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None of the therapists in my area operate on a sliding scale, I’ve asked. I’ve done the virtual meetings before but never found them to be particularly helpful. But thanks! I’ll keep looking.

Like I said, I don’t think I cope using food on a regular basis. I’ve tracked food for years now and there aren’t any patterns that suggest emotional eating outside of that one period of heavy trauma. I guess that’s why it never occurred to me that the trauma caused my weight gain because I haven’t been an emotional eater before or since. Maybe it happened because my other methods of coping were cut during the abuse (he wouldn’t let me see friends and I was too depressed to do my usual hobbies)? Idk. But thanks for the advice, that is a good way to ensure that I don’t fall into that again post-surgery without realizing it if something else happens. I’ve been trying to find a therapist to talk about these things with but they’re so expensive!

I think they want you to wait to make sure your body is up to the task of fighting it off. My dad’s friend got the shot not knowing that he had recently had COVID with no symptoms and he died because his body wasn’t able to fight off the shot so soon after fighting off the virus. And he was a doctor so he had more information about it than the average person. There’s just so much that’s still unknown about COVID and the vaccine, I’d follow any guidelines they have set based on what we DO know. I’d personally wait, especially if you’re not going to be back at work where you’re around strangers all day everyday. But like you said, you’re an adult so do what you want. It’s all just scary to me. Hope it goes well!

I’m scheduled for a gastric sleeve in a few weeks because I’ve been heavy all my life and can’t lose weight any other way. I found some of my old doctors notes last night and noticed that I started the year 2016 at 190lbs and ended at 250lbs... that was also the year I was in an abusive relationship. The only weight I’ve gained since then is 20lbs of “and then some” weight from failed diets. I had never noticed before that most of my weight gain occurred during that period of my life. During that year I knew I was gaining a little weight but didn’t think it was that much and never thought I used food to cope or anything but I obviously did. I don’t know if it’s a good thing or a bad thing. On one hand it may be easier for me to keep the weight off as long as I don’t fall into any more toxic relationships. On the other hand the fact that I didn’t notice that those were related before now may be problematic when other stressful things happen in my life. Anyone else have a similar situation where your weight gain happened in a short period of time because of a stressful life circumstance? Did surgery help you if so?

Idk if you’re still struggling with this but you should definitely see a nutritionist. This is literally what they do and I think it would really help you get an idea of what healthy eating looks like for you individually. Good luck!

I know it’s very individualized as to how people feel afterwards but I’m one of those people who plans everything so the unknown makes me nervous lol. I guess I’ll just have to see how I feel afterwards. Thanks! I wish you the best too!

Thanks for sharing your experience! It helps. If I can sleep on the ride home too I think it’d be doable but I’ll have to entertain my 3 year old too so I probably won’t be able to sleep the whole way

I’m having my sleeve done at a clinic about a 4 hour drive away from my home. I’ll only spend one night in the hospital and I can’t decide if it’ll be better to spend another night in a hotel near the hospital to heal more before the drive home or if it’ll be better to go straight home where I’ll be more comfortable. Anyone with a similar experience and opinion? Was the ride home from the hospital rough for those of you who had a longer trip?

I’m in a similar boat as I’m also young. I’m F24 and 274. I’m scheduled for a vsg on the 25th but I kept having doubts. My decision was solidified for me when I was denied the loan I was pre-approved for (I’m self-pay). I spent 3 days thinking that I couldn’t get it and I re-discovered all the reasons I want/need it. Luckily I found another loan but it was a scary few days lol. I think the vsg isn’t supposed to have as many long term effects as the ds or the bypass. And like someone else said on here the most common regret I’ve seen is people wishing they’d done it years earlier

I had an always-been-skinny friend who gained about 80lbs on the depo shot, and I’ve known of other girls who have gained a lot from it too. I’m glad it’s worked well for you but unfortunately substantial weight gain is a very common side effect with that one

Condoms? Won’t affect your weight and are pretty reliable. I can’t use hormones at all because they cause me to have seizures (I have epilepsy) so that’s what I’ve always used. You could also use a cervical diaphragm or sponge if you don’t want to do the condom, I know it can be hard to use a condom every time with a long-term exclusive partner, and those are also pretty reliable barrier methods that won’t affect your weight but feel a lot more “freeing” than a condom lol. When I was researching options my doc told me that the Nuvaring and the patch have by far the lowest side effects for hormonal birth control, and the copper IUD doesn’t have hormones so it’s supposed to have few side effects as well. Good luck!

I’ve been able to lose weight from diet and exercise, my problem comes with keeping it off. At my lowest weight I got down to 173 and couldn’t lose another pound. But to maintain that weight I had to exercise at least 25 hours a week and eat no more than 1000 calories a day. I kept it off for a few years but eventually gained it back because that’s obviously not sustainable. If I get down to that weight with surgery should I expect to have to do the same things to maintain that weight as I did before surgery? Or will it be easier?

I did keto for a while and it’s really hard the first few weeks but then after you get in ketosis it’s much easier. You can’t have bread at all on keto. The only carbs you should eat are green, non-starchy vegetables, which are easily under 20g of net carbs a day (net carbs=total carbs minus fiber). Focus on meat, cheese, and green vegetables. I lost a good amount of weight with keto but it gave me gallbladder and stomach problems so I had to stop and ended up 20lbs higher than I was before. So I don’t know if I’d recommend it, but that’s how to do it.

Thanks! Because of the logistics of the procedure I thought they would have to repair it anyway (in diagrams it looks like they remove the top part of the stomach that would be herniated) but I’ll let him know beforehand that I have one and want it fixed if possible while he’s in there

I’m scheduled to get my sleeve in a month (yay!) but I’m afraid it’ll worsen my gerd. I’ve heard on here that some people get their hiatal hernias fixed when they get their surgery. Does having a gastric surgery automatically fix the hernia or is it something extra that your doctor has to do? I developed a tiny hiatal hernia over the last year and I’d like to have it fixed with my surgery. My surgeon knows about it but hasn’t mentioned anything regarding fixing it. Should I bring it up beforehand or is it something that gets fixed with surgery anyway?