Nanook

Mumof2boys, I really feel for you and can't imagine the pain you're in. I hope you get some resolve soon so that you can start living your life again. Also hope you do find a way to deal with this as it can't be doing you any good to feel such stress inside. Take care, Nanook!:wink_smile:

I went on line and they were discussing flying into Canada but they didn't mention "driving". I keep hearing various stuff and was hoping I could just cut it with my BC and my DL! Thanks Nanook:smile:

Personally at if I were 225 and my height of 5'6" I wouldn't have considered it. If I were 200 lbs at 5'6" I definitely wouldn't have considered it. My problem happened that I creeped up past 250 lbs and was definitely having a hard time losing it and wanted something to help go back down and then maintain and keep away from that yo yo dieting routine I'd been on all my life. Never meant to become a skinny person, wasn't my choice. Although I understand others wanting that, it's just not my bag baby! Wasn't really sure what weight I wanted to go down to but I certainly didn't want to gain back the weight I had lost on the pre-op liquid phase. But if you think about it, it was a kind of 4 week crash diet at the time and my body doesn't react well to crash dieting. Now that I'm not "dieting" I'm doing much better. Mentally I'm doing great! Everyone has different needs and wants from this and I wouldn't judge a person because they got the band at 200 lbs or 400 lbs it's a personal choice and doesn't warrant anyone's judgment. Just as I wouldn't judge a person who was 200 lbs or 400 lbs and were happy with the weight they were at and did not want to go through WLS. I know what's right for me now and probably shouldn't have been banded in the first place as I wasn't in a "good place" at the time when I made the decision. Nanook.:thumbs_up:

Hi I take clonapin (my spelling) with pristiq which is an SNRI but I don't have any probs. My daughter is a RNY patient and they had to up her dosage of her antidepressant due to the malabsorption issues she has but that's totally different. Work with your psychologist with this issue. I don't know if you'll be able to find someone with the exact cocktail out there but I guess you never know. Good luck Nanook.

THANK YOU!!!!!! Nanook:thumbup:

I know what you mean, lol!

My eldest brother gave me that as a nickname growing up as my real name is Nancy, not really sure why but he did. Maybe I'll have my grandchildren call me that when/if I get them, lol. Nanook.

Billy Jean, you still never directed me to where your posts were about your dad and politics, Nanook:smile:

I agree with Shiny... and also fell into the same trap of being too tight and getting frustrated because I couldn't eat the healthy foods and would then compensate with the "sliders". I then had 2 cc's taken out to go back to "normal" and eventually added one more back in and I'm fine now. It's still very slow but I'm basically doing the best I can. My expectations were never to get down to 125 again just to be at a healthy weight that I found to be pleasant and to maintain that. I think my expectations maybe a bit different than others because of my age and my relationship with my hubster. My health is better now that I am eating better and exerciseing on the treadmill so I may not always measure my successes by the scale, maybe by my diabetes being under control and my bad cholesterol numbers are better and I'm not as out of breath as I used to be. A surgeon at a support group I attented once was asked what "number" they should be restriction-wise and he told them that you do not think about the number and not to focus on that number it's how you are doing restriction wise. You can't ever compare your numbers with another bandster it's very individual. You need to be able to eat protein but not too much so you find where you should be and talk to your doctor about explaining it better. I know everyone wants to find their "sweet spot" but maybe some do and some never do it's like the "G spot". Good luck to you Nanook.

What are your "astrological" signs? Nanook:smile:

What exactly was the conversation prior to the statement from him. Was it out of the blue?

removed as a gesture of good will:thumbup:

"when people start requesting that they remove your name from their friendship lists I guess it's time to be the bigger person"

Chickie I just read the article too and just assume they were crazy people who were emailing you because I don't know why else someone would be so abusive to you. You should be proud of your accomplishment and I understand why you would be a bit resentful to people but really we're not all like that here and I don't know one person here that is and if they do it by Pming you then lock it up, I don't get emails postings now! brandyII-n Okay I have to go to bed, I don't know what the time difference is in Australia, is it 12 hours, I suppose I could look it up on the internet but I'm too tired watch too many "jazz hands" today at a dance recital!!!

In another life I think my DH would have been in the military. We used to go to the air shows at Andrews AFB and back then I just thought it was loud and hot! Now I live way out in the country and when I hear a jet flying over/near my house it is really cool! I think I miss airplanes flying and city and life and light! I think if the Blue Angels flew over my house and my DH was home he would have wet his pants!

Need more background info......dh, bf?

Chickie that's what I was wondering about because I got that exact same impression from Jachut, because I personally have never read anything like that so I was wondering if people had done stuff like that to you and her by PMing. That's why Jachut probably doesn't want to take a problem to the pm place because she finds it abusive and it's better out in the open but that when everyone takes sides and everyone gangs up on each other. I can understand it hurting but I never said any derogatory remarks about being thin to her or how she looked in her avatar in fact I do believe I told her she looked good once. And I know what it's like to be told you're too thin and should start eating. I know hard to believe and it was 28 years or so ago but I've experience it too. It was more confusing than hurtful to me though because it made me question what weight I should be because I had never been thin before, weird times. But that's not what's important I just really kind of wanted to understand why you and Jachut, who you can't speak for naturally, but why you felt so attacked when I don't think I've ever attacked anyone for being thin or called them derogatory remarks. Jachut and I were conversing about exercise one time and I told her my older brothers were very athletic still are and are in their 50s and one still marathons and one still bike races and I told her that I didn't like running and it wasn't a passion for me like it was for my brother and I assumed because she said she loved to run that it was a passion for her also. I think she took something the wrong way but I wasn't saying exercising was bad or not something I would do but I can't run because I'm top heavy so I walk on the treadmill instead and I've always found running to be too painful even when thin. So there have been some misconstrued things. I know I have a different philosophy in life, now, when it comes to diet and exercise because I've screwed it up I'm trying to be happy in my own skin and eat healthy and not concentrate in "dieting" because I always end up sabotaging myself in the end. So I'm doing things much differently than she has so she disagrees with me and I don't disagree with her I just think everyone has to find their own way of getting things to work for them as we're all different. But I know for some reason I set her off! I don't know why I spewed all this out to you like this but I couldn't help it. I guess I'm trying to explain the wheres and whys things sort of got out of hand and I am emotional and I am protective of myself and others so it was probably a natural reflex for me to get a bit crazy in my posts and after some other posters were attacked. I think that there is room for people who are at goal just as there is room for people like me who may never get there. Peace and love to all and I hope you don't have anymore bad experiences with crazy a@@ people on the internet again, that can be scary and Jasmine is a really nice person if you get a chance to know her! brandyII-n:thumbup:

I think the people that hang out in R and R are very passionate people and we probably put on a good show for others, lol. We really should be paid if you think about it!

Chickie, et al, You're upset and you've brought this up a few times as well as other people who are at goal. Are you pm's these comments about you being at goal or have people posted nasty comments to you since you've been at goal or because you're at goal. I'm actually trying to figure this out and not start shite. brandyII-N

I agree with you Jasmine, it just happened to be one that I was involved in so I take credit for my part of the problem and apologize for offending any one who was an innocent bystander. I don't think I'll ever choose to be a part of one of this types of situations again, kind of why I closed those two threads and change my name and pic so that I could come back and participate the way I want to in a "civil" way. Unfortunately people kept bringing it up and up and up I kept reading people who were defending me all the time and then they were being attacked for defending me and I felt like I had to jump in again because I felt responsible. I guess I really shouldn't say I'd never protect someone I felt needed a bit of protection but I wouldn't intentionally try to set someone off. I do a good enough job of that unintentionally:blush: brandyII-n

I think you're on to something, lol, what's next jello wrestling?

Chickie, You know I've always respected your avatar as I am a big Little Britain fan but I think closing my threads was a good way to stop it from my end, she started another one up out of frustration, I know that. She can also close it if she wants it to end and people can stop discussing it if we want. It's a symbolic gesture of peace. If someone else chooses to start up a new one continuing this stupid nonsense then they're just being foolish and I choose not to play game any more! brandyII-Nanook

Jachut, I closed down my two threads that seemed to incite a lot useless fighting back and forth, I'd suggest you do your part to end this madness. We can all agree to disagree. Think about how it looks to a lot of newbies out there. You've got a lot to share with others, we may not agree philosophically but it's bad when it starts affecting the morale of the board. Thanks brandyII-Nanook (got married and decided to hyphenate my user name) Mr. Gorbachev tear down that thread(s)

We used to wake her in the beginning but stopped. I'm just glad she's not sleep walking that would really be bad. She also has conversations in her sleep, real ones but my husband talks in his sleep too. A few years ago when he went back to school he would recite math problems and that was really boring, I wanted juicy stories! Hey comic books are in and can be quite valuable, so don't knock it.

Oh, I am smiling, lol:smile: