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Yes, people loved my ex. Except my Dad, he saw through the mask he wore for everyone else. My family was very supportive because the last straw involved the kids. I went and had my haircut and he told my toddlers that this is what (very derogatory terms for females look like). I didn’t want them to remember this and I didn’t want my daughter growing up thinking she was an object to be ruled by men. I will admit that the loss of his income was hard. I felt lonely being single but I focused my mind into work and my kids. After awhile, I started to love who I was. Whether you decide divorce or a separation is up to you. You know you better than I do. If you choose to stay, I would not belittle your choice. As I had tried to leave my ex four times before the last. I wis you luck and will praying for you. I hope you get your surgery and my thoughts will be with you when do.

This situation is why I am divorced. Your husband sounds like ex. He hated when I wanted to do something to improve my health. This may have been years ago and long before I actually started the process to gastric bypass but it is still true. He says things like this to stop you from doing it and refusing to drive you in the hopes you won’t be able to have the surgery without a ride. I’m sorry to say it but he’s emotionally abusive. Manipulating your situation to keep you where he wants you. This relationship is toxic. After you get home and he proceeds to behave like this and not help you, divorce him. You may find yourself becoming mentally stronger and long term success without being beat down emotionally because you made a decision for you.

Thanks and it is. They have been really great here. I am hopeful that I am going home tomorrow. I normally heal by sleeping and as everyone knows, they keep waking you up every 2 hours.

I am scared of emotional changes as well. I have major depressive disorder with suicidal thoughts and tendencies. My doctors have been excellent in managing my medications and I have an amazing therapist. Hopefully it is enough to keep the dark thoughts away. It ok to scared. For the first time, I asked for the hospital chaplain to see me before surgery. I will be thinking of you and praying for the best for you!

Hi everyone! New here and I had my bypass yesterday (8/11). Everything is ok. It hurts and I’ve had nothing but ice chips. The worst thing so far was when the IV fluids caused my forearm to retain fluid so bad it was hard to the touch. I’ve walked around my room a bit. I hope everyone still waiting and/or just had theirs is doing good! Tonya