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Speak your truth! Be Authentic! Share your feelings! I am sorry you're having troubles/issues/situations in your marriage, but if this is bothering you and makes you feel sad that he isn't able to defend you to anyone friends/family/or a stranger you should say something. If others think I'm being too sensitive or too emotional because I'm saying say something, well I can't help how they think - communication is the most important in any relationship whether it be a spouse, friend, coworker, granted you can be hurt but you can also grow by telling them. I mean how is anyone ever suppose to guess what is bothering you about anything. Now if he says he doesn't care how he made you feel that speaks volumes. If your husband expects you to defend his honor in situations then it shouldn't be bother for him to do the same for you. Also I never understood how someone can tell you how to feel, like do you tell your husband how he should feel - like someone saying you're too sensitive, it was a joke just means they're trying to deflect their responsibility of their actions and words. 🫂

I have a card, but I never use it. I just order off the kids menu - or an appetizer all the time. Or I share. What I mean by all the time too is like over past year like 6 times hahah. I haven't eaten out much since my surgery in Jan 2020 because COVID-19 and living in California that had nothing open but takeout for a long time. I've never had a waitstaff person say no you can't order off kids menu yet, but if they did give me a hard time I think I would tell them I have dietary restrictions and ask to speak to the manager if it really became a problem. I tell as few as people as possible about my surgery - it's no one's business our medical condition.

Yeah I meant when I go out (um I live in California we're still pretty much locked down still we do have some outside dinning, so really we've been out like maybe 5 times in 2020 since I've had surgery) I share his meal, I don't know if you noticed but just about any restaurant you go to has a full days of calories in them with all the sides and whatnot in one meal. So I guess if she doesn't want to share then yeah an appetizer is good but you'll still need a box I think - never force yourself to eat more than you need. I also get that your a 6ft man and I am a 5'2ft woman. But hubby and I've shared meals and he never feels deprived of getting enough food.

In the beginning it was weird - like it was just mind thinking I'm hungry. Now if I feel hungry I drink some more water to see if it's that. I more feel like I try to prefuel myself if I'm going hiking - I try to eat the protein bar or drink a protein shake about 20ish minutes before I start. I have found for me if I am hiking over an hour or 2 by that second hour if I haven't eaten I feel weak. So I don't really get hungry while hiking but I get weak. I've started to feel hungry now a days but again I always make sure I check in with myself to make sure I'm truly hungry or if I just think I am. Head games - I think 🤔 my hunger is not as bad at all like before either. I use to be ravenous- HANGRY.

I share meals with my husband, maybe she'll share with you. Take a protein bar with you and sit with her. I understand eating out is the most social thing we do. But try not to eat FF, if you want fillers find protein bars you like and have one. Drinkable protein shakes, add a piece of cheese if it feels it's not enough. My husband always laughs because I always have "pocket cheese" 1 ounce tillamok cheddar squares with me everywhere (just in case i happen to get hungry) Or 1 mozzarella string cheese. Everyone just wants you to be successful- I have had Taco Bell - 1 taco bell supreme taco without shell and they put it in a bowl for me. I've tried to have 2 but never can finish it. I've had cheeseburger without bun from McDonald's as well. I ordered from kids menu from Red Robin had grilled chicken fingers (which was just cut up grilled chicken breast) Other than that I don't eat fast food. Out on the road there are so many protein shakes which will give you 30 grams of protein that are so much better as a lunch option. But if you don't think it will work for you, then it won't. Lasting life changes. I'm still only a year into this and I drink either protein water or protein collagen water every day as a meal. On my yearly check up which was 2 weeks ago surgeon was impressed with my blood work all levels great.

I don't know if it happened or not, I didn't weigh myself for the first 3 weeks after I left the hospital - you need to be focusing on protein, vitamins, fluids - water. I know I know you want to have lost weight - seems like you should have, but yes pumped full of fluids and you don't need to feel bloated to be retaining lots of water. Also, I'm pretty sure no bowel movements yet either? As other people have said it and I know easier said then done, get away from the scale. Also I suggest picking a day to weigh - for me I weigh every Tuesday because that was my surgery date. If I happen to step on a scale any other day then that day, I don't freak out if I am up or celebrate if I am down, those weights don't count. Also if you've looked at other posts on the forums, after about week 6-8 a stall that happens for most people. Or sometimes it's only .2 losses for a moment and that freaks people out too.

If you think 800 is too much for your body, right now then you should not do it. I get that she is the nutritionist but it's your body and no two bodies are alike. I wasn't anywhere near 800 calories one month out. I am almost at a year and some days still only hit 800. On days I have longer workouts I do hit 900-1,000 calories but I am almost at a year now. Most importantly how do you feel, I don't think you should feed yourself or force more on yourself than you need. Also no stretching your stomach, you need to really stop ✋ and listen to your body. Gosh I don't know how you get in 90 ounces of water, I struggle with that every day. Keep up the good work.

How's it going now? I feel like I am eating more but still staying under my calorie intake that is recommended- I try super hard to listen to my body. I try also to think 🤔 am I really hungry or am I thirsty.... Try maybe eating healthy snacks to help eat less calories. Do you think you're stretching your stomach? Is that why it's worrying you or are you going over your calorie allotment for the day too?

So walking I know it sounds so boring - is the best workout ever. But I think I was at least 8 weeks, I know I tried riding bike but it was too soon. I didn't ride my bike until like 10 weeks and felt confident I wouldn't hurt myself. Hiking like with incline and such wasn't for 12 weeks either. Yoga w/strength training happened closer to 16 weeks. I didn't want to injure myself as that was when Covid was not good here (which in hindsight sounds stupid because it's worse now) and I had no desire to go to doctors. I would just try what you want and stop if it actually feels like it hurts. Don't strain yourself or push yourself too hard, but yeah go get it GURL!

Not sure how much you were expecting to lose in in 2 weeks before surgery but that's 1.28 pounds per day. I lost like 4 pounds before my WLS - on a freaking liquid diet. I mean seriously how is that even possible?! But it is what it is, now after surgery I have "good" weeks of losses and what I consider a "bad" week with loss of nothing or .2 gain. Bodies are weird, there is no real "normal" because everyone is so different. Just stick with your program as best you can - I think you're going to do great if you lost 18 before surgery. Just omg don't weigh yourself right after surgery and getting home. They pump you full of fluids. I don't think I weighed myself for 3 full weeks after surgery.

Walk in nature for stress, especially by a beach or water (lake/river), you can try mediation, not sure when you had surgery but yoga 🧘‍♀️ Do fun things not involving food - paint rocks, watch a movie, put a puzzle together, listen to music and dance, ride bike.

I'm going to tell you why I think you stay active, carrying the extra weight that we have for how ever many years that we did is tiring. It also I think causes some self confidence issues for some. I find it so much easier/ so less taxing to say hike 4 miles. Then when I did it pre-surgery, because I weigh 80+ pounds less, which is huge. I can actually bend and do things with my body which I had never been able to do before. Maybe it's like that for you too. I'm constantly amazed at how much I can do and not be as tired as the week before.

Well I am at 7 months out from my surgery now. I think I am on track as I just passed 80 pounds lost mark. Hair is starting to thin 🥺 so guess I am going to be one of the stats of people who lost hair. I was hoping it wasn't going to be me, but what else can I do. My birthday is coming up and I am excited but also it's weird 2020 so not having a big party like normal. All partying will be virtual via zoom. One thing that has also happened is the shorts I bought 2 months ago at beginning of June are very baggy now and can almost just fall down by themselves- so I've had a super productive summer. Dang that's just crazy. Thrift stores around here aren't open and I wish they were so I could just shop for some properly fitting clothes in the interim sizes. I've been doing Yoga for the past 13 days every day, it's a 10 minute morning yoga challenge I found on Youtube and I really feel like I'm getting stronger by adding it to my workout routine. I feel like I am also stretching and becoming way more limber than before. What's new with everyone? How are things going in your journey? Got any new exercise routines you're doing, any new activities?

It's been 2 weeks, wondering how it's going for you.

Same right after surgery because of all the fluids they pump in - I gained weight too but with a week that plus more was gone.

Are you exercising? I held same 3-5 pounds for nearly 3 weeks, wasn't until 4 week of weighing in did I finally start losing and it seems melting off again. But I am exercising about an hour at least a day - walking, hiking, yoga (I can do freaking "some" yoga) biking. Oh and I finally found some pools I can swim in. Just wondering about the exercise component- but I say just keep on keeping and log everything at the time you eat and drink it.

Hey all it's August! Where are we all at in our journeys- our thread is hella dead 😂🤣 Well I myself don't come check in usually either, except every Tuesday on Weigh In days. Do you all have set weigh in days? I weigh in on surgery day, which was a Tuesday. Sometimes I'll step on the scale but I don't "log" it. I try not to make myself crazy though by putting so much pressure on my numbers. Life is good for me, this Covid thing has really thrown me into working out though. I hike a lot. I don't work so hiking or biking are the only things I really go out of the house for anymore. It's so nice being smaller for hiking - some of the trails I use to hike when I weighed 300 pounds and I'm like I was amazing for doing it. Because now it's so "easy" I've become one of "those" people who can carry on a conversation while hiking - I just hated those people before 🙄🤦‍♀️ My food intake is still strange. The other day I overate - I kind of knew it too. I didn't listen to myself and was like I can have 2 more bites, well NO - you can not have 2 more bites! Those 2 bites threw me into an awfulness I don't want to repeat. The 2 bites were vegetables, I have such a hard time getting in veggies, because I need my protein. Anyone having difficulty with finding the balance of still eating veggies? Anyway would love to know how everyone is doing heading into this 7th month. Are you loving your "new" improved Life?

👀 You're looking GREAT! I am so glad you feel better too.

I on average stay under 800 and between 65-80 grams protein daily. But I am also not losing at fast as you, I wasn't having enough stamina for hiking when I was at 600ish calories, like physically felt like I couldn't go further and make it back, so I just upped it. Now when I am hiking I don't feel completely exhausted before the end. I saw my doctor for my check up and he seemed please with my loss so far and he was fine with my calorie intake. I think it all depends on how you personally feel too, never pushing yourself to eat more just to ear more. IDK

Wow I commend you for trying CrossFit but yeah, that's cray insane for just starting out. Like others definitely try walking, a little jogging, hiking with hills, Tennis, biking, Ujam, Zumba, Dancing. Weights at home are easy hand weights are inexpensive or sometimes you can get them for free on Craigslist, FaceBook Marketplace or Freecycle (sorry not sure where you live) so which resources are good for you to look for weights for cheap. There are a ton of Youtube videos showing different hand weight exercises. Squats, Lunges, are super helpful as well. Oh I almost forgot Yoga 🧘‍♀️ I know it sounds "cheesy" but it really helps with stretching and flexibility while building your muscles. Like what Winston said up there build up your endurance, cardio, and stamina before trying Crossfit or any super physical activity again. You did not fail, just need to start out at an activity level more in tune with your fitness currently. Good Luck 🍀 👍 You can do this.

I think you are eating a lot of carbs which are making you hungry - I mean beans, brown rices, egg muffin (is there a muffin involved) I would try and see if maybe upping your protein intake, and lowering your carbohydrates intake helps satiate you. Also how many calories a day are you aiming for, I guess if the dietitian thinks it's fine it is but like what you're eating seems like low calories 🤷🏼‍♀️ especially since you workout twice a day. I don't think snacking is huge problem if you are having healthy snacks within your daily calorie/carb/protein plan either. But always need to decide is this just because I'm bored or because I'm truly hungry. I myself get hungry which I was hoping would not be the case, I was hoping the feeling of being hungry was going to go away for longer.

Wow, you weren't on pain meds? Guess you're a mom with kids - pain means nothing 🤗😂

Omg just tell them if they ask low carb and calorie restriction and exercise all of which will be true. If you even have to say anything at all. It's no ones business but gosh that sounds awful.

Yep, I can't eat chicken 🍗 🐔 🐓 either. So far steak and most other types of meat have been fine. You'll be down those 7 pounds soon. Congratulations 🎉 🎈 🍾

Oh ok Friday! You got this Good Luck 🍀 and know we're rooting for you. Take advantage of the pain meds to get up and walk as soon as you can. Walking all the air they put into you before going home. Make sure you have all your pills you'll need at home to stay comfortable. Don't push yourself to do too much too fast. Stick to your surgeons instructions. They're not mean they're trying to help you so there are no complications. Be patient with yourself. New normal is weird. If your surgeon is like mine he wants you to have best possible outcome (then his numbers look good too) 😂 You go GIRL! 👏🏻 🎉