JillyPoo

I think that we all have those fears and hesitations. With anything comes risk. I have had the band for over a year now and I STILL worry that something will go wrong or will I have to replace it 10 years down the road. With all of that I would never change what I did. I was miserable and was becoming a "hermit". I was fed up with living the way I was if that is what you call it. I haven't had any complications with my band and I love my doctor. The only thing I have troubles with is getting fill docs. We move a lot and there are those that won't touch anyone elses work. I don't know anything about the sleeve so I can't comment there but as far as worries... that is what they are. Do what you are comfortable with. I was self pay and would be hard pressed as well to fix anything. I could ramble forever lol but I think I said what I intended.

Hello everyone!! I have beenn without a computer since I got banded on the 23rd! It went great and all is good. I still have a little tenderness around all of the incisions... is this normal? Sure it is :wink2: It's only been a little over a week, can't expect everything to feel normal again right. Not sure if I have lost anything yet because I am also without my scales. I'm moving on to real food soon and looking forward to that. Glad to hear that everyone is doing great:) I am having one problem and that is this protien stuff... gagging me horrible. Does anyone have any suggestions on other forms or some good brands? I bought some tasteless stuff from GNC but the texture thing is getting me. That might be the case with all of it and it is just something I may have to get over and live with. But is anyone has any suggestions please tell me. Maybe I should try the shakes with milk instead of water?? Cheers Jill

Anyone else on here getting banded on the 23rd by Dr. K?

Ok, I am feeling a little better. I had a big taco salad tonight, which was yummy. I like my Pepsi so that will be hard to give up. Thank you all for your tips, it's nice to know that you all survived I just had no idea what I could or couldn't read and there isn't a lot of info on the net about exactly what you can eat. Can I have popcorn?? That is my all time favorite night time snack. I just have to keep in mind that it is only 2 weeks, I have done harder things...like having babies right? :biggrin2: FW- When is your surgery? Is your pre-op or surgery date the 16th? My pre-op is the 22nd and my surgery is the 23rd. Was kind of hoping for a buddy lol. Jilly

Ty TY Ty Dee!! I appreciate all of the help and food suggestions. You are right, I love all of that stuff, I think it may be the "can't have" part of it lol. Cheers, Jill

I was camping all weekend and wow I had a lot to read when I got back. I'm glad to hear that everyone is doing good. Mini- So happy to hear that your headache is gone and you are on track. Makes me feel a little less nervous as well. I bet it is such a wonderful feeling knowing that you are on your journey. I started my preop diet today and I feel like I am at a loss, I have never had an interest in a no carb diet lol. I am thinking of picking up the Adkins book so I can have a field guide. I am not sure if everyone else felt like this but I am feeling a little unprepared, like I need to do more research on the post op stuff. I hate not having an exact and maybe that is what it is lol. Cold feet maybe too. I know I have a while so it seems silly to worry already but I know how time flies. I drive my hubby insane with my need for a definite. I am also already starting my worry about keeping it off...:wink: I have yo-yod so many times and I want this to be it ya know. I am sure I am not alone in this one. Just worry worry worry, compiled by worry about my move to Colorado. I just need to shake things off... being silly I am soooo glad that I can get on here and feel reassured. You are all such a wonderful and strong bunch of ladies. I loved seeing the pictures. Looks like you had fun :wink2: ok I am done yabber yabber yabberin'

Fatwidow- When is your pre-op and surgery? My pre-op is the 22nd of July and my surgery is the the 23rd. I too sent my money into Dr. K. today Are you feeling unprepared for this at all? I am, and it has me scared lol. All the stuff to take to the hotel for after, the vitamins, and on and on... Is it hard to swallow pills after your band? I wish I could turn my little hamster wheel in my head off but I can't!! I need to strart trying protein drinks to see what ones I like. I am not a big fan of slim fast in the can or anything like that in the can. mini- I am so so so excited for you!!! Yeah *big hugs* You ladys have a wonderful dinner and enjoy new friends! Cheers, Jill

WHEEEW is all I can say gals:biggrin2:!! I had a lot to catch up on and as I was reading I noticed that the pages started to go up. I wasn't reading as fast as you all were posting lmao. Mini- I am sooo excited for you!!! Everything will go great I am sure. You and Tied crack me up too. I love getting on here and reading everyone's experiences, the obsticles that so many face everyday and overcome. It isn't always easy to believe that they make us stronger but they do. If anything we learn from most right:huh2:? I am confused on something, Mini your surgery is on the 2nd right? And everyone is meeting on the 16th? Are you staying in Denver that long or did I miss something in my speed-reading? Oh oh I just thought of something hehe, you'd better not laugh too much, don't want to make your stomache more sore than needs be:biggrin2:. Well, you all have a great time!! Talk soon Jill

Froggi- I am soo glad that you posted this poll. I have a BMI of 36 and have made the decision to be banded. As of late however I have been doubting myself. Asking if I REALLY need this. After reading this thread tonight and seeing how people have been in my shoes I DO need this. I can really relate to Jachut when she says she had no energy, she felt lethargic, and truely uncomfortable in herself. I have always yo-yo'd, since I can remember I have been a little overweight. The last time I lost almost 80lbs in a totally unhealthy way, I starved myself. I know that I could lose it again but I don't want to live like that and I shouldn't have to just because I don't have a higher BMI. I also know that I would gain it back :thumbs_up:. I don't want to do this for the rest of my life, I am too young and I have young children to take care of. I too deserve a healthy fulfilling life. I hate the way I feel and it effects everyone in my life...unfortunalely. I have been reluctant to lose the weight this time in fear of letting myself down when I gain it back. Long story short... Thank you all so very much for your words. It has truly helped me in this time of doubt. Maybe this is a normal feeling before hand? Cheers, Jill

Hmm Not sure. I know that mine does, I had to change it from instant to once a day. It was overrunning my e-mail lol. Make sure you hit the save button if there is one.

Marcy- I can't imagine how life is there. I bet your summers are the best ever! I LOVE summer here, I just wish that it lasted longer than 2 1/2 months lol. I am so not a dark -50 person. It makes me eat eat eat!:tt1: (that is an excuse but you get my meaning). We lived in Anchorage for 5 yrs, went to Kansas, then Colorado and back here to Fairbanks. We would love to retire our summers here but winter somewhere else. How long have you lived in Nome and what brought you there(if not from there). Shelbi- That is great to hear about your son, I haven't been here to hear the history but it is wonderful to hear that he is getting his GED. You are a fabulous mom to stand behind him and be his cheering/motivating squad!!:tt1: I think that we will tell the kids at some point just not yet. Not before I have it done, we don't want them to worry. My best friend is taking me so we will say we are having a girls weekend:wink2: and my hubby is meeting me in Denver. The kids will stay with my mom and be none the wiser. I've watched spin class before and all I can say is YOU GO GIRL!!! That is hard stuff there. Mal- awwww he is so cute! He has those sad eyes and overly lovable face. You can see him better in this picture. Do they howl/bark like a their cousin hounds? I hope that you found how to get e-mail notifications ok. mini- Ms Keeley is precious. Wow a 50lb lap dog... :biggrin2: Sometimes I wish mine were lap dogs, they are feet warmers. They like to lay right on your feet. Where oh where is Brandy? Did Natalie ever get back? Or do we know if she read her e-mail? Give it another day and then maybe call Natalie, even though she can't give info...n/m that is a silly idea. Hmmm... Hope she gets on soon. Cheers

ok Mal go into "edit options" then scroll down to "messages & Notification" area. There is a section called "Default Thread Subscription Mode". In there you will see a task bar thing where you can choose how often you get e-mails. You can get them daily or instant :biggrin2:. Hope that helps Jill

No Brandy yet? I hope everything is ok. I know that I don't have the emotional attatchment that you all do so I can imagine that you gals are on the edge of your seat. Mal-I love love love corgies too :biggrin2:. My male is beautiful, big and stocky, he is perfect. His name is Carsun. My female is very pretty but still a little b***h lol, her name is Kit. She is the Alpha in their relationship and I will never get puppies unless I have her inceminated (sp). My dad got my male for me and I wasn't sure if I wanted a corgi. I love the low riders as well, Dachsunds, bassets, corgis. I bet your little one is a sweetie. They are so cute and dopey looking, I can't resist their ears.:biggrin2: Here before too long I will be asking all of you ladies all the low down on the protien drinks and the pre-op diet. I start the 10th of July, then phone consult with Dr.K. on the 14th. I can't wait. You are all enjoyable and friendly...great group Cheers, Jill

The thing is people say "my cat died when I was four and that made me fat", they DONT say "my cat died when I was four and the way I chose to respond has made me fat". Its important to acknowledge that responsibility, even if it takes you years to deal with it, I dont think you can until you can acknowledge that you are responsible for your own behaviour. I think that you have hit the nail on the head here for a lot of us. I know that I am generalizing. I know that it is me. I have been reading this thread and I don't always like to admit it but I know I am the reason. I know that by admitting that and facing it I will succeed. In the past I have always just delt with the stop eating and not the real problem...ME. I have been many times the person that says how unfair life is that I HAVE to work out and watch what I eat...*bangs head*. Duh, it should be that way anyway, to be healthy not just thin. And that is what my goal is this final time. To be healthier. Face that "wolf" head on!! Cheers Jill Not exactly everyones opinion...

Yes mini he is a Corgi, I have 2. A male and a female. I love them sooo much, they are good companions. Not a lot of people know what they are:smile2:. Mal- I take it you are a dog lover as well. What breed of dog do you have? I can't see the pic that well..spaniel maybe? Do you gals keep a running log and do incentives for weight loss? I want to thank everyone once again for making me feel so welcome here. I feel silly because I haven't been banded so I don't have the connection there, but you have all been where I am :biggrin2:. I never thought of the oops slip up from the kids lol. I am sure they would too. My mom told my dad and he is worse than any kid lmao. We will see. My hubby agrees about not telling them and I guess if they notice something and have a bunch of questions I will sit down with them and explain. Another thing I never want to do is lie to them. Jill

lol That is tooo funny, I guess I should have paid closer attention to the context. It is ironic though that the P.A.'s name is Tom.:sad_smile:That is really good Mal that you had family talks about what is going on with you. My kids are 12 (almost 13) an 10. I'm not sure that they would notice a difference in my eating because I have always been on some diet fad. I have told them several times that I need to change the way I eat and my habbits. I do too, and will. So with that said I am not sure that I need to tell them. I truely don't want to put my unhealthy mental issues on them. I grew up Always on a diet or worrying about my weight, they don't need that. They are both at very good weights and I think that with my hubby's jeans I they will stay that way. You know what I mean. That and it isn't a major surgery... I dunno, I don't want them to worry. Jill

I agree with benhamgal that it the first step to worry about is the insurance company. I know that I don't qualify for the insurance to cover me so I will be a self pay. Which is an opption as well. From what I understand(and I may be wrong) is that if you have a BMI of over 40 you need not have any other Co-morbidities (sp). As far as talking to your doctor I get that to. I would work myself up to saying all the right things about being miserable and then when I got in there I would do 360 and start giving reasons for the way I am and how I know I need to change. Denial I guess lol. But again it is different because I am paying. Good luck on your path and read into all of your options. I know that the posts here helped me a lot. Cheers, Jill

Hello Shelbicallie!! :biggrin2:I think you are right that I found the best thread. What is Tom and please oh please someone fill me in on the story. I am sure it is somewhere in these 300 odd pages but I'm not sure I will have ever have time to find it. My curiosity is getting me on this one:blink: Mini- my hubby is in the Army so we are stationed here... not by choice let me tell you. This is our second tour here and evertime I gain more and more. He will be here for another year but I can't take it anymore. The kids and I are moving to my hometown. So you are on the western side of Utah? What is the terrain like there? We are moving to Sierra Vista Arizona next... I posted on another thread asking for advice on telling my kids or not and no one has helped out so can I ask it here?:confused2: Just not sure if I should tell them or not.

mini, I am not on here for work but I find I can't pull myself away lol. I'm really nervous about the pre-op and post-op diets. I am having my surgery on the 23rd of July, so not far behind you. Are you getting super excited? Nucla is probably 5 or 6 hours east of you. Do you know where Grand Junction and Montrose are? Well, if you take the Scenic Byway route out of White Water towards Uravan then you will go through the small town of Naturita, which is about 5 miles from Nucla. The road is getting more traveled because that big wig that owns the Discovery Channel bought up most of Gateway. It is beautiful country and it took me moving all over to realize it. Oh, it is also about an hour from Moab.

OMG! I think that is horrible:angry:. For all of the people in the world to say something negative to you. I don't think that it hurts near as bad when a stranger says something as a family member. What did you say in return? My mom has never out right said that but she has made her fair share of implications that I should get off my butt and get "skinny" (in her words" again. Like I can wave a magic wand and be thin *poof* Nope...still chunky. :sad_smile: Oh and on to the thread. I think that I am harder on myself and make rude comments about myself to beat people to the punch. I'd rather say it about myself than allow for the opportunity for someone else to say something. Anyone else out there like this? cheers, Jill

Ok, let me start by saying this whole "thread" thing is hard to keep up with LMAO. I am feeling a little overwhelmed hehe. How do you gals keep up on everything, and do you read/write other threads? By the time I have read something and want to blog I forget what I was thinking. I am sure I will get use to it. Brandy- I hope that your appointment shed some light on what is going on, I am sure you have been a ball of nerves. It seems that it is all new territory and like I read before, no two banders are the same or have the same experiences. There is no way of knowing how things will go for you and there isn't a manuel. :sad_smile: Too bad eh. Tied2BFit, munchkin392, Lap dancer & Mal- tyvm for welcoming me into the thread. Sorry it took so long to get that said. Also ty for the advice and the knowledge. I makes me feel not so alone on this journey (that I have barely begun). Do all of you live "out of town"? I am currently in Alaska but will be moving back home to Nucla Colorado in July. I was just curious if anyone else lives close. Seems like people far and wide visit Dr. K. I have my phone consult with him on the 14th of July and I am getting excited. I have been keeping a notebook to keep up with all of the questions rattling around in my head. Well, I have blabbed on and on. Ty again everyone for welcoming me. There are soooo many groups and threads on here...*head is spinning* Cheers, Jill

Laurend- I am not sure that I agree with you fully on this one. I think that there are the overweight people that are lazy and the "skinny" lazy people. Have you ever heard the term "skinny fat person"? I know several "skinny" people who are 4xs lazier than I could ever be, eat brownies for breakfast, can't walk up hill without taking a break and so on, those are the people that I find don't understand overweight people. They truely have it in their heads that overweight people are lazy over eaters. I know what you are getting at and I agree with most of it . I personally know that I am lazy about myself and I have been on a pitty party for a few years, on how unfair weight is. I am working on that and have come to the reality that it will always be that way if I let it. I have to change my way of thinking because the fat isn't going anywhere by being a baby and having a fit:biggrin2:.

Ok, it seems that most everyone feels the same about keeping this to themselves and the people closest to them. I am also having all of the mixed feelings on telling anyone and trying to sort through why I am having these feelings. Right now I would say the battle I am having is telling my children. My son is almost 13 and my daughter is 10. A part of me says they will notice but they are kids and I doubt it lol. I don't want to put my weight issues on them. I have been heavy since I was my daughters age and worried about my weight since then. Neither one of them are heavy and I just don't want them to worry about that stuff. I always tell them that Mom needs to make a lifestly change... Anyone else feel this crazy about telling or not telling your kids? Sorry if I haven't made much sense :confused2:...