Hi! I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I'm hoping that some of you at least can relate.
So here's my story. I've been banded for about three weeks now, and while I'm a little distressed with the fact that my appetite and the amount of food I'm able to consume hasn't changed (but from looking online and talking to my doc. it would appear that's not unheard of), my biggest fear at the moment is the thought of starting to get out there and date again. I never in a million years thought I would find myself feeling this way having been boy crazy (but unbearably shy) since, well.. birth.
But now, looking over my last 26 odd years, it's VERY evident that the periods in my life when I've gained the majority of my weight has been after major breakups. I've had just a few relationships, and only two I'd call significant but after each one ended (badly in both cases), I've had the mentality of "why bother watching what I eat?" and I've packed on the pounds. I'm not talking, 5lbs here or 10lbs there... I'm talking 50lbs easy.
And this is where I'm most afraid. I'm scared to go through that kind of pain again, and it's then compounded by my fear of giving up on my weight-loss goals because I'm in emotional pain. I'm not just scared... I'm terrified. I'm afraid to un-zip the fat suit I've been hiding inside and have to deal with dating again.
Does anyone else feel this way? Has anyone gotten over it?
-Daina