bthompson82

Hi!!! Whelp I put a lot in that title lol.. but I’m a black 37 year old femme lesbian, looking for friends, or who knows ! Tell me about yourself !

Hi I was sleeved 7/29, I find that watering down everything helps, walking a lot, and using gas x has helped me be able to drink more full liquids

So here we go, for the people who follow me all ready know my details but here they are again ( I’m 37 , 5”3, 200 pounds, type 2 diabetic, intercranel hypertension. I am pre op for the sleeve, waiting on my next appointment hoping for a surgery date) .... so here is the deal my wife has not been all that supportive of my surgery since I started the process, saying things like “ you will always have a belly” and you will never be your high school weight” and the worst one is “ I don’t know if I’ll be attracted to you when you are so skinny” .. horrible right! Well she is a big girl herself at 5”4 and 298 pounds!! I’ve never bugged her about her weight in the 12 years we have been together.. but now that I am working on getting this surgery she wants to lose weight too , and that’s great!! Unlike her I fully support her... until I found out how she wanted to do it ... HCG diet!! .. I tried to tell her very gently that 500 cals a day is unsafe and of course you will lose weight .. you are starving!! Plus those “shots” could be filled with anything they don’t come from a medical doctor!!! But she yelled at me saying I WAS THE UNSUPPORTIVE ONE!!! Can you believe that crap! So here we are .. here doing this crap and now trying to convince me to do that same... hell no .. I’m getting my sleeve !!! Rant over

I have a fair amount of stretch marks on my body already .. across my mid body, along my upper back, my belly ( child birth), and my breast... please tell me ladies and gentleman.. once I lose weight how bad is it gonna be .. so I can mentally prepare for all these changes. Thanks fo the support ! ( stats I’m 5”3, 200, carry my weight in my belly)

Hey there ! Sorry I ask a lot of questions im a newbie, but I’m looking for other people who started at a lower BMI and or weight.. who have had the sleeve. If you don’t mind sharing your stats and experience? I’m 5”3 and 200lb so I don’t have quite as much weight to loss as others might , the doctor told me around 65-75 pounds. Anyone mind sharing?

@mahtab try not to be upset , a lot of the ladies here are very correct, for people that don’t have as much to lose, we will lose slower

@therealmelshere he has never expressed it but he is almost 30 , and he has never dated, he will agree that a man or woman he sees is good looking but that’s about it. We don’t bug him about it

@therealmelshere! My brother is asexual!! He has never dated , he finds Both men and woman attractive. But has no interest in dating anyone let alone being intimate with them.

@ajtylo thank you so much for the explanation!!! And welcome

@ajtylo... can you clarify what you mean by “play” I truly hope it’s not what I’m thinking. My post is a safe space for all people but especially the LGBT community. So if you are here looking for something.. this is not it.

Good morning folks ... ( morning for me I’m in California) thanks for replying nice to know there are lgbt people and ally’s here ❤️

So I’m in the pre op phase and as I get closer to getting my surgery date .... I’m becoming increasingly excited about losing weight and being slim again!! I feel kinda bad about being so excited... my reason for getting the surgery is not purely weight-loss. I have type 2 diabetes that is under control but I’m sick of taking medication, also inner cranial hypertension. I’m 5”3 and 200 pounds with a BMI of 34.5 ... so I know I won’t be losing more then 100 pounds at most. Yet and still .. all I can think about is getting back to my high school weight ... so am I a horrible person ?

@hop_scotch oh no my goal is 135-140!!! I’ve never been a 100 pounds in high school lol. Would like to lose about 65-70 pounds or so.

I’m in the pre op phase , still getting all my test done, so I don’t have a surgery date just yet... but I spent two years deciding that the sleeve was right for me. For reference I’m 5”3, 200lb ( 255lb at highest, lost that on my own) I’m a type two diabetic and have Intracranial hypertension my doctor approved me right away!!! .. I take about 7 pills a day. I’m sick of all that.. so when I told my mom and spouse what I have planned they said I’m “not fat enough” .... really!!! Who says that!

@recidivist I am approved already , I’m in the pre op stage.

Hi! I am a type two diabetic and also have Intracranial hypertension, I’m 5”3 and 200 pounds currently( 255 at my highest) , I’m just at a BMI of 34.5 .. I qualify under these guidelines for sleeve surgery , and I’ve decided it’s what’s best for me. HERE IS THE PROBLEM, as soon as I told my spouse and mother they got upset.. they told me I’m “not big enough” or that I could just “lose it on my own, if I just work out .. do keto” .. it’s hard to hear and making me worry I’m making a wrong choice. Because I’ve lost 60 pounds on my own way back in 2014 they seem to think I can do it again.. it’s 2020.. I’ve been stuck at this weight 6 years! I’m sick of taking so much medication , and I need help.. but there is very little support.. so know I’m doubting myself.. I’m alright in the pre op process HELP!

- wear shapwear because I want to and not “need to” - wearing a dress that form fitting - no more capris !! I’m 37 don’t wanna look like a older woman in the summer any more lol - wearing all my heels again for more then 20 minutes - no more jean muffin top - tucking my shirt in - cheaper meals !!

Thank you momof3 ! That’s really helpful ! I was a bit worried I would lose to much to quick . Also congratulations!!

Girl you look great .. those woman must be feeling insecure

Thanks ladies ! It’s nice to find support! I’m 37 and just had a hysterectomy last year due to other health problems and everyone was ok with that! I continue to stress to both of them that I’m “SICK OF BEING SICK” lol .. but it’s true!!! I’ve made my mind up and I’m doing this! But it hard when my the person pushing me back the most is my spouse ( my mother is just bugging me about keto) but my spouse tends to bring up everything that could go wrong. It sucks to say the least.

Thank you! I’ve done just that , after their reactions I decided not to tell anyone else. Thanks so much