I would ask your friends that have had it done which dr they went to. If that doesn't work, find a dr who specializes in weight loss. In my area, I did the latter. He recommended it immediately, set me up with an appt in L.A., and within 4 weeks or so I had it done. I would definitely fight the age discrimination, in writing yourself and from a doctor; even people who understand your condition like a parent may help. If the insurance co believes it is going to have to pay for your back treatment they may elect to do your lapband early.