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I was really tested today... My boss bought lunch for the whole department to celebrate a successful project for my team. I don't want anyone at work to know I had WLS, so I couldn't tell him that I didn't want any of what is usually my favorite meal. He got individually packed meals since that's the company's policy during the pandemic. I figured I'd just be "busy" during lunch and not take a meal and no one would notice since he got extras anyway, but my boss personally brought my meal -- which did not include anything I can eat at this point -- to my desk. So not only did I not get to partake in the celebratory meal, and had to watch my coworkers enjoy food I love but can't eat, but I had to sit next to the delicious-smelling food and stress out about what to do with it (all while contemplating what exactly would happen if I just gave in and ate it anyway). I couldn't bring myself to throw it in the trash, so I brought it to another team's office and told them we had an extra one (hope that didn't arouse too much suspicion; their boss was there and is friends with my boss). My boss wanted to do something nice for my team, but it was just sad and stressful for me. It's such a stupid little first-world problem but it ruined my day.🙁

I had very little pain after surgery, other than gas pain, which isn't really alleviated by pain meds. I was sent home with a prescription for Vicodin, but I didn't need it. I didn't even need to take Tylenol. They did say that they recommend minimizing the amount of pain medication you take because it can cause constipation, but they also said if you are in a lot of pain, you should take it and not let your pain get out of control.

I have a feeling that a lot of fat people have relationships in which we give and give while others take advantage. I know I have experienced that a lot in my life, and I think it is because I have been made to feel defective, less worthy than others, because of my weight, and that I somehow need to make up for that in other ways. I foolishly think that people will like me in spite of my weight if I constantly bend over backward for them, only to eventually realize that they only like taking from me and they don't actually like me as a person. In defense of the friends you lost because they didn't want to hear about your weight loss, eating, or going to the gym, I kind of understand, especially as a larger person, because that kind of discussion often leads to body shaming, so it makes me uncomfortable when those conversations happen around me. I feel that these topics are very personal and not things I want to discuss in certain settings (especially work). Since I don't like to discuss these things, I would start to feel like I don't have much in common with someone who talks about these subjects all the time. That doesn't mean it's about you, personally, and I hope you can forgive those who want to avoid those subjects that can be emotionally fraught or just not things that are important in their lives.

This is very common because of all the IV fluids you get in the hospital. I came home from surgery 5 pounds heavier than when I left, but those 5 pounds came off within two days.

So sorry your coworkers are being jerks. It was completely out of line for them to go to your director about their "concerns" about your surgery, and even worse if your director didn't tell them in no uncertain terms that your health and medical treatments are none of their business. If anyone has the nerve to say anything like that again, you are completely within your rights to say, "My medical decisions are not up for debate. Thanks for understanding!" I don't blame you for being disappointed. It sounds like you are surrounded by people who are happy to take advantage of your kindness but unwilling to give even a little to you. Crap like this is one of the many reasons I have not told anyone, not even my family, and certainly not my coworkers, about my surgery. I just said I was going on vacation.

For me, that 1/2 ounce every 3-4 minutes only applied for the first couple of weeks. After that, I was able to drink larger amounts, so I don't need to sip constantly. I still can't chug a whole bottle of water in 5 minutes, but it's no problem for me to drink 6-8 ounces in 15 minutes. How many inspections do you typically do in a day? If you are doing four 2-hour inspections and can't drink any water during the inspections, it will probably be a problem. But if you'll only be restricted in drinking water for a total of four hours in the day, you can probably get enough if you make sure you drink as much as possible the rest of the day. Is it possible for you to take a break every hour during the longer inspections? I have to imagine there are times you need to excuse yourself to use the restroom during these inspections, right? And I would hope nobody has a problem with it, so I doubt they would have a problem with you taking a water break. How open are you about the surgery? If you don't mind telling people, you could ask your boss if it will be ok to take water breaks during the inspections. Or see if your boss is willing to assign you to shorter inspections for a few weeks. You could tell people at the inspections that you just had surgery and you're under doctor's orders to take a water break, and I bet they'll understand.

Wow, I didn't get yogurt until a week out! Looks like you're doing great. I'm sure they're pumping you full of IV fluids, which will help make up for lower fluid intake the first few days. Welcome to the other side!

Welcome! Looks like you're doing great. I agree about this crazy time actually turning out to be a good time to get WLS. I feel guilty for saying it because I know this pandemic has caused a lot of pain and suffering for many people, but has made things easier for WLS. I haven't told anyone at work and I don't plan to, and it sure helps in terms of privacy that my team is working from home most of the time and even when we're in the office, we're not allowed to eat together.

I was able to take it right away after surgery. They actually gave it to me while I was in the hospital.

I take Synthroid and it is a tiny little pill. I have had no issues taking it normally.

I hope you get some good answers because I was going to ask about this, too! I am 5 weeks out now, so in one more week I will not be limited to soft foods. I live in a "food desert" where it's hard for me to get fresh produce because I don't live near any grocery stores, so I've been looking at meal delivery services. I haven't used them before because I felt they were too expensive, but now that I'm eating about 1/3 of a meal, a meal kit will stretch much further. I've been looking at HungryRoot, but I've seen some other healthy meal delivery services that look good.

I think that's a reasonable plan. I had surgery on July 16 and went back to work July 27. I could have gone back July 20 if I really had to, but it wouldn't have been a great idea just because it takes a lot of effort to get enough fluids and protein that first week, so it's best to take it easy and focus on that. Now, I have a desk job, so it may be a little different for you as a student. For example, how far do you have to go to get between classes? You might not be up to brisk walks across campus. And do you have decent seating in your classes, or do you have those horrible one-piece desk-chairs that are difficult for some of us to squeeze into? You're not going to want to squeeze yourself into anything right after surgery while your incisions are still healing. Also keep in mind that everybody's recovery is different. Some people don't even spend a full day in the hospital while others have to stay several days. It's unlikely, but possible, that you could have complications that put you out of commission for weeks. Or you could have a difficult recovery and not feel well enough to go to class that soon. More than likely, you'll be fine by the 21st, but think about what you'll do if you're not.

@Sammi_Katt Where did you find sugar free liquid Tylenol? I looked for it but couldn't find it anywhere. Every brand of liquid acetaminophen I could find contains high fructose corn syrup.

There were no visitors allowed when I had my surgery, but I wouldn't have had any visitors anyway, so it didn't make a difference to me. You can always call or Facetime your family/friends from the hospital. Just bring something to do or read to pass the time while you sip fluids (which demands more of your time and attention than you would think) and you'll be back home with your family before you know it.

I feel the same way! At my current weight, I would never leave my house in leggings because I feel like they leave too little to the imagination. I wear dark wash, bootcut jeans 99% of the time that I am in public. I hope that I lose enough weight that I can wear leggings in public someday.

16.5 pounds in less than 2 weeks is pretty good if you ask me, especially for someone with your BMI (since you don't have as much to lose as most of us, you should expect your weight loss to be a bit slower). To put it in perspective, my surgery was 3 weeks before yours and I have only lost 16 pounds so far -- and my surgery weight was 60 pounds heavier than yours. I hit the 3-week stall right on schedule and only today lost 0.8 pounds after 6 consecutive days at the same weight.

Congrats! The time will fly by and surgery day will be here before you know it.

Yes, my doctor only said no drinking during or for 30 minutes after eating, no restrictions before. But just to be safe, I don't drink anything for 30 minutes before eating, either.

It is a little hard to get used to; I have this instinct to grab a drink when I am about to start eating before I remember I can't do that. When I'm getting ready to eat, I set a 30-minute timer on my phone after I take my last sip of water (and put the water in the fridge so I don't forget and start drinking it again), and then start eating when the timer goes off. After I take my last bite, I start a 30-minute timer so I know when I can start drinking again. Also, consider this rule before you eat anything spicy.

Wow... I can't believe your PCP said that. Less than a week before surgery is not the time to bring that up. You are the only one who can make that decision. I am terrible at making decisions so I know the feeling of wishing someone else would just make the decision for me. It was a much easier decision for me because I had a much higher BMI as well as comorbidities, but I still questioned my decision right up until surgery day, since I had already lost a lot of weight before surgery and wondered if I should try again to lose the rest on my own. To be perfectly honest, I often wonder why people with a BMI as low as 35 want to go through the ordeal of surgery, but it's a very personal decision. I don't know what caused you to go down this path in the first place, but for most of us, it is a pretty long journey to get insurance approvals and meet the pre-surgery requirements. I'm sure you have put a lot of thought into this already. What I have read about decisions is that you should not make big decisions when you're in a heightened emotional state. I'd say that having anxiety through the roof qualifies. So look back on the reasons you made the decision in the first place when you were calm and had time to consider the pros and cons rationally. I don't know how old you are, but I have been obese my whole adult life, and I first looked into WLS more than 15 years ago. At the time, I was in my 20s and didn't have any health problems, and I decided against the surgery back then because I was afraid of the risk of giving up my good health just to lose some weight. But it has caught up with me now and that's why I decided to have surgery at this point. Sometimes I wish I had done it earlier because I feel like I have missed out on so much in life because of my weight, but I also have a feeling that I wasn't ready to change my lifestyle back then and I might not have been successful (of course, I'm only a month out, so I can't say that I'll be successful now, but I do think I am much more ready to make the necessary changes now than I was 15 years ago). So remember that if you're not ready now, you can change your mind and get it later. I know that probably wasn't helpful because I gave some arguments on both sides, but all you can do is make the best decision you can with the information you have and make the most of it. Good luck!

The short answer is, "Maybe." Everybody has a different experience. Some people can eventually eat anything and other people are unable to eat certain things even years after surgery. I think most people can eventually eat small amounts of just about anything. But... isn't it kind of the point of surgery to make you unable to eat the way you used to? If you can eventually eat a burger and fries and everything else you used to eat, it's going to be hard to lose the weight you want to lose and keep it off.

FYI, almost all surgeons perform a pre-surgery checklist that includes verifying the identity of the patient and the surgery to be performed, so it is very, very unlikely that they could have performed the wrong surgery. When I was in the hospital, every single doctor or nurse who talked to me asked my name, date of birth, and what surgery I was getting and checked my hospital bracelet and chart to make sure everything matched. They may not remember which surgery each patient is getting off the top of their heads, but they typically have pretty strict requirements to check the documentation multiple times before they start cutting.

Once you start shopping for protein powder online, you'll start seeing ads for other protein powders. You should look at the ingredients and nutrition info to make sure they meet your requirements. Here are the ones I purchased (I think I found all of these through ads on Facebook): IdealFit (IdealLean) (You can also buy individual sample size packets if you don't want this many) 1up Nutrition (I bought the "summer body starter kit," which allowed me to choose my own samples, but that no longer seems to be available; it might have been a special offer that you can only get to by clicking an ad) Northbound Nutrition Waves of Whey Strength (Unfortunately, the samples are 5 packs of the same flavor, so you'd have to buy 10 packs just to get both flavors) KetoShop (There are two different sample packs; I got the zero carb just because the flavors were more appealing to me) P.S. None of these are referral links and I do not benefit in any way from them.

That’s what I did. I ordered sample packs of a bunch of different protein powders, not only to figure out what I like, but also to have some variety when I was drinking so many protein shakes.

Your story gives me hope... If my results are anywhere close to yours, I'll be happy, even if it takes a while to get there. Even though I know, intellectually, that my body is still adjusting to some big changes, it's annoying right now that I'm eating almost nothing and not losing much weight!