Neat idea for a thread. I too, am "A lady in waiting," for my surgical date that is. Been approved by the insurance and I feel I am almost obsessed with getting this done. I am on three message boards and call my doc's office everyday waiting for them to call me back with a date.
Fears? Ummmm ... my biggest fear is that I won't lose the weight I need to. Fear of dyng? Not too much, I think when it's our time, it's our time. I am 58 and have had a good life, not that I want to leave but I am willing to take whatever risks there are to lose the weight. The payoff is worth the risks to me. I had bylateral knee repalcements 4 years ago and have many more problems with mobility than before. Weight has been a contributing factor and the knees have caused even more weight gain.
I have been reading threads about how co-workers and freinds can be pretty mean. I think I have decided not to say anything for awhile. Once I lose a substantial amount I will probably say something.