janesays

i love this thread.. its a great place to vent. ever since i was a little girl, i have never understood how my favorite uncle-- no favorite person, ever, -- could stand being married to my aunt for so long. on multiple occasions, she has made remarks about my weight, and as a psychiatrist, she feels it is necessary for her to comment on my life without my asking. she's said things to my mom, like "it's just such a shame.." and that, being raised to be big in texas, i will never fit in with the skinny girls of a northeastern city (my mom and my aunt are from new york, my aunt currently lives in DC) my brother used to date this HORRIBLE girl for years, through high school and college. she cheated on him multiple times, talked down to him, and made him wait on her hand and foot. on top of that her family was very racist and also anti-semitic. (her younger brother was my age and an idiot-- got in trouble for drawing KKK symbols at school... and he isn't even white?? not that that would make it ok-- and her older brother used to call our house telling us we were going to hell). anyways, after they broke up, he showed me this text message she sent him one time. she was mad that my brother was coming home from college and wanted to spend the night hanging out with me, and was just being her usual jealous self. so in the text she goes "FINE! why don't you just go f*** your fat sister and you can forget about me!" i couldn't hide my shocked face from my brother, but made it seem like i was just shocked she would say such a bitchy thing to him, instead of a bitchy thing about ME to him. some other time, when her mom invited me and my brother over to her house, she suggested to my bro and his gf in front of everyone that they should go on a walk, unless she wants to start looking like me. the nerve of some people. her mom was the same size as me! just this past august, i went to visit some of my guy friends in chicago. we went on a spur of the moment to the beach so i didn't have a bathing suit and just sat in the sand with my feet in, but the guys were all able to get in the Water by taking off their shirts. the ENTIRE time, they would point to a woman and rate her hotness. then, the rest of the weekend, the guys would talk about different girls they found attractive, how they need to find some girls to date, etc etc. the comment that hurt the most was when they had a party and i was the only girl there at the beginning. they said, "we need a hot girl at this party!" they're great friends one on one, but i never want to hang out with them again when it's all the guys together. i can't wait until i see them next summer and finally look like a hot girl (in their eyes, atleast. i've always thought i was fairly attractive... atleast-- not too bad on the eyes!). too bad i will only think of them as friends now!

haha oh i bet i can....

jachut, you shouldn't have to say "only" a 36 BMI. everyone has a different perception of what they feel is beautiful. heck, im at a 35-36 bmi now and i KNOW i'm pretty but i also KNOW i am fat! at a 35 bmi you are clinically obese and therefore had just as much a right to this surgery as someone with a higher weight. i didn't have any health problems but, then again, i had a 40 BMI at age 20... and plan on having kids one day. I could tell myself all I want, but I knew 20, 30, 40 years later I wouldn't magically be thin with just dieting and exercise alone.... and would likely have serious health problems at that. i cant tell you how many people told me they wish they had the surgery BEFORE they had health problems.

yeah totally! i won't be going until after august 14... but definitely before september, it all depends on my brother's schedule. let me know if you and your friend go at the same time!

everyone has a different preference. playboy only adheres to a certain audience, just like in women's magazines their "hot guys" are all shirtless and muscular. i have dated both big and small, and i have to say i am muchhhh more attracted to bigger guys. i always tell my friends who try to set me up that the guy must be "atleast bigger than me" but just because he's less attractive to some doesn't make him any less of a Jerky guy. one of the nicest guys ive dated was 6'4" 290ish? and one of the most egotistical and immature guys i've dated was 5'10 280ish. ive also dated two guys that are about 5'11 210? (totally guessing on all these weights but they were of average size-- pants around 34)... well one i'm pretty sure now is gay.... or atleast, in my mind he is haha. the other is not very social and i found that to be unattractive. just like girls, guys are a mystery, and you never know what you will get until you give them a chance! im sure you are a catch and any guy would be lucky to call you his girlfriend! you just have to put yourself out there. i haven't dated any guys the last year, and i put that on not projecting myself like i want to date anyone.... because i really didn't.

haha i am actually planning a trip to vegas in august! my brother is taking me as a graduation gift and a "newly skinny" (or skinnier) gift. i would go over spring break but i have to go back to dallas to renew my driver's license..

haha thats a good goal, i went to south padre two years ago and a bunch of guys were there doing that while driving on the strip. of course, they were also drunk and honking at girls and what not. not so attractive. but that was one of the few times that guys were hitting on me almost as much as my slender friend! i turn 21 in march so i want to go back at some point and i wouldn't mind getting hit on at the beach, and if they were sober i would actually take it as a compliment. last time i refused to take off my coverup until we were on a private beach.... hopefully that will change!

a good excuse while out to eat on a date: my thin roommates can neverrrr eat on a first or second date (or until they are comfortable) because they get so nervous they get sick. now i have (obviously.. haha) never had that problem, and im always a very confident girl, but i plan on using it. it could come by as a compliment.... you know, "when i'm first around a guy i really like but i'm nervous, i can hardly eat. so please excuse me, i would love to eat but i just cant... unless you want to hold my hair back! i promise when i get more comfortable with you we can go out to dinner!"

good luck froggi!!!! i know you will do magnificently! whenever you feel up to it, you can go ahead and update my current weight to 234! (but... by the time you get back in the swing of things, hopefully i will be down even more!) we'll be thinking of you. let us know how everything goes :laugh:

thought i would update this! my official pre-op starting weight was 249, my surgery was 241, and I am currently at 237!

I completely agree! The desire to eat has completely left my body for the moment. I know it will come back when the swelling goes down before my first fill, but for now it is blowing my mind! For the first time in my life I am worried I am not getting in ENOUGH calories! Not a bad problem to have, in my opinion....