noahsmomm,
I am glad to hear that you are having second thoughts and apprehension about your surgery. I would be concerned if you didn't. Like anything to do with medicine you have to be told all the bad things that can happen even if the chance is miniscule. I was scared to death before mine and also had second thoughts. I am a week out now. Yes I did have a little incision pain, nothing that the pain medicine could not take care of. I had no shoulder pain at all which suprised me since I have had laparoscopy's before and know what shoulder pain feels like. I guess it is kinda like having a baby yes there is some pain with it and maybe some problems that go along with it, but it is definately worth it in the end. I am happy with my decision but remember it is your decision and you have to do what is right for you. By the way I lost 15 lbs this week. I know that will not continue, but it is definately a motivator. besides I am under 300 to me that is wonderful and a great start.
Good luck with your decision and let us know how it goes.
Marvie