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I've been under a general now 4 times. Tell them you're nervous, though regardless they should give you drugs in your IV beforehand that send you off into fun-times give-no-f's la-la-land (seriously, it's a hoot). Then they'll tell you they're giving you the anesthetic, and you will experience a total time-jump. There's literally nothing, no sense of time passing. You will suddenly be in recovery like you've been teleported there. Coming out of anesthetic is woozy and dopey, and you will likely be feeling pain from the surgery. You'll be able to tell the nursing staff this, and they'll give you morphine or another strong opiate. The journey from recovery back to your ward bed will barely be remembered. I completely get the nerves, though! My first time going under (a knee reconstruction decades ago), I felt so utterly vulnerable and afraid, I cried. The nurses were very kind, and helped me through it, so absolutely tell them how frightened you are! Every surgery since, I've been cool as a cucumber because knowing what to expect takes all the fear out of it. Main thing to remember though: you have an entire team of incredibly smart, incredibly skilled anesthetists whose entire career and job is keeping people alive during surgery. They are amazing. I have a brother-in-law who is head of the department of anesthetics at a major Brisbane hospital, and he's extraordinary and so passionate. So try to keep that in mind! They're there for you.

I swear we're negative-space butt-twins, Arabesque!

Yeah, mine too. And my boobs have vanished. I used to say I'm shaped like a plank with tits, but now I'm just the plank. 🤡 I can wear the hell out of a suit, though. Tailored clothes love me. Bikinis... yeah not so much!

Echoing the "reset isn't real", and definitely co-signing on the calories. Here's a link to calorie calculators for loss and maintenance - pop in your stats and it gives you calorie guides. Super easy. Weight loss absolutely slows to a crawl as you reach goal, but staying in a deficit works, even if it's slow. I also wanted a "buffer" for the 3-year gain-back scenario, and I'm now ten kilos past my goal, which was what I was after. This whole process is just ongoing calorie adjustment and patience.

I really co-sign both of these! I'm fortunately more addicted to thrifting clothes than buying new, but I still have to stop myself and consider if I really really need yet another pair of jeans (I absolutely don't!). And #5 - oh boy, yep. I love how I look in clothes and in turn, how clothes look on me (I had no idea that under all that fat was a pretty good "coat hanger" body), but out of clothes is another matter entirely. The loose skin isn't super bad, but it's enough that I'm self-conscious, and I'm now also conscious of how bony I am. I suspect I'm on the cusp of being told I'm too thin, despite still being in a normal BMI. I've basically swapped one body insecurity for another.

When my last decent honest-to-god effort to lose weight on my own eventually failed during the start of the pandemic, the crush of despair was honestly overwhelming. I knew WLS was my last option. In a rare spot of good fortune, I had the funds coming in that could pay for both the necessary private health cover, and the flat fee my chosen surgeon offered at his clinic. I waited out the year until my health cover's pre-existing condition wait period was over, and never looked back. I could never have done it without that bit of good financial luck, so I'm immensely grateful. It gave me back my life. Injectables? No way. Stop taking that stuff and you're gaining it back again. Same as a "normal" diet, only much more expensive. With WLS, it's one outlay of cash, then a permanent solution, which is what I needed. I have this for life, and that's a comfort!

I had a similar gain of around 1.5kg recently, and it was due to an injured knee (played basket ball on a knee that's still not 100% after breaking it late last year 🙃). The knee swelled up noticeably, and after a fortnight of compression and rest, the swelling finally went away and took the 1.5kg gain with it. I'm back to slowly losing again.

About 3 months out for me. I already have fine hair, so the thinning out did make me a bit paranoid. I always wore a cap outside and was close to buying some chemo/alopecia scarves. I instead got my hairdresser to give me a short platinum blonde pixie cut and that made all the difference. It grew back, but it took a few months to do so, and I was and still am meticulous with hair and skin vitamin supplements and collagen support, which may have lessened the severity, but certainly didn't stop it from noticeably thinning. It's just part of the process. I couldn't say if my hair regrowth is the same as it once was, however, as I've kept my hair platinum and super short because I like it.

Oh dude, that suuuuuucks. 😢 I'd be ready to kick someone too. "I don't know" is an inadequate non-diagnosis for putting the breaks on the revision.

You are going through withdrawals. Sugar addiction cold turkey is a miserable thing (emotional and physical) but it's mercifully short. You'll feel better in a week or so. Just keep repeating to yourself "this isn't forever". 10 days is nothing. Over in the blink of an eye. The pre-op diet is the worst bit. It's legendary in its awfulness. No fun, but essential to shrink that liver so your surgery is as safe as it can be. Distract yourself however you can with games, walks with podcasts/audio books, cleaning, aspirational wishlisting from clothing sites you've always wanted to shop from, focusing on the goal. Grit your teeth and soldier on. I had my pre-surgery nerves kick in on week 2, which actually helped because I couldn't sit still.

My theatre youth definitely has helped me in life to mask my introverted social anxiety - not always successfully, but I've muddled by! I've never been good at the whole flirting thing, and am that person who has no idea someone IS flirting 99% of the time. So if anyone has flirted with me now that I'm skinny, I haven't twigged. Mind you, the thin-aesthetic I've soundly embraced can best be described as "androgynous lesbian android", so I think that's successfully staying the hands and minds of straight men. Which I'm definitely more than ok with! (And also likely passed my sell by date. At the very least I need a good sniff first.) To the OP: I definitely think you need to unpack this with a good therapist who can help get to the root of what's going on.

You're losing much faster than I did (I averaged about 2 pounds/1kg per week), and I wasn't a revision patient. Just be patient and kind to yourself and stick to your plan and you'll get where you want to be.

I lost at a rate of about 1kg per week, which is what I used to lose doing a "normal" diet before surgery. Compared to many others, I was a slow loser. You're doing absolutely fine. I've never heard of this 50% by 3 months either, and honestly I think a lot of folks go into WLS with unrealistic expectations of how fast they'll lose (either via misinformation online or by TV shows like My 600lb Life). So relax. Everything is normal. Stay off the scale and distract yourself with other things. Weighing yourself so frequently isn't helpful and when stalls hit (and they will), it's even less helpful.

That's tricky without your current height and weight and the goal you're wanting to reach, as there's no universal answer. You can work out your calories for loss with this online calculator: https://www.calculator.net/calorie-calculator.html It does metric and imperial, and can give you a deficit to reach goal as well as maintenance calories.

I stalled 14 days out, and then stalled so frequently in that first year post-op, I genuinely lose count of haw many stalls I had. It sucks, but you just have to stick to your plan and have patience for the process.

I would be... definitely questioning that. 115 pounds down in 6 months is a huge loss, so you're doing really well as it is. Stay on track, and you'll lose that 60lbs in another 6 just fine without needing a drug that increases nausea and makes you not hungry. I sincerely hope it's not the new normal! If you were struggling with a return to bingeing or overeating and you were gaining, then maybe I could see the reason? But if you're doing fine, which you seem to be, then I'm scratching my head.

Ah that is brilliant! Go you! Moderately envious because my broken knee from late last year (cycling accident!) has scuppered my fitness plans and I'm dying to get back on the bike! You look so stoked in those pics, it's infectious!

Agree with everyone else here: get help now. Especially a bariatric therapist. You don't want to let it go on for too long or the way back will feel overwhelming (this was always an issue of mine). I think it's safe to say all of us are forever standing on that cliff, and it doesn't take much to stumble off the ledge. Good luck OP, you can get back on track.

It took me months to be able to eat "normally". Combo of zero appetite, my paranoia of hurting my stomach and new intestine join, and strong restriction. Everyone's post-op experience is subtly different, and some cases, wildly different dependent on the type of surgery, your body, your pain tolerance and heal rate etc etc. There's no "right way", other than sticking to the plan your team gives you. Beyond that you just have to do your best. So don't worry, don't beat yourself up. I've always had sips of water with meals and don't care. Nothing's broken and I'm doing fine. Things will get easier and you'll settle into the new routine in time.

I was on protein shakes and one non-starchy vegetable meal per day, so a similar plan to yours. No idea why some folks get super-restrictive milk diets and others can eat solid meals, but each surgery has its own way of doing things. Yes, the pre-op diet sucks, the cold-turkey off sugar addiction alone is brutal. But it's only two weeks. I kept that in my head at all times - two weeks is a blink of an eye in this whole process, and by week two my pre-surgery nerves had kicked in and that nervous energy helped divert my attention. Distract yourself with anything you can. Games, cleaning, walks, books, walk-and-podcast or walk-and-audiobook. Whatever you're able to do. Drink water, keep it on hand at all times. Stay focused on why you're doing this. Make wishlists of what you want to do and wear when you start dropping those sizes.

First off: the rate of weight loss isn't dependent on the type of surgery. Folks who've had a MGB/Omega Loop on here have lost quickly, and I was one who lost slowly. It's the same for all surgeries. Rate of loss depends on other factors, and honestly it's fine if it's slow. I still hit goal and am now below, so the end results is what matters. I don't know where the MGB gives minimal loss comes from? I've lost 100% of my excess weight, and by kilograms, I'm half my original size. I absolutely don't regret opting for the MGB over the Sleeve. Took about fourteen months to reach goal, at a pretty steady clip. I was someone who stalled frequently, so it took patience and staying off the scale for a lot of it. But again - this is just me. No real complications beyond a tendency to develop ulcers, but I had raging GERD pre-surgery, and have a bile pool in the bottom of my new stomach, so there's specific me-related stuff going on that isn't necessarily to do with the surgery. I have issues with digestion and my liver misbehaving that pre-date my surgery. No dumping. I do get mild foamies, but they're a minor inconvenience versus proper full-tilt foamies others get. The restriction is excellent, and my labs are all consistently good so my supplement intake is working. I absolutely think it's worth it and couldn't be happier with my choice.

Fingers crossed you're in the home-stretch, SleeveDiva2022. You poor chicken, what a bloody ordeal!

I also took on a second physical job and yep - the muscles aren't what they were! I regularly get a dull ache in the mid-back region due to my core strength being non-existent. I've also had a couple of injuries that are taking their merry time to get better, the worst of which is the knee I broke badly coming off a bike. It's tricky balancing the food intake with physical activity and I haven't managed to work it out yet.

I imagine Starbucks iced coffees etc are absolute calorie bombs due to the fat and sugar. Honestly, I'd be taking this time post-op to wean yourself off drinking your calories, and especially in the early months drinks really need to have a protein focus. I was never given a coffee restriction (I was offered coffee the first night in hospital), so once my stomach had some time to heal, my daily treat was a small soy latte, no sugar. Soy has a good amount of protein in it, and a small soy latte is an acceptable 75 calories.

Anyone going through that would be regretting everything. How horrific, I'm so sorry that happened to you, Mrs Roz. What utter medical negligence. I agree with others that you might consider contacting a lawyer.