I know people think you are trying to psych yourself out but my surgery is 2/13 and I have a nervous breakdown every night over potential complications. I have 2 little kids (5 and 3) and the idea of leaving them is unimaginable and stressful. Totally an understandable concern. I am not worried as much about complications that can be fix but instead of those that can’t that lead to death and those people aren’t here to report their outcome.