Abby (love that title, by the way - my hubby and I quote it frequently) I am in the same boat you are! I feel EXACTLY THE SAME. AS YOU! I am reading all of these posts from post-banders and it seems like they aren't "fat like me", they are the "thin types" I am hearing how fitness and energy and eating right changed their life - then maybe they are just "those types" of people - of which I am not! I am confused because no one really ever says - "WOW, this band put a stop to all my overeating" - which is why in the hell I am getting it - they say - "I changed, or my eating habits had to change, or I had to do the work" - all rhetoric of Weight Watchers or weight loss gurus - things I have never been able to identify with. If these folks changed so drastically - where does the band really fit in? And it seems that the post-banders view the pre-banders as "unenlightened thinkers" about food and we need to develop a new way of eating and viewing food - but that is the problem in the first place. No one seems to attribute the weight loss and change to the band, but to their habits and will power (which is all you have pre-op and for maybe several months post-op). I don't get it and I keep thinking - weren't these people all as fat and out of control as me?????????