bluesupef04

Hi everyone, I need some support and advice because I feel like I am failing so bad right now and I am so frustrated. I am almost three months post op. I lost 20lbs On my own before surgery. My surgeon was very strict and I only could have proteins shakes and water. I hated the protein shakes and ended up just having water a lot of the time. Especially after surgery, with a liquid diet I had mostly water. My surgeon wasn’t concerned. However, right after my surgery I lost a lot of weight really fast. The first month I lost about 30 pounds. It started slowing down the second month when I started eating especially. Second month I lost about 14 pounds. However about halfway through the month I started slowing down and hit plateaus. In the third month I have lost only 5 pounds. Is this normal? I went from 320 and am now at 250 or so. I have lost inches in the last months so I know SOMETHING is happening. But I feel like a failure and my surgeon absolutely is no help. I am realizing I haven’t got any if the support I need from him. He wants me to eat once a day, and I have never been able to do that aside from maybe day one of eating. My body is hungrier than that. It has gone from two a day total to two or three times a day with a snack. This seems on par with everything I’ve read but my surgeons words and requirements are really triggering my sense of failure. Paired with my extreme stalls the shame and guilt is intense. I work out 2-3 times a week pretty intensely and know m I’m building muscle. I also was struggling to drink all my water until last week. My foods consist of mostly cheese, meats, and veggies. I had crackers when I was sick the second month as well as a food two other times with minimal amounts of flour. I believe I am in ketosis all of the time and have not gotten out of it. I can eat 1-1.9 oz a day. Sometimes I eat until I’m full, but I’ve only had 3 or so times I’ve ate until I was past full. I’m definitely high anxiety on this and I know that is part of the issue. Anxiety causes stress which can hold weight but also make me want to eat more. Any thoughts?

I can’t respond to anyone individually on here 😡 Thank you all so much for the kind words. It has helped immensely. I am eating 1-2 oz a meal, so probably getting about 4 oz a day of food total. I am going to talk to the nutritionist and get a counselor that specializes in WLS. I definitely am frustrated with my surgeon and need more support. I basically fasted for a month, but it didn’t feel doable right not, so I think I’ll ignore that advice too. I had never heard anyone else saying they should eat once until that comment above. I have a counselor, but I need a new one. So I’m going to have to get more Swiss about my supports. I may have pushed too hard as well. I had a lot of complications with the surgery. I got an infected incision and had a lot of issues with dizziness and weakness for the first 4 weeks after surgery. I started working out at about 2 months. Thank you all so much for the support. I feel much better 🤗🤗🤗

*made a ton of typos in my first post and can’t figure out how to edit 😡 I am literally in the same boat aside from the twisting feeling. I have been watching food videos like crazy and at first felt really guilty, but it’s almost like it’s desensitizing me and educating me. I’m starting to see unhealthy aspects of how we eat in America, before I could identify them but only abstractly. I too lose interest mid-meal. I was so excited to eat soft foods at 3 weeks but what I’ve noticed is it now makes me sick and tastes horrible. I generally only like cheese and even this week, week five, I’m not digging it. 

However, my surgeon is very strict, I’m supposed to strive to have one meal a day (though I have two), and he explained the long term goal of eating is simply to refuel. Not for pleasure. Eating on a schedule, recognizing it is energizing and supporting your body…and that’s it. I hated that idea, but am starting to get on board with it. Just use this time to be extra aware of what your body does, how it feels, and build routine. It is easier off you aren’t hungry, at least for me. I’m trying to take advantage of it. My surgeon has me taking two minutes between each bite during my meal where I meditate. I thought this was ridiculous at first, but it is amazing! Even if you don’t meditate it might be helpful to take that time to identify how your body feels. The twisting feeling could be tied to your emotions. It may be helped by thinking of that area relaxing, even telling it aloud to relax. Breathing in slowly and exhaling slowly and encouraging your whole gut to release all that fear because I hear the fear in your post (totally normal). I have an extremely (I’m talking crazy) sensitive body. The surgery has imbalanced my body like crazy and my body has responded with the symptoms we’re talking about. I have taken to rubbing my belly and kind of treating it like a baby. Recognize the mental upheaval you’re dealing with (which it sounds like you are), and give yourself grace. I found out a lot of stuff on why I have an eating problem the last couple weeks that threw me for a loop. I have done my own work too, but things are going to come up and are in a big way. I had to listen to what was going on, not ignore it, or try to overthink it or only focus on the fear and nothing else. Listen to what is wrong. Your body can tell you but expressing emotions. Here are some questions: Ok, I don’t feel hungry, why? I’m feeling insecure, why? What does food mean to me? I found out it meant protection a couple weeks ago. Hard to not eat if you deeply believe food and weight mean protection, right? Be gentle with yourself. They do not emphasize how much this changes your entire existence. Loving yourself goes a long way.

I am literally in the same boat aside from the twisting feeling. I have been watching food videos like crazy and at first felt really guilty, but it’s almost like it’s desensitizing me and educating me. I’m starting to see unhealthy aspects of how we eat in America, where I could identify them aside from abstractly. I too lose interest mid-meal. I was so excited to eat soft foods at 3 weeks but what I’ve noticed is it so makes me sick and tastes horrible. I generally only like cheese and even this week, week five, I’m not digging it. However, my surgeon is very strict, I’m supposed to strive to have one meal a day (though I have two), and he explained the long term goal of eating simply too refuel. Kind of like another Member slide to. Eating on a schedule, recognizing it is energizing and supporting your body…and that’s it. I hated that idea, but am starting to get on board with it. Just use this time to be extra aware of what your body does, how it feels, and build routine. My surgeon has me taking two minutes between each bite where I meditate. Even if you don’t meditate it might be helpful to take that time to identify how your body feels. The twisting feeling could be helped by thinking of that area relaxing, even telling it to relax. Breathing in slowly and exhaling slowly and encouraging your whole gut to release all that fear because I hear the fear in your post (totally normal). I have an extremely (I’m talking crazy) sensitive body. The surgery had unbalanced my body like crazy and it has responded with the symptoms we’re talking about. I have taken to rubbing my belly and kind of treating it like a baby. Recognize the mental upheaval you’re dealing with (which it sounds like you are), and give yourself grace. I found out a lot of stuff on why I have an eating problem the last couple weeks that threw me for a loop. But I had to listen to what was going on. Ok, I don’t feel hungry, why? I’m feeling insecure, why? Be gentle with yourself. They do not emphasize how much this changes your entire existence. Loving yourself goes a long way.

I started my period 2-3 days post-op. I am now two weeks post-op and it will not end. It is one of the heaviest flows I’ve had and simply will just not end. It stops for a day here and there, abruptly (no tapering off) and completely, and comes back within a day or two at full force. It’s to the point I’m going to have to go in and nature sure things are ok. My poor body feels like it is gone through the ringer with this and other complications 😤😤