Thank you! I updated my username. The people in my family are not in the medical field but I am also getting mixed advice from health professionals that I trust. I am no longer worried about gaining weight and I feel comfortable maintaining right now, with a BMI of around 37 (which is still too high). I think I can lose weight very slowly and with a lot of effort but I think to be able to do it in a stable way it will take me years. Also, I don't know if I would gain much back. I don't think I would ever get heavier than this point but I don't know if I can eat as little and exercise as much as it would take to maintain a BMI of 25 or below. I think if I didn't do the surgery, 1 year from now, I would probably be about the same, maybe 0-10 lbs lighter. I just feel like I'm wasting my 20s obese and want to move on and enjoy my life ASAP. Thank you both for the support.