james2021

Good luck to you too!!

So excited for tomorrow! And so nervous something will fall through at the very last minute! Lol. Won't be able to sleep tonight, just like the first day of school.

Hang in there! It will get better!

Not being able to buckle my seatbelt in the backseat of most cars.

Not sure if you've watched this before but found it to be a really helpful video about stalls right after surgery!

I would guess it has to do with the fluids you were given in the hospital. I was told to expect to regain about half the weight that's come off in the liver-shrink diet after the fact bc of hospital fluids. It'll come off!!

i’m on day 16 of 21 of the pre-op diet. today’s the first day i really thought about cheating. UGH. i’m down 15 pounds from the pre-op appointment like the doctor wanted but i don’t know how the liver works!!! maybe eating one thing will ruin the whole thing idk sigh

SAME

I think I remember that when I've gotten tattoos, the consent form says "I certify i haven't had surgery in the last x weeks." I'd call the tattoo place and ask what their cutoff is.

Congratulations on all you have accomplished. ❤️ And thanks for the idea -- Shrill is one of those shows I started but never finished! Will move it up higher on the list.

My hangup with telling people about surgery proactively is that I worry it would cause harm to others. If someone with obesity approached me and asked me "how I did it," I would be 100% honest. But I don't want me being open about it proactively to be taken as a message that I think this is what an obese person "should do." I want to be respectful of my friends who are working really hard to feel good in their large bodies. I've told about 9 people, all friends, no family. One of the people I disclosed it to, who is thin, had a very strained reaction, and essentially told me she couldn't engage in the conversation because of her background with eating disorders, which I wasn't aware of. She was maybe the 3rd or 4th person I told, and moving forward with the next few, I was very very tentative with how I told people, and made clear that I would answer questions, but that we didn't need to discuss it further since it's a sensitive topic. Food and weight are very complicated things for people and I want to be very careful with suddenly opening intimate conversations about them with unsuspecting friends.

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I can relate to so much of this, especially with hiding food and seeing what my friends' houses were like. I'm glad you decided not to tell your parents to help you do this for you; I'm not telling mine either.

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this on top of the baseline layer of stress that caring for parents with dementia must bring. ❤️ I can't imagine the things my dad would say with less of a filter, and don't want to.

Obviously I'm just speaking from my own experience here, but I'm very glad you stopped that. I know in my case, any comments on my body, then or now, just gave/gives me shame and resentment toward my parents. I love that you are letting her come to you. I never had a chance to go to my parents because they always got to me first, so I don't know how that would've made me feel. But I do think there is a lot of power in empowering her to make decisions about her body, instead of sending the message that it's out of her hands. As I've been grappling with this over the last couple of years, I've seen that there have been recent studies on parents encouraging dieting in kids and teens, and the fact that this not only can cause 'traditional eating disorders' but obesity as well. This was affirming to read because it made me feel like I wasn't alone. I don't know if your husband would find this compelling, but here's a link: https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/wellness/story/parents-encouraging-teens-diet-higher-risk-obesity-adult-53537394 I also appreciate the therapy comment. I do work with a therapist. I love therapy. Everyone should do therapy! Lol.

Mine is tomorrow and I'm all of a sudden very stressed out about it. My brain likes to create problems.

Hi, I am female but I wear my hair cut very short, above the ears and buzzed down to a 2/3 on the sides and in the back, longer on top. I'm wondering how noticeable hair loss usually is for hair that is very short to begin with. I did a quick search on the men's forum to see talk about hair loss in general and there wasn't a ton there, leading me to believe it's really just people with long hair who have noticeable issues. Can anyone with very short hair speak from experience? I'm just wondering, like, will I have bald patches or anything? Thank you. ❤️

Able to eat some things. All liquid sounds so hard!! I had been reading it gets better after day 3 and maybe it's in my head but it feels true in my case! Good luck to you ❤️

Congratulations!!

I've read on here about people chewing and chewing until it was puree consistency...and being okay... I wouldn't risk it personally. Can you puree them?

Woohoo congrats! I'm on the 20th.

It's hard to describe, but knowing that you are in the final stretch until surgery kicks in a new level of motivation. I could've never done this before. But knowing that I have to shrink my liver or they could potentially not operate, or it would be unsafe -- after all of these months of effort -- has made eating 800-1000 calories a day for the last 5 days almost easy. I also had read on these forums that the first 3 days are the hardest and I'm finding that to be true in my case, too. Yesterday and today were easy. You've got this!

I would call ASAP to rule out an infection. They probably will want you to go in.

5 days of pre-op diet down, 16 to go!!

Not necessarily 6 months! But, yes, it sounds like they will make you start your attempts now. The thing you will have to get to the bottom of is how many months or attempts they need to approve you. My insurance policy, for example, required documentation of either 2 3-month long attempts in the last year, or 1 6-month long attempt. Does your program give you an insurance coordinator of some kind to help you through this process?

With the disclaimer that I am not a doctor, I did a quick search of both and medullary sponge kidney / medullary nephrocalcinosis don't appear to be kidney disease or anything life threatening. It's good that the ultrasound did not see any kidney stones! I can see them wanting you to do more testing just to be safe, but try not to panic (easier said than done, I know; I've been there). Medical tests of all kinds pick up on weird stuff that doesn't even exist all the time. I had to take a drug test before my surgery approval and came back 'presumptive positive' for fentanyl which the doctor had never seen before (and I don't take fentanyl, lol), but then they retested the same sample and nothing came back.