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I understand about the "friend" comment. I have been fat for about 8 years now, and before that, I was always in shape and at the proper weight, so ever since I have known this particular friend, I have been the "fat friend". SHE could stand to lose a good 30 lbs herself. She has large bone structure, so even if we were both at our ideal weights, she'd be bigger than me. Well, I was talking to her about the surgery a couple of weeks ago, and she had the nerve to say to me, "if you get smaller than me, I'm gonna get pissed". For a moment the comment hurt my feelings, then I thought screw her and her jealousy, so I said to her, "prepare to be pissed because I WILL be smaller than you, I'm made smaller than you, and I will get smaller than you and you can be MY fat friend". That shut her up.

Last summer I decided to take my then 6 yr old son to the county fair. They had the ride where it slowly takes you up and then drops you. Well, he wasn't having anything to do with it, so, even though I didn't want to get on, I thought if he saw how brave mommy was and that I didn't get hurt, he would do it. I got in line and when it was my turn I climbed up on the LITTLE seat and then the operator came around to lock everyone in, when he got to me (the biggest person on the ride), he had to fight with the ride and kept shoving the contraption into my stomach and kept muttering under his breath, "you're too big, not gonna work". I was humiliated, but I sucked my stomach in as far as I could-I wasn't fixin to be kicked off this ride in front of everyone in this small town. It finally clicked, but I was in so much pain and got scared cause I could barely take a breath, but I did it and it impressed my son, I told myself that I would never let that happen to me again, I refuse to not be able to fit places that everyone else can. Unfortunately, I'm still big this summer, so I think I'll let his daddy do most of the rides and I'll just cheer him on to avoid humiliation.

I just got home from my psych eval and the psychologist told me I passed with flying colors. I am so excited! She was able to see that I was being honest and that I was well informed up to this point. That was MY first major step and I know I've got other hurdles to jump over, but this was a big thing that could make or break me. I know I still have to get through insurance and the surgeon, but honestly, with the program I'm in, those two shouldn't be much of a problem either. I'm siked! Can't stop smiling! :thumbup:

Congratulations! I can't wait to be where you are. I just have a couple more hurdles til I am. Looking forward to jumping them.

I was terrified, but I was just honest and answered the questions with my true feelings and even though I couldn't tell the whole session what the outcome was, she told me at the end. I'm not gonna tell you its nothing to be nervous about, but but I will tell you it will turn out fine. I'm backwards from you, I still have to wait for the surgeon to get her letter and meet with him, so I'm scared cause he can reverse what she thinks. Good luck and congratulations for making it this far. :sad:

Thank you, All support is sooo appreciated.

I would like to get some info from ya'll on smoking and lap band. I have been a regular smoker for 7 years...since I had my son. However, I want this surgery sooo bad that 3 days ago, being a smoker of 1 1/2 paks a day, I start my day with 10 cigarettes in my pack and that is all that I'm allowed. I'm doing great with that, in 2 more days, I'm gonna take it down to 8/day...so on and so forth. I have been told that my particular surgeon wants his patients smoke free for at least 3 full months before surgery. That SHOULD be enough time for me, unless I have a set back. What has everyone else been told about smoking and surgery? Stephanie

Thank you all for your support, it is ALL appreciated! :biggrin2:

Thank you for being real with me. No one else has told me the scarey truth about the anesthesia issue until you did. I want to be thin! Bye Bye cigarettes!

Hello everyone. I'm new to this site. I'm just starting the process. I have gotten a thumbs up from all my doctors and my dietician, but I haven't met with the surgeon yet. However, I have my psych evaluation on Monday the 26th. I'm really worried that I'll be paying $200 out of pocket to see this woman and she'll say no. Everyone else feels that I'm in this for the right reasons and I KNOW I am, but this lady can make or break me from just one session. Any advice? :crying: