summerseeker

Congrats on your fabulous loss so far, you have done amazing in such a short time. Shooting for a goal weight is good but if you cant achieve it, don't be down hearted. It may affect your progress. Just keep working your plan and see where you get to. It must become obvious when we get to our set point. I am a little bothered by the 20lb bounce back at 3 years out that people have talked about.

We wouldn't be human if we didn't worry about the unknown. Once I was in the hospital I calmed myself. I was so fed up with the pre op diet, I almost ran to the theatre

I am sorry you didn't get your surgery. It must be a real shock to find you have a enlarged liver. Were you given a pre op diet ? Nearly all of us were given them to shrink our liver pre surgery.

I wish you the very best for tomorrow. Let us know how you get on

Try full skim milk with extra dried milk powder stirred in. You can flavour them if you wish with fruit or peanut butter. Plenty of protein and much better for you than artificial drinks

I did not give the surgery the care it deserved. I think it was because of the 1 day hospital stay. It made it seem a more minor procedure. I also didn't realise the time it would take a woman my age and disability to recover. I didn't start bouncing along till I got to the 4 month mark. I needed nana naps during the day and if I had a busy day I knew about the next day. Cut yourself some slack when you can. It will take as long as it takes

I remember your trials and tribulations last year. You knew you didn't want the first team and you go through with it. You are a strong person. You did all that and lost and kept off 50lbs, you can do this last little hurdle. I hopr you get the date you want.

I was an ancient, disabled 62 year old and in 7 months I have lost 100+ lbs and got off my BP meds, am not diabetic anymore and can walk briskly without a stick and have my independence back. Every day is a new sunny day for me, even when its raining! I only wish that I could have afforded this surgery 20 years ago.

You don't need to change anything up. Its nothing you have done wrong. Just stick to your given plan. All stalls break

Wow, we have a stunning woman in our forum. Well done on your journey so far. Try a little boiled egg mashed with mayo. Try and find some protein yogurt you like, try it with mashed strawberry or other berry fruit. It helps the bowels. I had to resort to tinned soups with the bigger bits squashed with a fork. Many have mashed potato and gravy but it wasn't for me. Hummus is good especially if you can eat it with mashed avocado. I was allowed crispy melba toast as it melted in the mouth. You can always go back a stage if you are struggling, its your journey, just keep up your protein quota

Worrying is a waste of time. Try not to do it. You can loose a lot of sleep whilst worrying. Nobody likes doing the Pre Op diet, Its a form of cruelty that goes on and on. If you want the surgery you will have to do it, especially as you have the fatty liver. My time in purgatory lasted 3 weeks, I wanted the surgery so badly, I slipped once and had to cross my fingers behind my back that he didn't open me up and say he couldn't do the surgery. Good luck with your journey.

Your hormones have gone on a crazy ride because of the surgery. You need to speak to your Gynaecologist, periods shouldn't be debilitating.

Congratulations on your date, let us know how you get on

Congratulations on your date. You need to remember that you are having major surgery, its seems like its a small procedure because we stay in hospital only a day. Once at home you need to be able to sleep, rest and get into your new regime. Sip, sip, and sip. You are not superwoman, you don't need to try to be. Read the back pages of the forum while your days tick away and ask all your questions.

Thank you so much for introducing me to Miso Paste, I am in love with the stuff. My next new recipe is going to be Miso paste with garlic, ginger, oyster sauce and chilli added. Spread onto seared aubergines and baked in the oven.... drool

I have had a rough ride with nausea and vomiting from day 1. My food and calorie intake was really poor. At about 4 months out my calories were about 350 to 500 a day. I just could not meet my protein target. I just stopped loosing weight. It took me another 6 weeks of really hard work, sourcing different foods and trying to up my intake of protein. When I got to around 800 calories a day, my weight began to drop again. I felt so much better and stronger. I have just had a hotel holiday abroad and I have really struggled with the food. My Cal count went back down to 500. I didn't loose any weight once again. Despite all the walking, swimming and dancing I have done.

Firstly congrats on getting into the 3's. You are doing amazing. My husband gave up smoking 12 years ago. He regularly smokes in his dreams, he says he enjoys every cigarette. Sleep eating and smoking have to be super healthy .

I think its worth a try and it is a good price. I have just poured some oil in a pan and fried some meatballs and poured the remainder away. The remainder is way more than I thought, I was trying to make a really heathy dish, not as healthy as I thought.

I am sorry this is getting tough for you too. At this moment in time you are having to deal with so many things at once it really must hurt that your husband is throwing tantrums and acting childish. He sounds really frightened that you are changing and does not know how to deal with his emotions. If only they could tell us their fears but that would be too simple. If you did split up, he would probably say it was because you changed after the surgery. Not that he couldn't handle the slimmer, confident person who has always lived inside you. I would send you a hug and a bowl of chicken soup if I could. We women are made tough for a reason x

I had a mini chocolate ice cream lolly tonight. Cals 144. My sky didn't fail in. It was just enough to satisfy my craving and small enough to not make me nauseous

If you already suffer from reflux then the Gastric Sleeve is not the operation for you, You need a Gastric bypass. A sleeve will only make your reflux worse

I have heard of this before. When we are overweight we loose ourselves and hide behind family and try to stay as small as possible and hide in the shadows. Gradually we are no longer the people we were. I used to work in a Adult Education College. Every two years a new full time Art Course began. There were lots of middle aged ladies took the course and over the 30 hour week they put in these ladies slowly changed, their personalities and confidence began to blossom. You could physically see it happen. Many of these ladies left their husbands. They were different. My husband was finished from his very physical job because of his ill health and lost all his confidence. It really shook him and he changed for the worse. I was his verbal punch bag. I took it for 2 years. I found somewhere else to live and gave him the ultimatum. You stop all this mental cruelty and go back to the man I love or I am gone in a week. With in a day he was back to the man I know and deeply love. He had it all but couldn't see it. What I am trying to say in a roundabout way is confidence or lack of it, changes us. It changes the people around us. I would put a plan in place just so you have a bolt hole. Try speaking to your husband, tell him how you feel, try counselling. You never know you may meet in the middle again. You will always know you tried everything

Never thought of that one, Duh. Dont know if they would have but going home tomorrow , strikes permitting

I am in the UK but went private. The NHS around us are not doing Bariatric surgery as they are so far behind on other surgery. They class Bariatric surgery as non urgent

I am in Spain at the moment and am having a difficult time finding foods to eat in the hotel restaurant. The eggs are so hard boiled or over cooked scrambled that I cant digest them. The soup is shocking and has no body. The meat is so tough, I am living off milk and yogurt and am really weak at the moment. I hope you are going to a better hotel than this. Take some foods or protein supplements with you just in case. I never realised it would be so difficult for me