NatashaZ

Hello everyone... well, I went ahead and called my insurance to see if this would be covered. They said no. So does that mean there is absolutely no chance that they will pay for it? It sounds like a silly question but I am 23 years old and have only had insurance twice before, when I was 16 and then 21, for about 5 months each time. I have no idea how this works. I read about people appealing and getting approved, does that mean they were told that it wasn't covered? Or was it always covered by their plan, but they needed to qualify first?? I am sooooo confused. :biggrin:

Hello everyone. I am not banded, but on my way. I was hoping you guys could give me some insight on a problem I am having. My boyfriend is very overweight. He has always been big, but in the past 2 years has probably gained an additional 50-60 pounds. I gained quite a bit of weight myself living with him. I have tried to get him to eat better and work out, and I have lost a little weight and feel better about myself, but he just won't budge. It scares me that he will just get bigger and bigger until he eventually dies. His mother is a VERY large woman, she is in her 50s and can barely walk. I don't want him to grow old like that. And what's worse, the part that kills me, is that I don't want to grow old with him if that is where he is headed. It is totally selfish of me, I know. But the more weight he adds on, the less I am attracted to him, NOT because he is fat but because of his attitude. He complains but won't DO anything. He talks and talks about how important it is to eat right and work out but he WON'T MOVE. He just WON'T. It is driving me nuts. I can't have sex with him. I can barely look at him now, it makes me so uncomfortable. He just sits there. I don't know what to do. I care for him deeply but I am scared that he will never change his habits. I am also scared that when/if I lose my extra weight, I will have even less tolerance for his complete lack of motivation. I just don't know what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation?

Thanks AFW, but the bad news is I can't afford it, and my credit is not positive enough for me to finance. While it is nice to think about being able to save a little each month towards a Lap Band, the truth is I have already severely cut my spending just to pay the rent. I no longer drive, I don't eat out, I turned off my cable... even with all these changes, I am still struggling paycheck to paycheck, and don't foresee myself saving anything at all.

Thanks BrandyMom. The only issue is, because of my lack of insurance, I barely ever went to the doctor. The two things that I do have medical records of are 2 surgeries I had that, while they were not caused by my weight, being heavy put me at much greater risk for complications (one surgery was spinal). I know both of my surgeons would write letters for me if I asked, saying that I can avoid a world of trouble in the future if I lose the weight in my 20s. I moved to OH from NY 2 years ago and my family doc in NY, whom I didn't see much, would also be willing to send over a record of my weight, as would my pediatrician. I just never really discussed WLS with any of them and am unsure if my inability to lose weight on my own will be enough of a diet history. I never went on a medically supervised diet. :biggrin: I was scared when they said no that it went it was completely excluded from my employers plan? Insurance is so confusing!!

Hello everybody. My name is Natasha and I live in Dayton. I am just starting on this journey, although 2 years ago I was within weeks of gastric bypass before changing my mind. Basically, I did all the pre-op, had a date, but began losing weight on my own while waiting for my surgery. I went from 240 to 215 or so and felt great. Fast foward 2 years... I am at 280. I feel like I have done some sort of irreversible damage to my body. I am only 23 years old but do not have the energy or stamina of someone my age. I have tried restricting my intake and working out more frequently, but my weight won't budge (at least it hasn't gotten any higher- yet). Anyway, while I am out of shape, I am not completely inactive. I can easily do 30 minutes of cardio 4-5 times a week, and recently went on a 4 hour hike (casual pace on relative easy terrain). Hmm... what else... if anyone in the Dayton area would like to reach out to me and share their Lap Band story, please do so. I would especially like to hear about your experiences with insurance, and also how your weight loss has affected your relationships with people.

Hey everyone I live in Dayton, glad I spotted this thread. I am not banded yet. I would love to meet some activity buddies who have been banded or are on their way. Does anyone know of a good support group in Dayton that I could maybe visit for a meeting or two?