Hey Anne. Like a few have said you have taken the step for weight loss surgery which in my eyes is a positive, because you are actually addressing the issue and wanting to deal with it. I was also pushed for bypass...and i think the reason like you said was lack of understanding from the doctors. I think the UK needs to catch up with teh USA in terms of weight loss surgery (in my opinion). The doctor saw my bmi in the 50's (56.5) and immeadiatly said, banding would be a waste of money and his time, and that i would fail. He said bypass was the only route for me....which i totally disagree. So im now going private to get banded, which suits me fine.
To cut a long story short, only you can make the decision to get banded, but personally for me it one of the best choices i have ever made, i wish i would of know about it earlier, prob would of saved me getting to nearly 400lbs.
Good luck, let us know how you get on
xx