates.